Time for a therapist?

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Hello, apologies if this thread is not where it’s supposed to be.

Robin Williams once said, “I think the saddest people always try their hardest to make people happy. Because they know what it's like to feel absolutely worthless and they don't want anybody else to feel like that.”

Few days ago, I just realized this quote really applies to me. At work or hanging out with friends I am always happy, making them laugh. My coworkers always tell me I am always positive, an individual who has the right attitude but deep inside I am just miserable. From education to work and relationship has been a *** show. I feel like whatever I do, I cannot win in life. I have not discussed things with my parents or anyone else. I just don’t know. Sometimes I just lie just to satisfy them because people just keep asking me questions about this and that non stop.

I graduated, searched for jobs so few months, lost hope. Finally last month a LTC hired me. At first I was so happy but after my first shift I do not enjoy nursing. Maybe because I am new? I don’t feel confident/comfortable to new environment. I keep getting text messages to work for shifts because I am a casual but I am scared.

I don’t know what to do.

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Specializes in CCU, SICU, CVSICU, Precepting & Teaching.

After ONE shift you do not enjoy nursing? NO ONE enjoys their job after one shift. One shift just reminds you how much you don't know, and all of those strangers -- how are you going to know who you can look to when you have questions?

If you're questioning whether it's time for therapy, it is definitely time for therapy. Please do yourself a favor and make an appointment as soon as possible.

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I came to the conclusion you could probably benefit from therapy before you said anything about your first day in nursing. Please take RV’s advice. It can’t hurt.

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I agree with both of the previous posters.

It's not healthy to hold all your emotions inside & always deal with things on your own. It sounds like therapy would be a good thing for you!

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Hi guys,

Thank you for the replies. Sorry for not replying on time. I am feeling better now. I have not spoken to therapy because I feel like it won't be genuine talk since i'll be paying to see them? If anyone has experience with a therapist and don't mind sharing it, how was it? Did you need a doctor referral?

As for my nursing job, I am feeling bit comfortable and started to pick up more shifts (only night shifts) but I still ask so many questions (yes even simple ones).

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Specializes in Psych, Corrections, Med-Surg, Ambulatory.

You will get more comfortable doing the job the longer you do it.

When seeing a therapist, it should be like seeing your doctor, only more in depth for mental/emotional issues. So of course once you've developed a rapport with that person, you should feel free to be candid.

Yes, I did briefly see a therapist when I was going through a divorce. She was highly recommended and I wanted some clarity and direction. However, she intended to become my personal guru and wanted me to call her before making any decision, big or small. No, thanks. I ended it at that point and made it through with self-help books.

The moral of this story is that therapists can be very helpful in sorting things out, but if something feels off to you, trust your own gut.

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