To all the men, I have a serious question

Caribbean Character · Dec 6, 2013

I'm lucky, my wife has 2 Master's degrees and is director of student counseling at our college. She PUSHES me to spend all my time studying and doing homework.

DatMurse · Dec 7, 2013

Because you know what it feels like to go through nursing school. Do you have a significant other that supports the time that it takes? If you were the sIgnIfIcant other of a partner who was In nursIng school, do you think you would be able to support them emotionally? Would you be as understanding as you want someone to be to you right now? Do you believe Loyalty of your partner plays a big factor while your in nursing school?

My ex girlfriend left me for a working ADN-RN when I was going to school to get my BSN degree.

It was 2 months in and I am 7 days left to graduate. It is nice to have someone to lean on, but at the same time I can imagine they would be a hassle sometimes.

**NICU Guy, BSN, RN** · Dec 7, 2013

As long as I buy her dark chocolate when I can't spend much time with my girlfriend, she is a happy camper.

On_a_mission92 · Dec 7, 2013

interesting question hard to hold a relationship while in nursing school i ve noticed lol

barcode120x, RN, NP · Dec 7, 2013

No significant other for me, just close friends and my bro. I sometimes wish I did have a GF to lean on to, but sometimes I'm glad I don't because I don't think she would understand what I'm going through (unless shes healthcare related). My classmates sometimes tell me that their significant other or spouse sometimes drives them nuts because they don't understand what nursing school is.

Some day I will have one! Haha

TU RN, DNP, CRNA · Dec 8, 2013

I met my girlfriend at the beginning of nursing school over two years ago and I truly believe I wouldn't have been able to finish without her, and she without me. We relied on each other academically when we had to study and do projects, and mentally when it got tough. We passed nursing school together, graduated together, passed boards on the same day, and are now both hired - her in the ER and me in stepdown. We continue to vent to each other about how our first year (the hell year) is going. If by support you meant financial support I can't help you because we are also both in student loan debt

gonzalal · Dec 17, 2013

I can't believe someone has the time to cheat in a relationship while in nursing school. Being married, part time job, two kids and full time student... Can't even keep up with all my reading assignments

Guests · Dec 20, 2013

For awhile, my spouse made nursing school easier... for awhile.

Later, my spouse decided to leave me... which created enormous difficulties, as you can imagine.

I only made it through nursing school because I had a very supportive instructor who helped me out by being careful in my clinical assignments and cutting me a little slack when I needed it.

carefulcare · Dec 20, 2013

a roller coaster ride is a good way to put it. I don't know what to do. Try thanking them a bit more I guess. I actually tried giving more time to the family earlier this semester and what happened? My grades fell...I'm not talking C's I could live with that, I mean I started outright failing classes. So its like having to choose between school or the family.

The same for me. There has to be a sacrifice and it comes down to family time for my kids and husband. I could've done stellar this semester but I was choosing more family time instead of study time. My grades suffered and made things rocky.

carefulcare · Dec 20, 2013

This is great. My partner started out this way but it did not last long. He gave me more stress. Headaches, and heartache than anything. But with less than 17 days to go, and gods help. .. I will be graduating :)

There is light at the end of the tunnel! Thank you. I

gselsidi · Dec 20, 2013

I came to the realization that, I work 32 hours a week, I go to school full time, I have to study, their is not enough time in the day. I'm not crazy (like I thought I was at first:) ). I am not asking for much to better our future. I am one motivated female and I love that about me. If he can't love my ambition and drive, then he can't possible love me. Before I started and on my break I gave 101%. I don't deserve this. And won't forget the treatment I received!!!!!

My gf of 8 years fights with me sometimes especially since I'm going to be working and going to school, but at the end she seems supportive. I know the resentmenf that can build up, but keep praying God always leads us to the best possible outcomes, and if he didn't want us to be with this person at this specific time we wouldn't be. No some people might not deserve us, but just like we don't deserve God's grace and salvation either.

He never gives us more than we can handle, and even when sometimes you seem to reach the breaking point you still manage to come out perfectly fine and stronger. Usually all these problems happen because people don't have a relationship with God as they should and they become selfish.

If your not married and there's seems like there is no hope on the horizon for them to start acting like a god loving human being, than you might want to leave. We're not commanded to stay for the sake of them. Again pray and I'm sure he will lead you in the right path. I see his power daily in my life, just have faith in him, and in him I mean Jesus.

Good Luck

zzbxdo · Dec 22, 2013

Funny, the reverse threads the ladies are usually like "dump that no good dB!!" It's cool, go for it, it will only get greener when you start working if you'd like it to be. Double standards are rough, but if you're unhappy and they're making school harder, get rid of them. Freedom lies once you pass your nclex and work haha.