Shot myself in the foot..

[nursingreject]

Hi all,

I stumbled upon this forum today, and have been reading similar topics as my own. But well...I'm really upset, and I'd just like to talk about what's happening. My situation is that I started out at a community college in my hometown, but moved to another state by myself and transferred to a university there. I had no idea how competitive it was, and was denied acceptance to their nursing program with a 3.3 GPA. My options were to stay and retake some courses and up my GPA, or go to a local community college and see if I couldn't get in there. I chose to transfer.

I'm in my first semester at this college and things were fine (I thought) until I called today to check on the status of my application file and found out I completely missed the application deadline. I was informed by the seceratary that I now have no chance of getting into the fall program because I also hadn't attended a pre-admissions conference. I had no idea, and was blown away, having had no correspondence or communication other than the first and only time I met my councilor back in July.

Long story short, it seems I missed the boat and will be waiting yet another year before applying to a nursing program. The next conference isn't until May, and by then I was told it would be far too late. My boyfriend tried to calm me down by telling me we'd get in touch with some higher ups and see what could be done...but I know the inevitable truth. By my own negligence I have unknowingly shot myself in the foot. As they say hindsight is 20/20 and I probably should have just sucked it up and stayed at the other college.

There are other complications to my situation, but those are the basic facts. I am most frustrated by the fact that I have every single pre-course completed, including a CNA course which I just finished at this community college. All I need now are the nursing courses. I feel lost and discouraged...hopeless even. I moved out of state to live with my boyfriend per his request. It's been 2 years and I can't get into a nursing program, all I do is wonder how much longer before my boyfriend and my parents stop supporting me and my decision? All I can do is keep trying...I know...

My only real choice (other than to curl up and die) is to get a job somewhere, and quite possibly return to the university I limped away from the first time, retake the courses with questionable grades, and hope that's enough for me to make it in. Unless of course my boyfriend throws me out, or my parents stop supporting me when they find out I blew it for the 2nd time.

This is quite possibly the most pathetic story of anyone ever trying to get into a nursing program. I feel so ashamed I'm quite tempted to just quit and pursue something else. No that's not what I want, but I feel like an idiot and can't help but think this may not be meant to happen for me.

Well if anyone got through this..thanks for letting me vent. Thanks allnurses.com for giving me a space to just let it all out for a minute. Even if no one listens, it's good to just get it down on paper, so to speak.

[hikernurse]

Ok, deep breath :). It will be OK. Don't curl up and die . You've still got two options--go back to the first university or start at the CC at the later date. You'll still get there, it will just take a while longer.

It's hard to wait, but maybe if you can view it as an opportunity to get some good experience then maybe it won't seem so bad. What about working as a CNA in the meantime, whether you end up taking classes or not?

And...you've learned the first rule of nursing school. They're always in charge. Their job is setting up the hoops and yours is jumping through them .

Your boyfriend sounds supportive and I doubt your parents are going to throw you to the wolves over a mistake you didn't even know you were making. First step, talk to the schools and see exactly where you stand and what you need to do to get there. That should give you some feeling of control over the situation.

Anyway, {{{{{hugs}}}}}. You sound like you feel miserable and I would be too, but you'll pick yourself up and the first time you sign RN after your name, it will all be worth it :). Feel free to vent here anytime you like.

[Sabby_NC]

Bless your heart.

I agree with what BikerNurse has said.

Never give up. Stand tall, breathe deep as there are always solutions.

If nursing is truly what your heart wants to do then go for it. :)

[moosiesmom]

First of all you aren't a "nursingreject" !! You are a hard working future nursing student ! Hey not to worry, hang in there. There are many other things you can do for the time that you are playing the waiting game. Give the CNA thing a try at a local hospital. Get your feet wet in nursing. This is a valuable way to learn some more nursing/patient care skills. If you check alot of threads in the pre-nursing section, you will see it is a great way to network and gain valuable skills "while waiting". A ton or nursing school students go the CNA route. When you apply back to :typingwhatev school you want to attend, that experience will help you. It will help you keep your eye on the prize too. Sounds like your man is cool with you. Very supportive. The parents will be too. You will see that there is alot of drama associated with applying to nursing schools !! Very stressful process. You will do fine.

[mcs1505]

A similar thing happened to me last spring: I had everything lined up and ready to go and then I got a call 2 days before the deadline telling me they'd been calling the wrong number for a month and that I needed to take a math placement test I'd been previously told was waived and that there were no appts to take it before the deadline so "too bad, so sad we were just calling to tell you you're automatically out."

I was devastated but I got a job at a hospital, applied to a couple colleges and now I've been accepted to an ABSN program at a way better school starting in May. Keep working at it, things will come together and even though waiting another year feels like forever it will give you time to get all your ducks in a row.

Oh, and I don't think your parents will see this as your fault. I'm sure they're proud of you and just as anxious as you are to see you achieve your dreams. :)

[Asia53]

You're getting great advice from the other posters. Just wanted to add---Don't give up!

[FireStarterRN, BSN, RN]

Dear nursing reject,

I think you would feel better about yourself if you stopped being financially dependant on your boyfriend and parents. The relationship with the boyfriend sounds tenuous if you are worried about being "thrown out". Remember, many people attend college while working full or part time.

The mistake you made was allowing yourself to be talked into moving in with your boyfriend, who has not made a commitment to you it sounds like. It would be a different story if you had a married commitment and were definately working together towards goals together, but as it stands now, you have given up your future in order to accomodate him, without any assurance for yourself.

If I were you I would have an honest conversation with your parents. It sounds as if they have been trying to help. Also, consider getting a job if you don't have one, in order to gain more independance and autonomy.

[DreamyEyes]

The mistake you made was allowing yourself to be talked into moving in with your boyfriend, who has not made a commitment to you it sounds like. It would be a different story if you had a married commitment and were definately working together towards goals together, but as it stands now, you have given up your future in order to accomodate him, without any assurance for yourself.

This was a little harsh. She came here for advice about nursing school, not her relationship with her boyfriend. And just because you're not married and living together, does NOT mean you aren't fully committed to your partner. Commitment is a decision in your heart, NOT by a piece of paper. Many couples have lived together happily for many years without being married, and have stayed faithful to one another. Marriage does not always mean commitment -- just thought I'd throw that in there.

OP -- Don't give up hope! There are many who have been in your situation, so you're not alone. If nursing is your dream, you WILL get there, no matter how long it takes. Feel free to vent here whenever you want. Good luck to you.

[FireStarterRN, BSN, RN]

This was a little harsh. She came here for advice about nursing school, not her relationship with her boyfriend. And just because you're not married and living together, does NOT mean you aren't fully committed to your partner. Commitment is a decision in your heart, NOT by a piece of paper. Many couples have lived together happily for many years without being married, and have stayed faithful to one another. Marriage does not always mean commitment -- just thought I'd throw that in there.

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Hi, I will provide a quote from the OP below:

My only real choice (other than to curl up and die) is to get a job somewhere, and quite possibly return to the university I limped away from the first time, retake the courses with questionable grades, and hope that's enough for me to make it in. Unless of course my boyfriend throws me out, or my parents stop supporting me when they find out I blew it for the 2nd time.

When the OP puts out information like this, it's obvious to me that she has moved in with her boyfriend on shaky grounds, and her situation is one of tenuous dependance on his good will, and that of her parents. Her choice to move in with someone who may 'throw her out' is not a wise one, in light of the fact that she is not supporting herself and complicated by the fact that she is also dependant on the continued goodwill of her parents.