hello everyone. as anyone in the breakroom knows, my grandma passed away this past monday. (to the mods, if this inappropriate here, please move this.)my kids are relatively young. my dd is 6, and my son is 4.5. they both knew my grandma well (their great-grandma) and especially my dd wanted to visit her often. and we did go to the NH often. however, after i got sick with Ca, I hadn't been to visit in a while. anyways, i'm having a hard time explaining this to them. my dd is sullen and sad and i don't know if she comprehends what i'm telling her. she did cry immediately when i told her. however, other people (namely my parents and some close friends) keep telling her she was "very sick" and that's why she died. well, that's also what my family tells her about me. (when i am too sick from chemo and can't care for the kids, they explain to them that "she's very sick"). so now my dd thinks i am going to die and is having a hard time in school, etc. my son is not acting out of the ordinary at all. i don't know if he comprehends it. sorry that was way long. i don't know how to explain this to them. my kids do go to church and they can both talk about jesus and heaven, etc. i was just wondering if anyone had any advice on how they've maybe broken this kind of news to their own children, etc. i tried the library for books on grief for kids, but can't find any. i ordered some on amazon, haven't gotten them yet. so, if anyone can help me or point me in a direction that would help, i would appreciate it.so far i've just been honest to the questions, but some are so blunt. my dd esp is very emotional about things and gets worked up easily.and THANK YOU to all the thoughts and prayers those of you posted to my other thread. they really helped. more than you'll ever know.(sorry mods if i shouldn't have posted here).