Question for the females about working with a male in neonatal

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Have any of you ever worked with a male nurse in neonatal? If so, how did you feel working with him?

May sound like a frivolous question, but I'm asking as a male nursing student: I'm in my 2nd semester, and just did neonatal clinicals about 3 weeks ago. I was definitely NOT expecting this, esp since I don't have any kids of my own, but I found that I really enjoyed the neonatal. Not simply because it seemed so laid back (although I certainly didn't mind that aspect of it), but largely because I found that it was 10 times easier and far more interesting to do all my assessment stuff. I found that by the 2nd day I was even going out of my way to ask my instructor to do XYZ, when I had never really done that much in clinical before. At least not with the same level of interest. Too - and I don't want this to sound petty or unprofessional - but since infants obviously don't talk to you, you don't have any kind of verbal distraction interfering with your assessment. (Granted, I don't doubt that they make their bodily complaints known in other ways :) )

Now I would be lying if I said that I didn't have at least a couple of awkward moments. I felt completely clueless doing my first diaper change, and my first feeding, and had to bum help off of the mothers in my clinical group. Other than that, though, it was all good.

But I'm wondering if people don't find it strange to see a heterosexual male working in neonatal. Again, I don't mean to come off as frivolous or unprofessional, but the notion does seem a bit weird, even to me - despite the fact that I found that I enjoyed it so much. I can already imagine some old, grumpy, Mother-Superior type of old-school nurse who would just have a cow if she saw an actual male nurse handling babies. Ever worked with any of those types? What are your honest thoughts on this? I don't mind hearing your real opinion, whatever it may be. You can PM me if you want.

Sorry this was kind of long-winded, but this is something that's been on my mind a lot lately. I've discussed this already a bit on the male student's forum, and am kind of curious as to what experienced female neonatal nurses think. Thanks in advance!

I have heard positive remarks from the majority of the nurses I have come in contact with so far. One nurse said to me "it is weird that you want to work in the NICU." I enjoy it though, it's not weird to me.:wink2:

I'm a male and plan to work in the NICU when I get done. I'm doing an externship this summer in the NICU. I love it! I think most people think of it as rocking babies, but I like most of the things you mentioned. It's ICU, you see a lot of "weird" stuff (most adult ICUs it seems get the same thins over and over again), the patients aren't there because of smoking/drinking/eating/etc, and - from a man's perspective - no heavy lifting! I can't tell you how often I get called only to help lift heavy people on med-surg... :-)

I think I was the only guy who loved the OB rotation because I got to do newborn assessment and spend a day in the NICU. The charge nurse when I was there was a guy as well. All the nurses thought it was great that I wanted to do NICU.

Right on! I agree with you in particular on the smoking/drinking thing. Not that I have any problem whatsoever with adults that have problems due to smoking for 40 years, or what have you. But it's interesting to work with human physiology in its most "raw" and untainted form, via the infant, if that makes any sense.

And yes, it does seem that back problems would be lessened in NICU, though I'm sure there's still a lot of bending over and such. What do the experienced nurses out there think?

Specializes in NICU.

There are 2 guys in the unit I am in now. The only thing I think might be a bit awkward is breastfeeding help. (we have a lot of level 2 babies) But they know more about breastfeeding than any other men I know!

Specializes in Neonatal ICU (Cardiothoracic).

As far as not having to deal with the patients themselves abusing their bodies with ETOH, drugs, tobacco, etc, you DO have to deal with the fallout of a pregnant mother abusing her unborn baby with these substances. We see a quite few crack babies, meth babies, moms who are chronic narcotic users, IUGR d/t tobacco, etc....

The babies themselves are not too heavy, but we DO have pretty heavy isolettes, and we have the same monster 4-channel IV pumps in some units.

My occasional back pain in NICU is more from hunching over a radiant warmer or isolette doing procedures, or shoving around 400lb isolettes all shift. It's nothing compared to the pain from cleaning up 400lb people who refuse to move in bed.

Specializes in NICU.

We have quite a few men and the ones I have worked with have been fantastic. I say go for what are interested in.

Our unit is open 24/7 except for change of shift and yes there are parents that barely ever leave. You get to teach a lot. I even see the guys teaching new moms how to breast feed and they do such a good job.

As far as not having to deal with the patients themselves abusing their bodies with ETOH, drugs, tobacco, etc, you DO have to deal with the fallout of a pregnant mother abusing her unborn baby with these substances. We see a quite few crack babies, meth babies, moms who are chronic narcotic users, IUGR d/t tobacco, etc....

Yeah, but somehow it's easier to have sympathy for a baby that had no choice in the matter. It was done to them by someone else.

Specializes in Neonatal ICU (Cardiothoracic).
Yeah, but somehow it's easier to have sympathy for a baby that had no choice in the matter. It was done to them by someone else.

True....

But crackhead mommy still shows up to visit, and you have to deal with her, too.

True....

But crackhead mommy still shows up to visit, and you have to deal with her, too.

yeah...that's true...

As far as not having to deal with the patients themselves abusing their bodies with ETOH, drugs, tobacco, etc, you DO have to deal with the fallout of a pregnant mother abusing her unborn baby with these substances. We see a quite few crack babies, meth babies, moms who are chronic narcotic users, IUGR d/t tobacco, etc....

hardest part of the job is knowing sometimes what kind of home you are sending those little ones into.

Specializes in Level III NICU.
True....

But crackhead mommy still shows up to visit, and you have to deal with her, too.

And then ask if every little thing that you are doing to the baby hurts.

Funny story about a man that I work with. His name is Bob. We have all taken to calling him "Uncle Bob." We've all gotten so used to calling him "uncle" that we don't even think about doing it in front of parents. We get lots of funny looks when we tell a parent that "Uncle Bob is your baby's nurse today," but after they have been there for awhile they start to call him "uncle" too. One night, a dad was leaving the unit and was saying goodnight to us all, and he goes, "goodnight Uncle Bob!" as he walked out. It was really funny.

Specializes in neurotrauma ICU.

As a mother who had two children in the NICU, as well as a NS, I can tell you that the male nurse we had (the only one in the NICU) was one of the best RN's. I had no problem with him, nor did I think it was "weird" to see him in that setting surrounded by female nurses.

Go for it! It sounds like your heart is in it, and that is what is most important. :up:

I just finished my nicu clinical too. There were several males in the unit, one of which I had the chance to work with personally. He was very knowledgable and just as equipped to care for the babies as his other female coworkers if not better...and they absolutely LOVE having him as a member of their pod. Besides, if nicu is truly your passion don't let something like gender get in your way-you'll do great :wink2: good luck!

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