saying good by to my awesone sucessful DON job

[sallyrnrrt, ADN, RN]

today i tried turning in my resignation, really nice physival skilled /LTC!!!!!I WAS SUMMONED OUT OF RETIREMENT TO BE ITS DON! WE HAVE HAD SUCESS! BETTER CONSISTANCY IN RESIDENT CARE! GAINED SOME GREAT STAFF! DECENT SURVEY!!!! why am i wanting to leave my 69 year old husband had a horrid heart cath today multible lesions in multiple locations....this coming Tues he is scheduled for 4-5 vessell bypass, by a top notch surgeon, because of rural location of y farm, i will pretty much be in charge of his cardiac rehab.... i can not give him the care he requires competitive with demands of a sucessful DON????? MY OWNER REFUSES MY RESIGNATION! STATING HE INSIST I RETAIN PRN STATUS until husband is "on his mend back to work, he is a mechanical engineer with esentually no physical demands.... the catch current owner wants me to help open a new facility in ~ 18 months......

i have 30yrs experience in cv medicine and surgery i have found a young nurse that has potential to at least "set the building "or make a great DON herself, that is not the challenge....a mutual DON who i really admire offered adon position, but that is a preparatory job for when "she" retires...... so here we go again...... i know to choose one battle a time

advise suggestions, plus I really do not "have to work....."

[Nascar nurse, ASN, RN]

Makes me shudder with horror (hypertensive & nauseated too) to think of opening a new facility! After a very successful stint as a DON at a 60 bed established LTC, I decided I could handle that beast. It was life consuming and void of any kind of self satisfaction. Maybe someone else has a better experience to share but I will never do that again! My $0.02

[Ruas61, BSN, RN]

He is neither your owner or master.

It's 2013- you can resign from the civilian world workforce.

You state you don't need to work and that your husband needs you.

Do what you need to do for your family and self first.

Good wishes.

[sallyrnrrt, ADN, RN]

thanks Ruas, that is exactly what i am going to do all along cant believe some mgr, and facility owners, funny, yea did we not have a civil war over similar

[amoLucia]

Even with all your skills and good intentions, you could most likely become a sacrificial casualty of the war when the new place struggles as it takes quite a while for new facilities to fully mesh successfully.

Do NOT stretch yourself out thin for any employer when you have a life to live. You and your family have to come first. Care for yourselves! Will hold good thoughts for you & hubby.

[sallyrnrrt, ADN, RN]

thanks amoLucia, I have my first private duty case tonight, , helping husband with his hibiclens shower he is my new full time job.......

we are blessed that we have a very tallented CV surgeon, and great cardiovascular icu , and i have not received one staffing call today ))grins((

i will try and stay retired longer this time

[LTCRN4LIFE]

I agree...if you don't have to work financially I think the best calling for a Nurse is to be with those who need him/her the most at the time and it sounds like it is your husband....there will never be a scarcity of jobs....but you can't replace how your husband is made to feel during his rehab. Enjoy retirement and time with your husband.

[sallyrnrrt, ADN, RN]

yea successful 4 vessel bypass, extubated he and numbers look great

no cv or neuro deficit wooowooo

[Crispy Critter]

How are things going? Give us an update!

[sallyrnrrt, ADN, RN]

WELL HUSBAND DOING GREAT! back to work full time this week, he is a mech engineer, so not that much motor demands....

i started a new job this week, working with a old plastic surgeon friend....i had worked with 6+yrs...a decade ago.. will not miss the 24/7 on call:laugh: