Rather work with men or women?

aeauooo · Mar 18, 2008

Well, I've never been punched in the face by a woman I work with - even though I might have had it coming once or twice.

Tweety, BSN, RN · Mar 19, 2008

well thank you,posters for illustrating the differences between men and women. Once again, we are talking about men who are nurses, not working with men in any possible context including college. Men who choose nursing are, with few exceptions, different. And those of you who speak altruistically, think what you want to. But if you happen to know a group of men who have all been nurses for awhile and just talk with them at social functions, your perspective MAY change.
The lesson for me here is that unless you have the same opinion, don't bother posting,because you get attacked. And I won't. I resign.

I'm sorry you feel you were attacked. As a moderator there were no Terms of Service violations that I could see from the three posters who responded to you (one of whom was myself relating that my experience was entirely different, but I didn't come across as invalidating your opinion or experience). All opinions are welcome and should be respected.

I can't say that I've been around male nurses in social functions. Can you elaborate? What makes them different? What do they talk about? That is if you choose to stay around.

banditrn · Mar 19, 2008

Well, I've never been punched in the face by a woman I work with - even though I might have had it coming once or twice.

Guess I'd rather be punched in the face than stabbed in the back. WTH?? So are you saying that by working with men that you take the risk of being punched?!! :no: :no:

I've never worked with any man, in any career, that I was afraid of physically - if any of them HAD ever threatened me, it would have been too bad for them.

aeauooo · Mar 19, 2008

Guess I'd rather be punched in the face than stabbed in the back.

Touche! For about the first half of my nursing career I questioned whether or not I wanted to continue being a nurse for that very reason.

WTH?? So are you saying that by working with men that you take the risk of being punched?!!

Before I became a nurse I worked a summer on a factory boat out of Dutch Harbor, AK - rough crowd!

banditrn · Mar 19, 2008

Touche! For about the first half of my nursing career I questioned whether or not I wanted to continue being a nurse for that very reason.
Before I became a nurse I worked a summer on a factory boat out of Dutch Harbor, AK - rough crowd!

Ah-ha, I see! Maybe it's different being a woman working with men - and I hope that doesn't sound sexist. I've always been able to talk to men on their level and get along with them, yet remain 'sepaarate', which is just how I like it. I don't have to be 'one of the boys' and can do my own thing.

Working with male nurses is pretty much the same way, altho I don't find that male nurses form 'clicques' like females do.

That's not to say that there weren't certain female nurses that I didn't enjoy working with - there were several, but they tended to be highly skilled, business like people that I could learn from or share with.

NurseKayla16 · Apr 8, 2008

I like working with both. However, one time a male nursing student refused to do pericare on a female and was asking a female nurse to do it for him. As a nurse, this is in your job discription. If you sign up to be a nurse you have to do everything the job intitles you to do, male or female. Just because you are a man does not mean you cant do pericare on a women. Being that nursing is a female majority, what would happen if female nurses refused to do the same thing?

BearyPrivate · Apr 8, 2008

Doesn't matter as long as the person pulls their weight. :nurse:

Becca608 · Apr 8, 2008

I'd like to qualify my prior reply...

I like working with any person that carries their own weight...

But I do not want to want to work with anyone that may/may not carry their own load, but feels that they must drag everyone else's weight with them...straight to the charge nurse.

I'm not even out of nursing school yet and just observing the tattle tales is already getting on my nerves! I've spent so much time working professionally with men that I have forgotten how B@#$#3 some women can be. Grow up ladies!

aeronursenj · Apr 8, 2008

I have worked on Med-surg, Peds-Er and the Peds floor and in my opinion the guys I work with where easier for me to get along, ONLY because they where there longer and knew what it was like to be a new male nurse. I (personally) experienced the heavier patients and the familes who are hard to handle and I have even called the "hostile" doctors do to the different reaction I get from them. Then I got tired (after a year) and spoke up (nicely) and have found that since I did not let the right people know what I was going through I allowed it to happen. The guys I worked with listened to me complain (as they complained as well) but they did nothing to change it for themselves either. Things are alot better now. I do every now and then get the "heavier" patient, but then they offset it with an extra assignment to give to the tech. I get the hard family, because I have a calming attitude (that is what my manager said to me) and do not mind listening to the families complain (It was part of my previous job). So although when I started out the male group was easier for me, I have now transitioned to as long as they carry their own weight and are competent I do not care who I work with. Just my 2cents.

(hope this makes sense, it is my fourth straight day of 7p-7a and it is catching up to me.)

sfsn · Apr 9, 2008

My ideal situation would be to work with an equal number of men and women. I like working with men, and I like working with women. But since our field still seems to be female-dominated, it is so nice when I get to work with men for a change. I also think it is valuable to our patients and to society to see the caring side of men.