Refuse to take sides...glad I only have a few more days!

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FINALLY completed the curriculum (e.g. graded) portion of my program and am now doing the NCLEX review. I have made it all this time w/o being involved in the cliques, drama, etc.

To make a long story short: There are two people in the class who are considered very "stand-offish" by everyone else. This is b/c they pretty much hate everyone in the class with the exception of myself and one other person. Anyway, I like both of them, but in the last week or two have been feeling like I was kinda getting the shaft from them both. Not all out...but something was different. I refuse to dislike other people b/c someone else does, and I pretty much get along with everyone in the group. By now, although we are preparing to be pinned, it is making me feel some tension.

I really thought that this would be two people I would keep contact with post-graduation, but I'm beginning to wonder. Should I address the fact that they are acting a bit strange and attempt to clear the air or should I just forget about it, bear with the situation until we are completely done with exit exams and lose their phone numbers?

I'm a lover not a fighter and I think we should all just get along!

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I think with all the stress of finishing nursing school going on I would be inclined to disregard any strange behaviour of my friends.

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Specializes in 5 yrs OR, ASU Pre-Op 2 yr. ER.

If i had taken into consideration all the times my classmates acted weird, that's all i would have thought about.

People have a lot on their minds about school, work, career, family, etc. And sometimes it spills over in their behavior.

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Specializes in Med-Surg.

Unless you consider them to be good friends (though I didn't quite get that impression)... I vote for ignore it and get through it.

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Specializes in Emergency Dept, M/S.
Unless you consider them to be good friends (though I didn't quite get that impression)... I vote for ignore it and get through it.

I second that! Too much energy to expend if they aren't close friends. They'll either get over themselves and be pleasant again, or they won't. Their decision!

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I would vote to do nothing. If you ask them about the change in their behavior, and they denied everything but kept acting the same way they have been, then you might feel even more upset. And you don't need to be upset when you have more important things on your mind.

I used to try to keep in touch with people, plan "events" where people could get together, etc. But now I'm in a mode where I would rather just sit back and let someone else do all that work (and get the little recognition/appreciation that goes with the effort and risk involved in trying to maintain ties.) Man, I sound so bitter! :uhoh21:

You'll probably be so busy establishing your career, that their will be little time for you to think about old classmates. And of course, their will be new opportunities to make friendships. Preferably without the stress of nursing school!:)

Of course, do whatever your heart tells you is the right thing. It's okay to make up your mind about a course of action, then change it later.

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Good advice guys!

Thanks for the insight. With just three more days of NCLEX review and exit testing, I've decided to just continue to be the same as I have always been from day one. I try to treat everyone decently at the least. Pretty soon, all the small-minded cliques will be dissolved anyway and we'll all have to stand up on our own merits.

Glad to be where I am now...and best wishes and congrats to all nursing graduates. :p

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