sorry i am a novice and nothing but a thorn in your flesh...i promise, i'll learn fast.
sorry that i make your day seem so long and bleak...i'm in your way, so i don't miss a thing
sorry that i think you're being mean to me...because you are. perception is reality.
sorry that all my questions make you want to tear your hair out...i seek only to understand
sorry that beneath all that swag i carry, you fail to see it for what it truly is- fear!
sheer fear at the amount of learning that i have to go through...
sheer fear at the thought of making a mistake..no matter how little...
sheer fear that nursing school experience even with all the stressors did not prepare me for this...
it is nothing compared to this...being on the floor on your own with no preceptor as a buffer.
fear that i would be laughed at and ridiculed..( oh don't think that i don't notice it when you do that to my fellow novice nurses....yes, sometimes to your colleagues too).
the same fear is what hinges on me that when you tell me to connect the dots, i fail to see it,
even when it is right in front of me...
and when you tell me to see the big picture, i try ...truly i do...it's just overshadowed by the little pieces i see
with the passage of time and a wealth of experience later, you forgot a vital component- you were once like me, a novice.
dear experienced nurse,
i finally realise something,
someday, i will be like you,
someday, i will have that experience..
someday, i will become an expert...
nursing school did prepare me for this...i just had to reach deep to find it.
the difference between us? i will remember how it was being a novice.
signed,
kt5
([color=lemonchiffon]could not sleep...trying out my poetry).
I wouldn't say that "what you say here is the *truth*"....I would say that what you say here is your OPINION. Why must someone else stay "silent" if it bothers them? Kind of defeats the purpose of a forum, does it not?
Your mom taught you to "stand up for yourself against people like Ruby? Please. She is stating the truth as she sees it, just like you are. You're making Ruby a target, for whatever reason. In the time that I've been here, I've found Ruby to be a very intelligent nurse/poster. YOU may be the one to benefit from "staying silent" and learning another truth.
I accept that as your opinion just as I am entitled to mine
nor have i forgotten what it's like to be a new grad. further, i realize that my examples are not limited to the new grads. however the point i was responding to was the idea that if a new grad fails to make it as a nurse, the fault is in the precepting, or because she's been bullied or anything except that the new grad just wasn't cutting it. the fault isn't always the preceptor who is a poor teacher, the co-workers who are bullies or the atmosphere that wasn't nurturing enough. i realize that mine is not a popular viewpoint on this thread or even on this board, but sometimes a new grad doesn't make it because they don't have the right stuff, they're not paying attention, their work ethic sucks, they're only marking time until anesthesia school and they just don't care about the icu or a myriad of other reasons that have nothing to do with anyone except that particular new grad. i'm not saying that is always the case or even often the case. but i think far too many new grads who aren't doing well in their new jobs are quick to blame everyone and everything except themselves, and slow to do any self-examination and self-assessment.
agree.
we recently let a cna go, who had previously worked in dietary before becoming a cna. her first cna preceptor dropped the ball a bit, true...but the new cna's situation did not change after that situation was remedied. nine weeks of orientation later, it was obvious to all it wasn't going to work out. what does the cna blame? yup, her 'lack of precepting.' after nine weeks of being on orientation as a cna, the problem couldn't possibly be her. *eye roll*
"As I said?" In quotes? Like I didn't really say it?
At least now you're actually calling it an opinion, rather than fact ("truth").
Well I guess you are right everyone here has given THEIR opinion not a stated truth---after all thats what a forum is for and I didn't feel like I was making anyone a target just stating my opinion thats all
Workplace dynamics might be covered in a leadership ccourse, but I'm envisioning a class that would teach students practical things about just being a person, an employee, a co-worker, a family member. Leadership is a worthy goal, but more people will be followers than leaders and even leaders follow someone else.
It would be nice to give students a heads-up about how to assess and manage differences in personality, how to do a self-assessment, how to disagree with another person or bring up a problem without flying off the handle, how to accept criticism. I'd love to have everyone in the class take an inventory on how defensive they are, how realistic their own self-image is, how teachable they are.
This course would include a segment on "office politics" and how to navigate those rocky waters. Also, sticking up for yourself, venting and practicing good boundaries.
I'd throw scenarios at people to see how quickly they think on their feet. And I'd have them role play being a preceptor with a "difficult" student.
I'm sure you guys can think of other things that ought to be included. I'd call the course, "Becoming a Nurse in the Real World." And for the seasoned nurses, "Maintaining at Least a Molecule of Sanity One Shift at a Time."
Workplace dynamics might be covered in a leadership ccourse, but I'm envisioning a class that would teach students practical things about just being a person, an employee, a co-worker, a family member. Leadership is a worthy goal, but more people will be followers than leaders and even leaders follow someone else.
It would be nice to give students a heads-up about how to assess and manage differences in personality, how to do a self-assessment, how to disagree with another person or bring up a problem without flying off the handle, how to accept criticism. I'd love to have everyone in the class take an inventory on how defensive they are, how realistic their own self-image is, how teachable they are.
This course would include a segment on "office politics" and how to navigate those rocky waters. Also, sticking up for yourself, venting and practicing good boundaries.
I'd throw scenarios at people to see how quickly they think on their feet. And I'd have them role play being a preceptor with a "difficult" student.
I'm sure you guys can think of other things that ought to be included. I'd call the course, "Becoming a Nurse in the Real World." And for the seasoned nurses, "Maintaining at Least a Molecule of Sanity One Shift at a Time."
I think this is a GREAT idea and would be extremely helpful for the new nurses!!!!!
YES YES this is so good. Also included would be a video camera and the scenarios could be videotaped so we could see ourselves as others see us. I am guilty of coming across one way when I mean something to sound a certain way, and it puts people off. I work on this all the time. It is a hard thing and as nurses we always think we are right haha so imagine how that comes across !
I like the video camera idea. Many times in this forum someone has expressed frustration when they were criticized for acting angry or disinterested or even too cheerful and it shocked them because they didn't feel that way at all. There can be a real disconnect between the inside and the outside and how would you know if no one told you about it or you could see it for yourself?
We've had posters who were told they were too loud or too aggressive or too soft-spoken. Video taping would give some much-needed feedback with this kind of problem, too.
YES YES this is so good. Also included would be a video camera and the scenarios could be videotaped so we could see ourselves as others see us. I am guilty of coming across one way when I mean something to sound a certain way, and it puts people off. I work on this all the time. It is a hard thing and as nurses we always think we are right haha so imagine how that comes across !
I agree I am the same way and it is a constant everyday thing especially if I am becoming overwhelmed at work but I do consistently work on it and feel even tho there is always room for improvement I am doing better but then again nursing I found is an everyday learning experience and when "we" as nursing quit learning then its time to find another job (and I am talking to nursing as a whole)
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workplace dynamics might be covered in a leadership ccourse, but i'm envisioning a class that would teach students practical things about just being a person, an employee, a co-worker, a family member. leadership is a worthy goal, but more people will be followers than leaders and even leaders follow someone else.
it would be nice to give students a heads-up about how to assess and manage differences in personality, how to do a self-assessment, how to disagree with another person or bring up a problem without flying off the handle, how to accept criticism. i'd love to have everyone in the class take an inventory on how defensive they are, how realistic their own self-image is, how teachable they are.
this course would include a segment on "office politics" and how to navigate those rocky waters. also, sticking up for yourself, venting and practicing good boundaries.
i'd throw scenarios at people to see how quickly they think on their feet. and i'd have them role play being a preceptor with a "difficult" student.
i'm sure you guys can think of other things that ought to be included. i'd call the course, "becoming a nurse in the real world." and for the seasoned nurses, "maintaining at least a molecule of sanity one shift at a time."
all of us would benefit from a class like that. either class.
NurseAdida
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In my School it was called... Socialization: Introduction to Professional Nursing