Resigning...again.

LTCNS, LPN · Nov 13, 2012

You get one life and it is too short to be miserable. I understand what you're saying about feeling you owe the hospital your loyalty, and I admire that, but living your life in dread is just not worth it (ask me how I know lol!) If you know for sure you would be happy at the new job, I say go for it.

Ntheboat2 · Nov 13, 2012

Is it possible that you could do the orientation for the new job while you keep the job you have? Some people do work two jobs...if you think that's a possibility. Then, if things don't work out at the new job you won't be in the same situation. I'm sure they wouldn't take you back for a second time.

Caffeine_IV · Nov 13, 2012

Is it possible that you could do the orientation for the new job while you keep the job you have? Some people do work two jobs...if you think that's a possibility. Then, if things don't work out at the new job you won't be in the same situation. I'm sure they wouldn't take you back for a second time.

Oh no that isn't possible to do both. They may let me stay on resource pool but that's iffy.

Caffeine_IV · Nov 18, 2012

I feel so silly that I was too nervous to hand in my resignation letter this past Wednesday. I guess because I know that quitting twice is it as far as being rehired if needed or desired in the future.

Ruby Vee, BSN · Nov 18, 2012

So last year I quit my current job for another out of the area in a differently specialty (ICU). Unfortunately I wasn't up to their standards and didn't make it past orientation. My old job allowed me back (had to go through orientation and all) basically with open arms which I greatly appreciated.
But I left for a reason. I was tired of being on general medical unit, being short staffed constantly even having staff pulled to other floors and being slammed with admissions, etc. I don't mind being busy and working hard but it has gotten very stressful.
I just got a new offer for a position at a hospice house affiliated with a hospital that I'm really excited about.
I don't really know what my question is but I guess I feel I should be more loyal since they took me back even though I'm not happy here. They have just cut our weekend pay incentive. A lot of the coworkers I enjoyed working with having transferred to other areas and my old faves are close to retirement.
Thanks for reading.

You're right; you should be more loyal. Most of us are exactly as happy as we make up our minds to be, and you might as well make up your mind to be happy at your current job. Suppose you do take another new position and either don't like it or can't cut it? You may find it very difficult to find yet another new job because you will have (rightly) been labelled as a job hopper.

When you take a position, you owe your employer at least two years. AFTER orientation. You're barely competent after one year, and have only learned the basics. After two years, you begin to be of some actual use to your unit. Two years is a minimum. The only reason to be taking a job and then quitting is because there was something untenable about your position that you didn't know about before you took it. In this case, you knew all about the position because you'd held it before. It seems as if you're job hopping in the pursuit of happiness.

The grass will always be greener at another job. There must be something you like about your current job. Find it, focus on it, and look for another thing you like. Happiness doesn't come from hopping from job to job or man to man or city to city . . . it comes from within. Cultivate that. And then, when you've been at your current job for two years and have given your current manager some payback for hiring you back a second time, if you're still unhappy at your job, THEN look for another.

Anna Flaxis, BSN, RN · Nov 18, 2012

I think you should take the hospice job if you're really excited about it, but keep in mind your current employer may not be so willing to take you back next time, so you will have to be ready to commit to the hospice job for at least a year before you start looking elsewhere.

Good luck!

Caffeine_IV · Nov 18, 2012

You're right; you should be more loyal. Most of us are exactly as happy as we make up our minds to be, and you might as well make up your mind to be happy at your current job. Suppose you do take another new position and either don't like it or can't cut it? You may find it very difficult to find yet another new job because you will have (rightly) been labelled as a job hopper.
When you take a position, you owe your employer at least two years. AFTER orientation. You're barely competent after one year, and have only learned the basics. After two years, you begin to be of some actual use to your unit. Two years is a minimum. The only reason to be taking a job and then quitting is because there was something untenable about your position that you didn't know about before you took it. In this case, you knew all about the position because you'd held it before. It seems as if you're job hopping in the pursuit of happiness.
The grass will always be greener at another job. There must be something you like about your current job. Find it, focus on it, and look for another thing you like. Happiness doesn't come from hopping from job to job or man to man or city to city . . . it comes from within. Cultivate that. And then, whene you've been at your current job for two years and have given your current manager some payback for hiring you back a second time, if you're still unhappy at your job, THEN look for another.

Thanks for the response. Makes sense whether it applies to me or not.

I worked there for 3 years originally before I left the first time and often the most experienced on the floor. I'm not looking for a work utopia. I haven't been applying at any and every job....specifically and only this job.

The thing I've enjoyed about my job is my coworkers and many of them are leaving, have left or intend to. I'm not going to let what ifs keep me here.

Caffeine_IV · Nov 18, 2012

I think you should take the hospice job if you're really excited about it, but keep in mind your current employer may not be so willing to take you back next time, so you will have to be ready to commit to the hospice job for at least a year before you start looking elsewhere.
Good luck!

Thanks. I feel confident that this is an area where I can settle in...not planning on hopping around. Plus I have my family in the area this time.

givemeu1 · Nov 18, 2012

I agree; life is way too short to work some place that you aren't happy. As far as them taking you back; I doubt they would do it again, but who's to say that you would want to go back after being miserable for so long? I'm in a position with a state agency, with at least a few more years while in school, and when I do leave; I don't plan on going back. I passed up quite a few positions there because I felt that I owed it to my current supervisor to stay because I had just been given day shifts, now I wish I had taken those positions. The stress, anxiety, and pure hell of that job makes me ask why I took that job everyday. After 12 years, I am ready to go. In saying that....do not feel like your owing someone anything outweighs your own happiness. You owe it to yourself to be happy. Best Wishes.

beeker · Nov 19, 2012

You're right; you should be more loyal. Most of us are exactly as happy as we make up our minds to be, and you might as well make up your mind to be happy at your current job. Suppose you do take another new position and either don't like it or can't cut it? You may find it very difficult to find yet another new job because you will have (rightly) been labelled as a job hopper. When you take a position, you owe your employer at least two years. AFTER orientation. You're barely competent after one year, and have only learned the basics. After two years, you begin to be of some actual use to your unit. Two years is a minimum. The only reason to be taking a job and then quitting is because there was something untenable about your position that you didn't know about before you took it. In this case, you knew all about the position because you'd held it before. It seems as if you're job hopping in the pursuit of happiness. The grass will always be greener at another job. There must be something you like about your current job. Find it, focus on it, and look for another thing you like. Happiness doesn't come from hopping from job to job or man to man or city to city . . . it comes from within. Cultivate that. And then, when you've been at your current job for two years and have given your current manager some payback for hiring you back a second time, if you're still unhappy at your job, THEN look for another.

I disagree. You don't owe your employer anything. If they had to cut you within 2 years they would do it without one iota of guilt. They just took away weekend incentive pay, so a pay decrease is a valid reason to look elsewhere. Just know that by leaving after they took you back, you are burning a bridge. They did not have to take you, that was a favor so if your next job doesn't work out, you should not come crawling back.

Caffeine_IV · Nov 19, 2012

I disagree. You don't owe your employer anything. If they had to cut you within 2 years they would do it without one iota of guilt. They just took away weekend incentive pay, so a pay decrease is a valid reason to look elsewhere. Just know that by leaving after they took you back, you are burning a bridge. They did not have to take you, that was a favor so if your next job doesn't work out, you should not come crawling back.

Very true. I'm not one that likes burning bridges but I hate to feel that I'm indebted forever. As far as coming back even if I could, I don't think I could bear returning TWICE as a failure. When I came back originally they had just lost 3 nurses by transfers.

The pay decrease has a lot of people in an uproar. For some its near a 4k per year paycut maybe more for others I don't know.