Last night we had an ostomy nurse lecture us and she told us this story: One day she had a pt. who undergone an ARP ( rectum taken out and orifice sutured shut), and she proceeded to tell the man's partner that they will no longer be able to have intercourse rectally. The homosexual couple was distraught, and then the pts. partner asked if he could have intercourse with the man's stoma.:banghead::banghead:When she first told us this it just went over my head, then it settled in and we were all like... ewww. My question is as a nurse how do you handle situations like these. I know its not good to make faces and especially not to judge, but if a pt.s partner asked me, I honestly wouldn't know what to say. I know I'll show respect and empathy, but I'll be lost for words.