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In response to my post - my cousin was advised that the flu vaccine could take her out of remission therefore she should not be immunized as would do more harm than good. I am not doubting her story as she lost a job she loved and cannot work in the health field again unless she submits to the vaccine. I don't have access to her records so you can quote whatever research you like but that is her story.

My cousin was a pharmacist with history of Cancer. Was advised by her employer that she had to have flu shot. Her oncologist advised her against it so she refused. She was fired.

It is horrifying to hear of these stories. Unfortunately we cannot go around with video cameras like police do. So sorry you went through that!

Did you send a thank you post interview? That seems to be a big thing with some HR/Nurse Managers. In the thank you you let them know that you are interested in the job as well as thanks for taking the time to meet with you.

Where is that job offer? maybe I'll go for it:)

Immediately during interview process.

Please find a new job. Yours is not easy and will never get easier. There are less stressful nursing jobs out there. Your health and life are more important than continuing where you are.

I worked at one that was local to my house - great reputation. It was small, 33 patients but medications and treatments were very heavy. What got me was the politics - what a joke. The administrator and DON were a thing - the DON never showed up to work when scheduled leaving me to work alone. The CNAs ran the place - administrator would put it on me to straighten out the issues yet whenever I tried to fix anything, he sided with the aides. I loved the patients but I refuse to bend to politics. God bless all staff in LTC - it takes a heart of gold to put up with the crap.

I love the smell of alcohol wipes and change of shift!

It is a sad day in healthcare when you even need a law like this in order to give nurses entitled break time. It should be common sense.

I hope you heal quickly! just make sure you take the time to take care of yourself and don't push it. Good luck in your recovery.

Sorry for all your heartache - I hope your move goes well and life gets better.

You can't change what people think of you; you can only change yourself. I would let it go. I remember cross training for mother-baby unit and being promised the next job. Well, brand new nurses were getting directly hired to unit and I kept getting floated there but not hired. The Nurse Manager apparently knew my husband in the past and took it out on me. Needless to say, I finally had enough of the politics and gave notice - she then told me she would get me there for the next opening but I had to decline at that point as I felt misery would follow. I never could play politics! Just keep doing your job and smiling - you are better than having to beg to be recognized for your worth.

I agree with all prior comments. One I would like to add is Learn to say NO. Although you need to be a team player, it is not your job to staff the floor 7 days/week. You need your days off to recoup so when asked repeatedly to do extra shifts, know your limits.

HI all I am planning to move to SC within the next year or so. First question is what do I have to do to obtain a SC license? I am from NJ. Secondly, I would like to move to the Myrtle Beach area - are there any insurance companies around that area? I do workers compensation, GL and auto claim. Wondering on job leads. Thank you for any advice.

I was also admonished for crying when another nurse quit two weeks before. She told that my behavior was totally unprofessional and unbusiness like and she cannot have that type of behavior in her office. My stress level has been at such an all time high that when my friend quit, I did cry because she was awesome to work with, and was my "Rock". I had left my boss a message the other day asking her to call me back to discuss this whole situation and I just received a certified letter stating that there is no need for any further discussion but to respond if I am planning on returning to work. I am shaking so hard I can barely type. Stress is a horrible thing to go through - I did my god's honest best with her company, made her a ton of money in the process, and now get shot down for being human. I just feel like I will never find a job that I love again - I really loved my job, just not the pressures, I am not sure that nursing is even for me anymore. A pat on the back saying you did a great job goes a long way, and it seems like nurses never get that -

Again, thank you so much for your supportive statements. I know I am a good, dedicated and much too loyal nurse. I am very outspoken and my boss has acknowledged that time after time in a joking manner. I stand up for what I believe in, whether right or wrong, but now I am being penalized for being that way. I cannot change who I am, just learn how to deal with it and move forward. It is just very hard to learn to relax when you are used to running at 200%. I feel like I ran into a brick wall and for the life of me, can't get up right now. I know nurses always take care of everyone else first, and that part of my personality needs to redirect itself towards myself right now. AT least my husband is very supportive (still doesn't understand but is supportive) and my heart really goes out to all of you who are responding to me. It really helps to hear from others that I am not alone in this feeling. Thanks again so much. YOu can't imagine how much your words are helping me:)

Thanks for all your replies. I am sitting here crying reading them because I feel nobody understands. My friends are great support but they are not nurses, and my husband just says "relax, let it go". He doesn't get it. Anyway, again thanks for your support. I know I am doing the right thing - by the way - I had received a letter from my boss asking if I was returning to work, and I spoke to our 'hr' person (small office) cried my eyes out to her and told her I left message for boss to call me. I received an email stating that 'boss' does not plan on returning my call, just wants to know if I have plans to return, or did I quit? She has such a 'big' heart:(

First, I am getting my head back together and my confidence. I feel like I was totally unappreciated and treated inhumane - when you are producing and producing at such a high speed everyday, then to be told that your behavior was unprofessional when I have tried to be professional by admitting I cannot do it all, I am in school for my case management cert. and eventually will finish my BSN (8 classes to go)_but that is its own stress. Right now I am feeling so deeply depressed that it takes all I have to walk to dog. I have never been like this before, and it is quite frightening to not have control of your feelings. I have a follow up with MD and counselor next week and see what they say. Thanks for your response. It is quite lonely when you feel like this.

I have or had, not sure any more, a great job. I have been managing a very large caseload of disability cases, was given the additional responsibility of training three new nurses, and then was placed on four new projects that my manager gave me. This, because she needs an 'energetic person' to get it all done. I went to her and my immediate supervisor and told them numerous times that it was too much, I can't do it all - was told that they didn't have a choice and went over why each nurse couldn't do it. Asked me for my suggestions on how to handle such work - I couldn't give any answers since I was so overloaded and stressed out. Anyway, had my review which was satisfactory, however was told that my behavior in the last two months was unprofessional and unbusiness-like. When I stated to my manager to look at what was being given to me in the last two months, she stated "I cannot take full responsibility for that". I lost it, have been crying to no end, can't get out of bed - was placed on meds within the last two months to handle the stress. Now in counseling - out of work right now. Any advice or suggestions. I desperately need some input from you guys. I am out of control with emotions right now. Thanks.

I found your posts (pPM) Interesting. I am curious as to where you are in this. did you go to an attorney, have you gotten another job yet, and what happened to that offer and your issues with them; and most importantly, how are you feeling. I am in NJ if you need anything.

You sound exactly like me. I have also been nurse for 14 years and have endured all types of injuries and just landed a case management position, starting next week. It is a total officejob, computer and phone skills. I suggest something like that, alot of insurance companies and private case anagement companies also provide that. Try calling a nursing placement service or post on monster.com. There are hundreds of lighter nursing jobs on monster. Also, if you post headhunters will call you and then you can describe to them what you are looking for. Good luck to you. Keep your spirits up and don't let anyone tell you you need experience. Explain your skills and demonstrate what you can do, not what you can't do.

I applies and was offered employment in outpatient mental health setting. Required PE and background check. I had physical in which I was honest. I suffer from chronic pain r/t nerve damage in neck/shoulder. Have been monitored by MD for 10 years, on pain meds for same. Even saw pain management MD who concluded appropriate pain meds needed. Saw new job MD who stated she was concerned about my neck, and stated " I am concerned about your neck, and if needed, I will contact you for note from your personal MD regarding situation". I did all the exercises she required and she stated that she did not see any evidence of mobility disorder, and left it that she would get back to me. I wasn't even in the door from this physical and my new boss called, stating that this MD placed me on severe limitations, No lifting, pulling, pushing or anything strenuous. I explained to her my medical history (Pain/nerve damange from car accident and fall 20 years/10 years ago and that I have been maintained the same for last 10 years, pain medication and no limitations. It ended up that they declined me for the position due to failing my pE, even though I brought to them my personal MD's letter stating no limitations, and also my pain management MD's report that also states no limitations. Mind you, I have been doing heavy physical work for the last 14 years, this has never been an issue in any job I have had, and this new job in an ambulatory outpatient center, with the occational patient who 'may fall" Do I have any legal recourseZ? I did read up on the discrimination law and it does state an are of prephysicals, but it also states that employer cannot assume that one cannot perform job if has done it previously. I would appreciate and and all comments, I am crushed. I have been waiting already two months to start this job, and have turned down interviews with other places since getting this job offer. It was my dream job. Please advise.: I

I would like some advice. I posted one time long ago and haven't kept up but here goes. I work in a state facility, on a med-psych floor. Our censes can be 33. Today we are 25 + 5 in outside hospital, with 2 returning today. I also had 2 1:1on unit, one of which is very unpredicable. My staffing is usually 3 nurses, (1 charge, 2 medication nurses) and 5 aids, not counting the ones needed for 1:1's). Today, we had 3 RN's, 2 LPN's which were working on the floor, 6 aides. Two aides got pulled leaving 5 aides and 2 for 1:1's. Then they wanted to pull another aide leaving us short. I argued this point, and then staffing called back pulling an RN, whch would leave no charge nurse, with two patients returning from hospital and charting on 1:1's. Again I fought this as the charge nurse was being pulled onto another unit to pass meds. My unit always works short, we are the hardest (and I am not lying)physically and high mentally unit in hospital. There are 11 units, only one other has medical patients, the rest are psych. Anyway, I refused to go which would have left my unit short so that another unit could work staffed. Big argument ensured, and I left. Now, I have never done this in 14 years of nursing but I am so frustrated with staffing issues and administration just seeing us as numbers, not in patient acuity. Then, as I was leaving, they were trying to pull 2nd RN from unit, leaving us even shorter. What is wrong with this picture. I have talked, written letters, turned blue in face with adminstration over staffing issues and they just turn the other cheek. Any advice, suggestions, anything!!! Very frustrated RN

Lisa, I, like you, experienced that type of behavior when I was a student, and also as a new nurse. I have now been a nurse for 14 years and can tell you that I am very friendly and helpful to new nurses because of my past treatment. However, I have to say that I believe the attitude is because of the staffing situation. Nurses are overworked and overstressed, and I believe that they look at a student nurse as "another thing to do" to add to their amount of work. Please don't take it personally and try to keep up your good attitude. It will pay off in the end, and just take this experience with you when you are precepting any new students or nurses on your floor. I thought that nursing would be one great sorority and we would inspire each other, but unfortunately it seems we are our own worst enemy.