Firstly, an announcement. In 2 months and 11 days I will graduate with a Master's degree and be on my way to sit for my NP boards. WHEEEEEE!!!
And now, for something completely different.
I have a riding buddy for school, purely to save gas. I went into this arrangement with no small amount of apprehension, after what happened with my last riding buddy.
This new lady is in her 50's, has been a nurse for a year, and yet refuses to take the slightest bit of responsibility for herself. Our poor prof has had to find her preceptors up until and including this semester, if I am not mistaken. When we signed up for presentation topics this semester, Hillary (our prof) said to the class, "Now, I'm going to let Diana sign up first, since she said she had to go last last semester".
OMG!!! Please!!!!! A Master's level student, and you whine to the prof because you had to go LAST?!?!?!?!
This is not my vent.
My vent is this. We graduate in 2 months. We were given our graduation applications at the beginning of the semester, filled them out, handed them to Hillary, who had the dean sign them and returned them to us. We were responsible for taking them to the student affairs office and paying our fee.
Yesterday was grad finale, where we get our caps and gowns. A group of us went over, Diana included, and we were going to meet afterward and eat. Diana shows up about 20 minutes after the rest of us, madder than a hornet, and says that they did not have her set to graduate and made her pay again. After lunch, she went and reamed Hillary for "not turning in her graduation application". (Remember, it was OUR responsibility). Hillary apparently told her this, so Diana moved on to a classmate, Brandy, and accused her of not turning her app in, "I gave it to you to turn in!!!"
Brandy was a lot nicer than I would have been,"Do I owe you $20?"
Diana is so out of it that she can't get words out, and she opens her binder. There at the front was her graduation app. I pointed to it.
"There it is, Diana. You never turned it in."
She just stood there. So, never being one to keep my mouth shut, I piped up again,
"I'm sorry, Brandy".
She did recover enough to apologize, but, dear HEAVEN, what gall!
What do y'all think about someone like this? She also expects me to find her a job, asks me every time I see her, "Have they said anything yet?" Has not applied, has not had an interview, no site visit, nothing, wants me to do it all. I flat out refused, but I wonder if I should feel bad. Any advice? Thanks.
I'd say, how about a family member loan you some gas money for the next couple of months?
This woman is obviously getting to you.
There are some pretty good answers in this thread, we all know someone who will always fault others for their own shortcomings. Don't find her a job, don't give her a reference either. Don't have your name connected with hers.
Specializes in med-surg, psych, ER, school nurse-CRNP.
Oh, it is not just me. After the dust-up yeaterday, when other students found out she was my riding buddy, each and every one of them stopped to offer condolences! If it was not so true it would have been hilarious. However, we have only one more class, and I think I can stand it. I will not be finding her a job. That has been made clear. She has hinted at trying to get the ER NP job that I want and I have told her in no uncertain terms that I will beat anyone out of my way for that job. I am giving her pointers as to where to look, in counties that are far from where I will be. I just wondered I maybe I was not being too hard. I have a tendency to say exactly what i think and to heck with hurting feelings. Looks like I was right in this instance. Thanks!
Not that I think this is the case with you, Angelfire, but once when I was toward the end of my clinicals for nursing school, I had said something to another nursing student. It was about some papers that I had set down and then I turned around and they were gone. Just GONE nowhere in sight. I was concerned as there was patient information on some of these papers. There happened to be another nursing student right beside me (I'll call her 'Ann') and all I said was, "Where did those papers go? They were right here? Did you see if someone took them?" She said no and I started looking for them. (I found them in a residents hands with a patient's chart - how it got there ... He must have grabbed it all together off of the counter.) About 10 minutes after asking the nursing student if she had seen where the papers went, one of the other students came up to me and asked why I started yelling at 'Ann'. I said, "what on earth are you talking about?" Well, apparently 'Ann' had told everyone that I accused her of taking my papers and that I was very threatening to her. When I saw her later and tried talking to her she started bawling and ran away. I was totally baffled by this whole scenerio. Nursing instructors spoke to me about my behavior - which none of them were around to see - and it turned into a big deal.
Interestingly enough, 2weeks later, 'Ann' met with the instructors again about some health issues she was having. After that meeting, the instructor pulled me into the office and apologized for the events in the previous 2 weeks. Apparently, 'Ann' had some thyroid problems that was making HER very volitile and emotional.
At any rate, maybe somethings are a little 'off' in some people whether it be stress affecting thoughts or something else. Usually we don't know what goes on in someones personal life.
That being said... There truly are some psych issues...
Keep a lilopop in your pocket and the next time she asks you something hand it to her..........I didn't even let my 5 year old get away with this stuff. Here's my favorite line for the irresponsible in life
"Poor planning on your part does not equate an emergency on mine!"
StNeotser, ASN, RN
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I'd say, how about a family member loan you some gas money for the next couple of months?
This woman is obviously getting to you.
There are some pretty good answers in this thread, we all know someone who will always fault others for their own shortcomings. Don't find her a job, don't give her a reference either. Don't have your name connected with hers.