Students are cut-throat!

Feels Like JD · Oct 4, 2008

That sucks. My clinical/lecture groups have formed into cliques as well but it's mainly a function of who you sit closest to in a class of 70. During breaks everyone to my knowledge is cordial and friendly. That's not to say that a few people have been identified as being annoying (something that comes out of any large gathering) but as a whole I'd like to think we have each others backs for things like lecture notes and stuff.

livenlearn08 · Oct 4, 2008

That sucks. My clinical/lecture groups have formed into cliques as well but it's mainly a function of who you sit closest to in a class of 70. During breaks everyone to my knowledge is cordial and friendly. That's not to say that a few people have been identified as being annoying (something that comes out of any large gathering) but as a whole I'd like to think we have each others backs for things like lecture notes and stuff.

I'm envious!

dunosportz · Oct 4, 2008

You just need to remember not to reduce yourself to that level. Hold your head up and put your chest out. You need to surround yourself with study mates that are not there to eat their young....remember you are there to learn but you do not need to feel isolated or alone. Hang in there.

vastudent09 · Oct 4, 2008

i am in my final year of 4 includin pre reqs. anyway, so i ahve been with th emajority of our group for that whole time. I know exactly what you are talking about. there are only 46 left and we started with 100. there are cliques all over, and it is definitly like being in high school again. there is talking behind peoples backs, rude comments to their face, rumors, nasty emials, ect. all i try and do is be as friendly as i can to everyone, and just ignore most of it. but it wears you down the longer it goes on, so be strong!!

Daytonite, BSN, RN · Oct 4, 2008

i swear, i am going to write a book about these kind of people and expect it to make me rich for all the trouble these kind of people have caused me. i don't think its that typical, but pockets of them do seem to crop up. please stay the nice person that you are. you will sleep better for it, believe me. hang out with the others who also feel isolated--then you won't feel so isolated and excluded! i promise, one by one these snotty, cliquish people will get their comeuppance. karma has a way of extracting payback at its own time and pace. your job for now--learn nursing and forget about these troublemakers. if you let them distract you from your study of nursing, then you have let them succeed in getting you dropped from whatever competition they've dreamed up you are all in. you don't want that, do you? i don't have an avatar to go with my screen name, but i have been called a turtle by my close friends for several reasons: (1) in their culture it means good luck and i have a lot of luck around me that extends to the people around me, and (2) in the story of the turtle and the hare, the turtle wins the race because he works at a steady pace and isn't bothered by the hare who is not only faster but brags and taunts him about it (there's a message there). good luck with your studies!

MIC! · Oct 5, 2008

I start clinicals in January. I've experienced this already, too. A lot of whispering about a certain individuals progress in the program. And who is going to make the clinical list along with who is cheating on their exams, etc. This happens when you have hundreds competing for limited seats in a program that is *cough* cough* majority female. :argue: Sorry somebody had to say it.

coolpeach · Oct 5, 2008

I am in my 7th week, and I have noticed everyone has formed their groups. There are 40 of use total, and we were seperated into two groups of 20 for our labs, and then our 20 was seperated into two groups of 10 for clincals. Most groups are formed within the clinical 10, and by who's in your study group.

I do have my group, but I try not to be to do it to the exclusion of others. I get to know others when I go out to smoke, during open lab, and activities outside of class. I also try not to talk about others in a snotty way. If things are being said I try not to get involved in the conversation or change the subject.

For my program its important to remember that in Jan everyone will be switched around. Everyone will be redistributed into two new groups of 20, and those 20 into two new groups of 10. We will do this every semester so you group now will not necessarily be your group next semester. Not to mention who knows how many will have dropped or failed out by mid program. As my dad always told me you never want to burn bridges that you one day might have to cross.

AmericanRN · Oct 5, 2008

I start clinicals in January. I've experienced this already, too. A lot of whispering about a certain individuals progress in the program. And who is going to make the clinical list along with who is cheating on their exams, etc. This happens when you have hundreds competing for limited seats in a program that is *cough* cough* majority female. :argue: Sorry somebody had to say it.

The females gossip thing has come up before on this board. I'm a female nursing student too but I've worked in male dominated fields my whole life. Anyone who thinks males can't be catty and cut throat in equal numbers is inexperienced with certain types of men.

Work in law enforcement, a brokerage house, the auto industry or at a jail and you will see males that would make the average female/gossiping/nursing student or nurse look like an amateur when it comes to accusations and outright lying.

Nursing school drama is jr high at best next to the politics that go in with people who carry a badge, a gun, or a wrench or work on Wall Street.

Most students need to drop the drama and hit the books. Cattiness will be eaten alive by true cut throats when they graduate and get out in the real world. Most nurses might be females but most hospital adminstrators are male and they will smile in your face and fire you with a single penstroke.

SummerGarden, BSN, MSN, RN · Oct 5, 2008

first semester of nursing school = junior high. i think you were being kind to call it high school. however, do not worry. cliques will break up because many students in cliques will fail out (you will be surprised that even within cliques they are not helping each other and are very competitive with one another). as the semesters continue new cliques will form from the remnants of old... students who hated each other due to childish misunderstandings first semester will become best friends along the way. then, suddenly you will look around one day and your entire class will be small and family-like because every single survivor by fourth semester will have had his/her own journey through nursing school filled with trials and tribulations that have helped him/her to do a lot of growing up! at least this is what i have experienced. gl! :up:

-a fourth semester student graduating in december of ‘08!!!

DLS_PMHNP, MSN, RN, NP · Oct 5, 2008

Most students need to drop the drama and hit the books. Cattiness will be eaten alive by true cut throats when they graduate and get out in the real world. Most nurses might be females but most hospital adminstrators are male and they will smile in your face and fire you with a single penstroke.

:yeah:

kcochrane · Oct 5, 2008

I found that to be true in LPN school..not so much in RN school. Our clinical group seems to be pretty close. We also group with another clinical group for lectures and they seem to be nice. There are a couple that are a bit annoying. They need to be the center of attention and always have a comment. But I can handle that as opposed to the cliques we had in LPN school.