why all the rudeness?

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Specializes in Everything but L&D and OR.

I can only imagine how this is probably going to turn out, but I really have to say something. I ahve been reading on this site for a long time, and although I know I do not have near as many posts placed here, I have noticed an alarming trend on many threads. There aren't too many threads anymore where the subject matter is getting traded in for some petty little arguement between others and people just start "fighting" with each other. Although I know we are just typing here, you can just "feel" the attitudes.

What is up with this? I am not naive, but I really thought we were professionals and this was a place for a "commoradirary" of sorts.

Am I missing something here? I am not trying to start anything here either, it is just with the numerous instances I have seen this, I was wondering how many others feel this way too?

I was also under the impression that this was like "unacceptable" behavior as far as postings went and people weren't allowed to post rude threads.

Let me know what you think, I so invite comments, but please keep it nice.

Christine

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Specializes in EC, IMU, LTAC.

It's a webforum, one with many different people. Many forums are a place for like-minded people, but this forum is for nurses. The nursing career does not define the people, so many perspectives mean more points of conflicts. Also, some people are just REALLY touchy and love to point out how rude other people are never mind the fact the pot is calling the kettle black.

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Specializes in Everything but L&D and OR.

I know, you are right, but it is just a little disheartening seeing it so often!

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This site is one for professionals, and there are a lot of "wanna-be's" posting to this site.

We would prefer to talk about topics of interest to us, without having to field through the "excuse me, what does BM mean"? posts.

Find another group, please.

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Specializes in Everything but L&D and OR.
This site is one for professionals, and there are a lot of "wanna-be's" posting to this site.

We would prefer to talk about topics of interest to us, without having to field through the "excuse me, what does BM mean"? posts.

Find another group, please.

You would be an example of what I am talking about!

I am a professional! I have been for many years, and I don't appreciate your comments. If you don't like a particular thread then move on, don't "stain it" by trying to start something, b/c that is all you are doing!

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Specializes in Photolab technician.

Eh, you must not be on many forums. I'm a big car enthusiast and I'm registered on one of the largest Mustang forums online (~85K users) and you see that same behavior on there all the time. This forum has a bit under double the number of users, so I'd actually expect more of it here.

But as you said, we are professionals. Most people I've ever had a spat with online that I've met in person got along really well with me. It's just like writing a breakup letter when you were 14 or 15; writing something to someone you know isn't going to be able to react to you allows you to say stuff you typically wouldn't.

I should get a internet psychology minor lol.

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Specializes in NICU.

Like PeachPie said, this is a web forum. There are thousands upon thousands of people posting here. That many different personalities and life experiences together is bound to create some kind of drama here and there. Many of these posts are started as either questions or vents. With the question posts, there are going to be many, many different opinions. And everybody always wants to be right, so you'll have debates going on. With venting posts, you're already going to have emotions running wild.

Another thing with the internet is that sarcasm is very hard to understand when it's typed instead of spoken. People might take something seriously that was meant to be light hearted or a joke. It's a common problem with the internet.

Go to ANY internet forum out there. ANY OF THEM. Forums for TV shows, books, movies, sports, careers, health, etc. In ALL of them you're going to find arguments and hurt feelings from time to time. It's just the nature of the internet.

This is a VERY VERY active message board full of passionate people.

And we aren't perfect!

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Specializes in Photolab technician.
You would be an example of what I am talking about!

Don't let him to get to you. There's 157,000+ other members here you could get along with just fine. You don't have to be everyone's friend. Learn to blow off ignorance and rude people and you'll find that forums are much more enjoyable. I could think of hundreds of better things to do than argue with someone online.

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Specializes in Med-Surg, ICU.

This is a pretty touchy topic for me also so I will keep it spiffy and not contribute to the rudeness around here.

I feel if people can not constructively contribute to a post then they shouldn't post anything and quit being "internet bullies". If someone has a beef with someone's post, PM them and keep the site clean from the bravado.

BTW good post,

Jim

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Specializes in EC, IMU, LTAC.

Another problem is "Morality Vultures." Morality Vultures are Schadenfreude-diggers who take up any opportunity to swoop down and put you below them, often with a lecture about how the Morality Vulture's poop doesn's stink. If you ask about an NCLEX question, you're lazy and need to do yor own work. If you're stressed about rude family members or violent residents, you're not looking at their perspective and you're not empathetic. If you've had it with CNAs who honestly shouldn't have passed the state boards, you're a condescending snob. If you're hoping that a nursing job will be so much better than a CNA job, you're an idealist and a snob. If we've had it with the obesity epidemic after 600 lb patients throwing out our backs, we're rude and sterotyping obese people.

My mother taught me to let things go if they didn't concern me and/or if nobody would benefit from my two cents. In her words, "Did anyone ask you?" Thanks Mom.

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Specializes in primary care, pediatrics, OB/GYN, NICU.

Sorry folks, but I'm afraid I have to agree with Christy, the OP. While my experiences with posts have been pretty positive and supportive from AllNurses.com, I have noticed that lately people seem to be making VERY rude (and frankly, unnecessary) comments. Constructive criticism is one thing, but making nasty, mean comments just for the sake of commenting is counterproductive. I can go to work and get that! It would be nice to have a website where we as Nurses and health providers have a "safe place" to discuss topics openly, vent feelings ask questions and be supportive of each other whether someone is a student, CNA, RN or APN. It's bad enough going to work (or school) and dealing with cranky, rude, mean patients and other staff. I have looked forward to visiting this website in order to decompress after a stressful day at work. I hope we can all play nice.

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Another problem is "Morality Vultures." Morality Vultures are Schadenfreude-diggers who take up any opportunity to swoop down and put you below them, often with a lecture about how the Morality Vulture's poop doesn's stink. If you ask about an NCLEX question, you're lazy and need to do yor own work. If you're stressed about rude family members or violent residents, you're not looking at their perspective and you're not empathetic. If you've had it with CNAs who honestly shouldn't have passed the state boards, you're a condescending snob. If you're hoping that a nursing job will be so much better than a CNA job, you're an idealist and a snob. If we've had it with the obesity epidemic after 600 lb patients throwing out our backs, we're rude and sterotyping obese people.

My mother taught me to let things go if they didn't concern me and/or if nobody would benefit from my two cents. In her words, "Did anyone ask you?" Thanks Mom.

That is about the most sane comment I've ever heard on this web-site. Thank you.
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