Sad...and jealous?

Nursing Students Pre-Nursing

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Guess I just need to vent to people who actually understand! So last yr I was accepted to the ADN program and passed it up bc of my husbands deployment. This year comes along and I don't apply bc I wasn't ready to put my youngest in daycare. Now I find out that a friend of a friend who was waitlisted got her acceptance letter, and now I'm regretting my decision to hold off another year. That could've been my spot! I've been a stay at home mom for 9 years now...my kids are getting older and I feel like I want a career of my own. And I feel like I just threw it out the window. I'm sad and jealous that she got in. I know I could've gotten in (cutoff was 72 pts, I have 87), and I think that's why I'm so hung up. Guess this fall I'll be finishing up Micro and A&P 2 so I don't have to take them while in nursing school. Anyways, just wanted to vent here bc no one else (even the hubby) seems to understand why this bums me out. Thanks for listening!

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Don't let it bum you out. We all take different paths and you can't compare yours to anyone else's. You had very legitimate reasons for your decision. And admirable ones at that. Choosing to stay home with your child is invaluable. You'll never get these days and months back. They're only little for so long. Don't ever regret a decision that you made that resulted in you spending more time with your children!

You'll be a nurse eventually. Be happy for your friend for now.

And enjoy those baby snuggles while they're still little. Once they get older, they don't want to snuggle as much :)

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Specializes in Oncology.

This is by far not my best work, but one time I was computer doodling and came up with this about my academic path. It's okay that you're on your own life track. I took a few detours before getting on board with nursing school.

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This is by far not my best work, but one time I was computer doodling and came up with this about my academic path. It's okay that you're on your own life track. I took a few detours before getting on board with nursing school.

Interesting, and nice work~~

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Specializes in STNA.

I know how you feel. Before my first was born, I was a prenursing/premed student. I had all my nursing prereq and support courses done and was ready to either apply to the nursing program or go further with premed plans, but I decided not to return to school after she was born. I just didn't want to leave her. I became a stay at home mom. We had another baby and I've been a stay at home mom ever since. My kids are almost 9 and 11 now. Over the years I've thought about going to nursing school, but it was never the right time.

Right now I'm retaking my CNA class so that I can work part time doing that for a while and will maybe start retaking my prereq classes (have to take many over because they have expired with age). We are kind of in that transitional time when the kids are needing me less and I'm finally feeling like the time is right to venture outside of my full time motherly duties and work part time. But I don't want full time nursing school at this time. Still isn't the right time. Right now I'm really enjoying homeschooling my kids and having lots of family time together, but who knows, someday it may be the right time to go to nursing school full time, maybe when they are high school age.

I do sometimes wonder how my life would be different if I had gone to nursing school any number of those times that I thought about it. I've watched with jealousy as the nursing students walked by me in the halls at college with their uniforms on (I've taken part time classes over the years to finish an associate of arts and take some other classes). But overall I'm glad with the way things worked out. My kids are great and we have a great life.

You just have to weigh your priorities. It is so tough being a mom. We have all these tugging emotions tied to being there for our kids, but also a drive to make something of ourselves and have a profession. There is only some much time in the day. In the end, I wasn't willing to give up any time with my kids to have a profession. At least not yet. Good luck to you. I know how hard it is to balance those emotions! You followed your heart in not putting your youngest in daycare just yet. Just enjoy this next year with your kids and maybe next year the time will be right for you.

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Specializes in STNA.
This is by far not my best work, but one time I was computer doodling and came up with this about my academic path. It's okay that you're on your own life track. I took a few detours before getting on board with nursing school.

:yeah: I LOVE YOUR PICTURE!

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Before I applied and was accepted into my ADN program I felt the same way you do every time a friend of mine got in. Just re-apply for next year. Don't stress about it. What's done is done. Just congratulate your friend. You will get there!

Good Luck!

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Specializes in Infusion.

I waited for my youngest to hit kindergarten before even starting school and I remember finding out a friend was starting the year before I planned to start. I was pretty envious of her trek down the nursing path. When I finally got started, an acquaintance of mine was also starting and we've become good friends and now nursing school cohorts. Yes, you have the points and now you have time to put some of those difficult classes behind you. Plus, you get another year with your kiddo. I think that's reason to celebrate. And when you get to know the members of your nursing class (in another year or so), you will wonder why you were ever in such a hurry or so disappointed. Best wishes to you.

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Specializes in Med-Surg/DOU/Ortho/Onc/Rehab/ER/.

I dont have kids but I changed my major several time during college. Now I am 22 and while all my friends have degrees, I do not. I am still at a CC doing my pre reqs to apply for a BSN program next fall. I see fresh out of HS people at my CC that are young and ready to get into the next BSN program and they are only like 18 or 19, or the people who already have their bachelors and this summer they are applying to MSN programs or ABSN programs.

Its nerving. I mean just like you, I am happy but at the same time, I think, that could have been me.

Well working since 15 didn't help and especially when I decided to finally pursue nursing, my job wouldn't even allow me to register for pre reqs!

Well now I am almost done with pre reqs and I will be applying this august.

You just have to suck it up and be happy for them.

You can't go back and undo what you did.

So what I do, is just look forward and know that I will be there some day.

Oh and what also helps me is that the economy sucks and I am hoping that when I graduate with a BSN in 3 years, the economy wont suck as bad lol

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I agree with what others have said.... every path is different. I had an opportunity to be in nursing school 10 years ago.... it didnt happen. Now Im finishing up my pre-reqs and I hope, and pray, and wish upon a star (!) that I will be accepted next year and graduate in 3 yrs with a BSN at age 37.

I haven't had kids or gotten married yet! I have a wonder fiance that has loved me for 5 years and understands that we may not be parents at this point in the game. Many of my friends will graduate 8 months after I anticipate starting my program *fingers crossed* .... LOL Suppose I am venting a little too! (Thank you for that!)

I love the response with the path drawn! It made my day! Each day we are all closer to what we want.... some people never figure that out in a lifetime!;)

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Thanks for the support, I knew I could find it here! It's just difficult seeing someone get accepted when I want it more than anything and I know I can get in. I keep telling myself that next year will be better for me anyways so I can finish up all the non-nursing classes before I start the actual program. Hopefully that will ease up some of the stress in nursing school! Thanks everyone! :heartbeat

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have you considered looking for an online rn program with clinical internships

that way tavel and kids would be less of a problem

dont limit yourself to just one school

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