Start nursing school with a newborn at home?

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Hi, Thank you all for reading! I have just decided not to attend a Johns Hopkins nursing program that begins in June, due to financial reasons. Since I was intending to go there, I turned down all my other school options that were more reasonable cost-wise. This means I'll be starting school in the summer of 2010, and ending 1 1/2 years later (accelerated program). HERE'S THE CATCH: My husband and I have baby fever. We've been together for 7 years, since we were young, and we feel like we've been waiting ages already. So, I'm strongly considering trying to get pregnant now, and trying this month and next (if we failed to conceive after two months, we would stop trying until after school). This would mean I would have a 2 or 3 month old baby at home when I stared a 1.5 year accelerated program. Now, I'm not an idiot... I know this would be hard, I'm just trying to decide whether or not it would be impossible. The idea of waiting 2.5 years just to start trying makes me want to die inside, but I know it would be the smartest thing to do.

While it may seem like I've answered my own question... we're still planning to try this month. I would love to hear from anyone who has done this personally, or known someone who has. I'd obviously love to hear words of encouragement, but I know I'll be getting more harsh doses of reality than kind words. :crying2:

Thank you again!!!:redbeathe:redbeathe

Specializes in Med Surge, Tele, Oncology, Wound Care.

I forgot to congratulate you on your pursuits! The baby will be next! Good luck and best wishes for a long career and mommyhood, by the way it is so exhausting so take a nap and a bath for me!

Are you on drugs?

Please decide what's a priority. Baby is always first (once you have one) and once you're in nursing school no one and I mean NO ONE is gonna cut you slack.

I teach and I don't listen to excuses. and yes, I HAVE CHILDREN.

Ouch.. Kinda mean, but very true - and here's what else ; they don't cut you any slack in the workforce either! I work with several breastfeeding mothers and my heart goes out to them. You really do miss a lot. In this sense wanting to have a baby is very selfish. :( sorry

OP here - reading back over these, I'm honestly not sure I made the right decision. I'm 9 months out from graduation right now. I'm a straight A student and I haven't found the program all that challenging. I mean, of course there are stressful days and weeks, but it's not the beast I was expecting. Since we missed our chance to have a baby before school, we're now trying to figure out when it will work best. Our new insurance maternity coverage doesn't start until August, so if I got pg in September, I'd be 4 months pg upon graduating. No one will hire a pregnant new grad. That pushes us back to the indefinite time when I am finally able to find a job. This is easier said than done in the DC/NOVA area where new grad jobs seem to be nonexistent. (We have to stay in DC/NOVA for hubby's job). So, if I can't find a job for (conservatively), 4 months, then wait until the training period is up, that's more than a year from right now. That's pretty much unbearable since our baby fever started over two years ago. Nursing school probably would have been the ideal time to have a baby, in restrospect. Better than trying to fit pregnancy/new mommy time into a new grad first hire situation, when the job market is so terrible. For people struggling with this issue, consider seriously the problem of the new grad job shortage before planning your family around your career.

OP, do you have any updates? I've read this whole post and I hope you finally got your baby and a job you love :) :heartbeat I agree, having a baby while looking for a job or the first year of working isn't the greatest either, so for some, nursing school makes more sense. You're also not on your feet as much in school, which makes that aspect easier.

I posted in this thread a long time ago. Guess who got unexpectedly pregnant while taking her last core class? Yeah, me, lol. I started nursing school with a six month old. Another classmate had a sixx week old. We're both breastfeeders and we've made it work. It can work, but we are both experienced moms and experienced breastfeeders. We tend to roll with the punches. :)

Hey there, VolunteerCPR, OP here. I'm graduating in a month and hubby and I are trying to get pregnant now! I'm in my second two-week-wait. We're just going to go with it and I probably won't work for a while, if at all. Thankfully we can afford to do that. My ultimate goal is grad school, for which I only need 1 year of experience (not necessarily as an RN), so hopefully the whole nursing school thing wasn't a complete waste! For anyone else thinking about this - I think it would have been better to get pregnant earlier and deliver right after school. That way you could have a couple months off after school to take NCLEX and be with baby, then start the job hunt for real like 6 months after graduating. That's about when people end up finding jobs anyway, it seems!

Hi, Thank you all for reading! I have just decided not to attend a Johns Hopkins nursing program that begins in June, due to financial reasons. Since I was intending to go there, I turned down all my other school options that were more reasonable cost-wise. This means I'll be starting school in the summer of 2010, and ending 1 1/2 years later (accelerated program). HERE'S THE CATCH: My husband and I have baby fever. We've been together for 7 years, since we were young, and we feel like we've been waiting ages already. So, I'm strongly considering trying to get pregnant now, and trying this month and next (if we failed to conceive after two months, we would stop trying until after school). This would mean I would have a 2 or 3 month old baby at home when I stared a 1.5 year accelerated program. Now, I'm not an idiot... I know this would be hard, I'm just trying to decide whether or not it would be impossible. The idea of waiting 2.5 years just to start trying makes me want to die inside, but I know it would be the smartest thing to do.

While it may seem like I've answered my own question... we're still planning to try this month. I would love to hear from anyone who has done this personally, or known someone who has. I'd obviously love to hear words of encouragement, but I know I'll be getting more harsh doses of reality than kind words. :crying2:

Thank you again!!!:redbeathe:redbeathe

Personally I think it would b easier to be pregnant toward the end of your program than caring for your newborn at the beginning. That means you could start trying halfway through your program-good compromise in my book.

Hey there, VolunteerCPR, OP here. I'm graduating in a month and hubby and I are trying to get pregnant now! I'm in my second two-week-wait. We're just going to go with it and I probably won't work for a while, if at all. Thankfully we can afford to do that. My ultimate goal is grad school, for which I only need 1 year of experience (not necessarily as an RN), so hopefully the whole nursing school thing wasn't a complete waste! For anyone else thinking about this - I think it would have been better to get pregnant earlier and deliver right after school. That way you could have a couple months off after school to take NCLEX and be with baby, then start the job hunt for real like 6 months after graduating. That's about when people end up finding jobs anyway, it seems!

Congrats :) :) We are TTC now and I'll take my 3rd semester off if I end up being due in Aug. I think nursing school would be an easier time than 12 hour shifts, on the feet all day on a new job. Jobs will always be there, I'm not in such a rush to the finish. Keep me updated, maybe we will both be due in Aug :)

Hey there, VolunteerCPR, OP here. I'm graduating in a month and hubby and I are trying to get pregnant now! I'm in my second two-week-wait. We're just going to go with it and I probably won't work for a while, if at all. Thankfully we can afford to do that. My ultimate goal is grad school, for which I only need 1 year of experience (not necessarily as an RN), so hopefully the whole nursing school thing wasn't a complete waste! For anyone else thinking about this - I think it would have been better to get pregnant earlier and deliver right after school. That way you could have a couple months off after school to take NCLEX and be with baby, then start the job hunt for real like 6 months after graduating. That's about when people end up finding jobs anyway, it seems!

I am so grateful for this forum! Read through this whole thread trying to weigh my choices. I am expecting my third (and last!) child in February. I am planning to take it easy with the pre reqs one or two classes at a time, while enjoying my last baby and spending time with my older boys (5 and 3). Then hopefully in 2 years, by the time both older ones are in public school, and the little one can go to daycare, I can enter a nursing program. By then we shall see if the terrible job situation resolves or not. I know I would love this career, but am so scared :eek:

to sacrifice my kids' childhood and get into school debt and then be unable to find work. OP, how are things going for you job-wise and baby-wise? I am truly grateful to you for asking this question.

Hey kneusha,

Things are going great baby-wise (we are pregs!) and are uneventful job-wise. I will be looking more actively for a job once we make the move to northern VA at the end of this month, but what I hear is not encouraging.

I really hope that by the time you get through nursing school the job market is looking better. To be fair, it's not too bad as long as you're not wanting to go into women's health. I think your plan to get the older ones in school is a good one. Then by the time your youngest is going off to school, you'll be graduating and looking for that first job!

Best of luck!

Congratulations on that bump!!! Dear OP, you are doing everything right. Even if the job market sucks and you have to lay low for that first year of breastfeeding and diaper changing, you might find yourself grateful for it. I found that the recession is a good time to snuggle up with your little ones, make some soup on the cheap, hatch out a masterplan, wrap your brain around a GRE. Not the lifestyle I thought I would have when I graduated with my first degree--but so what. Being flexible and tenacious at the same time, keeping my head up, will get me through. Me and you and other brave, smart, hardworking nurses that are sharing on this forum--I want us all to succeed.

And yeah, specialty-- of course women's health and eventually midwifery is what I am interested in, LOL! :doh:

i started grad school with a 6-week-old (100% breastfed). she finished her phd with a newborn (100% breastfed) and now has a tenure track job, which she started with #2, an 8-week-old (100% breastfed) (the first one is 5). it can be done. it's a fun time...take lots of pictures and enjoy the ride!

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