Hi all, I am a new RN and am curious about some experienced RN's perspective on this topic. My dad recently had a very debilitating stroke. We have been to 6 facilities in 5 months and I have seen the good, the bad, and the ugly of nursing staff.
Often I find myself having to remind the nurses to float his feet for pressure wounds and turn him every 2 hours. He has been left in soiled diapers for longer then is acceptable among other communication issues.
I draw a line this past weekend when I went and asked to speak to the charge nurse just to get more info since his assigned nurse was an agency nurse and didn't know much about his history or long term care plan. She acted so unprofessionally. If you have a moment to read our dialogue it is below. (It is typed because I intend on sending a complaint to the company.) If you want to skip that part I totally understand.
[[[Nurse entered his room and immediately had an attitude which was demonstrated in her tone of voice and dismissive body language. She stated You asked to see me, what can I do for you?†and I responded by stating my observations of the treatment of the heal. I stated that there were 3 nurses sitting at the nurses station (one of which had their phone out) and she immediately interrupted me by saying I don't have 3 nurses so that's not true.†I responded by saying Well I saw 3 people at the desk none of which offered to assist with my concerns.†She interrupted me by stating What is your point, get to your point.†I stated My point is I came in and his heal was flat on the bed with a soiled bandage and I want to make sure it is off the bed as prescribed. There is available staff that are capable to attend to this task.†She interrupted me by stating I know you're a Registered Nurse so you think you know but I know how to run my floor and we are doing everything we can to assist him.†I asked to then speak to her manager who was currently unavailable. I asked her to please stick to the concern which was the wound as it had a green drainage that could indicate infection. She stated If the patient had an infection he would have a fever.†I responded by saying A fever is not the only systemic change a patient will have with an infection.†She interrupted me and stated I am not going to play this game with you. What else do you need?†I was completely floored at this point and requested she leave the room and please remind her staff to keep his extremities elevated.]]]
None the less, how do you balance being a nurse and having knowledge on how things should be handled versus being a concerned family member and letting things slide because you know how the system works? I am so disappointed in how some nurses have acted and feel sometimes (with any job) when you have been doing it for so long you really probably shouldn't do it anymore if you lost your passion.
Frustrated daughter/RN.