Those parents who believe everything their kids say

[MHDNURSE]

I get wanting to believe your kid, but I also know as a parent, that 99% of the time, you are NOT getting the full story.

I got an angry call from a mother of a first grader I saw yesterday, asking why I didn't call her yesterday to tell her that her snowflake had a fever. Apparently when she got picked up from her after school program at 6:00 pm (I saw her at 11:20 am) she had a fever of 103. I pull up my note from yesterday and say "because she did not have a fever yesterday. If she had a fever I would have sent her home". So mom says "She told me she came to see you yesterday and you told her she had a fever and sent her back to class". So I read her the end of my note out loud "Allowed student to sleep for 30 minutes and re-checked temp- 99.2. Student stated she feels better so sent her back to class". Mom was silent after that

Edited to add that I also made sure mom understands that a fever is anything over 100.4 at our school, in case she mistakenly thought the 99.2 was a fever.

[Flare, ASN, BSN]

Peanut butter and jelly is banned in the schools entirely for all kids here! I just think we are starting generations that aren't going to be self reliant.

I love the "snowflake" analogy. It can never be snowflake's fault/responsibility, or snowflakes impeccable parenting!

I am fighting that fight right now. We are not peanut free. One parent is on a crusade for us to become peanut free. I'd be fine with us splitting the difference and the cafeteria not serving it, but the kid still being allowed to bring it. For my socioeconomical student population, it's a staple food. Much of my student population relies on SNAP. And while yes, they would qualify for free / reduced school lunch, they may choose to bring for one reason or another. Where does the controversy take us if we then throw away a child's school lunch to provide them with something they won't eat? The peanut free table has served my school well, We're adding another level of promoting extra santization methods in addition by providing hand wipes, but I can't force kids to use them. But look at me... i've gone off on a tangent again.

[kakamegamama]

I was going to put on my sarcasm hat to answer this, but decided...what the heck, it's the holidays. We are all WELL aware of the fact that an allergic person doesn't have to eat their allergen. It's not our first days (oops...a little bit snuck out there). The problem I have with allergy tables is that it gives kids somewhat of a false sense of security. Yes, I'll protect them as much as I can when they're here. But they need to learn to manage their allergy and protect and advocate for themselves. The world is not allergen free.

Oh, I agree that kids need to learn to manage their allergies, etc. And, comments made by many do not seem to reflect that some are not in their "first days" and are "WELL aware that an allergic person doesn't have to eat their allergen." School should be a safe place for these kids, combined with helping them learn to manage their allergies. My 6 year old grandson who is highly allergic to pineapple and eggs knows he is not supposed to eat either, and is learning to tell us/others that he cannot. However, he is not always aware when those are present.

[kakamegamama]

"Snowflake" refers to the way the mother treats the child. MY child is SO perfect, SO delicate, SO unique that you cannot possibly understand MY child's special nature. He/She/They doesn't begin to compare to any other children you have cared for or anything you learned in Growth and Development.

I wish we could send parent to Drowth and Development to understand that if kids were all-knowing, all-accurately remembering, and all-understanding of nuance, then they wouldn't even need an education.

The OP called the child the snowflake.

[CanIcallmymom, BSN, RN]

The OP called the child the snowflake.

She called the child "her snowflake" as in the parent's snowflake...