Midlife452

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   Trying to get ready for the NCLEX while grieving my husband

   Midlife452 replied to Midlife452's topic in Nursing

   Thank you so much for your words. This is exactly something he would say to me.
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   Trying to get ready for the NCLEX while grieving my husband

   Midlife452 replied to Midlife452's topic in Nursing

   Thank you, so much, for your words. Part of me just wants to take the test and see what happens. I'm trying so hard to get myself ready to prepare for it. I just don't want to let my husband down. Thank you, Davey Do. This is very good advice. I'm trying very hard to keep myself to a schedule, but sometimes I get completely derailed by these waves of grief. But, I'll keep trying...
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   Trying to get ready for the NCLEX while grieving my husband

   Midlife452 replied to Midlife452's topic in Nursing

   These are good suggestions. Thank you so much. Actually, the UWorld program and app are exactly like that interactive quizzing you were talking about. It's really an excellent way to learn. And, I'm an old-fashioned file card girl from way back. I'll definitely put those to work again. I've heard of Anki but never used it. Maybe I'll check it out. Unfortunately, my attention span is so short and very foggy. I feel like I really want to get this out of the way, but I really don't want to fail it and then have to take it all over again.
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   Trying to get ready for the NCLEX while grieving my husband

   Midlife452 posted a topic in Nursing

   The advice you guys gave me was pretty wonderful the last time I posted. So, I'm hoping to get some good feedback, again. I graduated in December. A lot has happened since then, including losing my dear husband rather suddenly about 2 months ago. I've had to reschedule my NCLEX test date several times over the past few months (two of the dates were too close to my husband's passing). I have rescheduled my test date for the end of June. That means I have about 3-4 weeks to study. I'm using UWorld and a Youtube lecture series. I'm trying to study 2-4 hours a day, but it's just not happening. I cannot concentrate on my study material and I am constantly drifting off. Has anyone else experienced this? Any advice you can offer? I really don't want to reschedule again. My husband and I sacrificed a great deal for me to become a nurse and his greatest dream was to see me become a nurse. I want to make him proud, but my heavy, sad heart is blocking my nursing brain and I'm worried I will fail the boards. Thank you, in advance, for any words of advice you can give.
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   Husband Died—Looking For Low Stress Job Recommendations

   Midlife452 replied to Midlife452's topic in Nursing

   This might be a good idea. I'm not on good speaking terms with God right now so I don't want to belong to a church, but I think you're right that they would have some good connections.
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   Husband Died—Looking For Low Stress Job Recommendations

   Midlife452 replied to Midlife452's topic in Nursing

   Thank you for your advice. I started casually applying for some vaccine positions. I cannot imagine how difficult it has been for you with four children. I can barely manage myself in my present state.
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   Husband Died—Looking For Low Stress Job Recommendations

   Midlife452 replied to Midlife452's topic in Nursing

   I'd actually never thought about Dermatology. A friend of mine is doing her orientation at a clinic and she loves it.
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   Husband Died—Looking For Low Stress Job Recommendations

   Midlife452 replied to Midlife452's topic in Nursing

   Thank you, so much, for your advice. Solid advice, indeed. It's been about a week or so when I initially posted this and, right now, I'm doing a little bit better. I've accomplished a lot of tasks and been as busy as I want to be. Resigning from my position was a very, very difficult decision but I know it was the right one for me. And you're right about the cat... he definitely lets me know when he needs to be fed, LOL!
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   Husband Died—Looking For Low Stress Job Recommendations

   Midlife452 replied to Midlife452's topic in Nursing

   I'm definitely going to check this out. Low stress and will keep me in the healthcare loop. Thanks for the suggestion!
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    Husband Died—Looking For Low Stress Job Recommendations

    Midlife452 replied to Midlife452's topic in Nursing

    Thank you for your kinds words. Ironically, there are myriad new challenges in grief that I never knew existed. I feel like I'm conquering them, LOL.
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    Husband Died—Looking For Low Stress Job Recommendations

    Midlife452 replied to Midlife452's topic in Nursing

    Thank you. My "widow's fog" is definitely one of the main things that had me questioning my return to my critical care position. I submitted my resignation and feel a tremendous sense of relief. I'm studying for the NCLEX right now and as soon as I pass that, I know I'll have more options opening up.
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    Husband Died—Looking For Low Stress Job Recommendations

    Midlife452 replied to Midlife452's topic in Nursing

    Would I qualify to be one? Sounds interesting.
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    Husband Died—Looking For Low Stress Job Recommendations

    Midlife452 replied to Midlife452's topic in Nursing

    Thank you. Yes, that is exactly what I am doing. I'm studying right this second for the NCLEX (UWorld all the way)! We didn't have kids, but I'm okay in the income department. Thank you. I've been looking into public health, home health, school nurse. This is my second career (I was easily 20-30 years older than all of my nursing school classmates, LOL) and I am very thankful that I chose nursing as my chapter two. I know I'll be able to find a job anywhere.
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    Husband Died—Looking For Low Stress Job Recommendations

    Midlife452 replied to Midlife452's topic in Nursing

    Thank you for your thoughtful reply Thank you for your thoughtful reply. It sounds like you may be acquainted with the path of grief, too. I'm only 6 weeks out and his was a traumatic death, so I am in the right place right now on my grief timeline. I decided to resign from my position at my hospital. My managers were incredibly supportive and understanding. As soon as I submitted my notice, an incredible sense of relief came over me. I know this was the right thing to do. I'm sorry for your friend's mom. It sounds like she is stuck in the awful comfort of her grief. I don't know why her counselor doesn't recognize complicated grief. This is good information! Thank you. When you say "small" clinic, how many patients are you referring to?
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    Husband Died—Looking For Low Stress Job Recommendations

    Midlife452 posted a topic in Nursing

    The title pretty much sums up my situation. My husband died suddenly 5 weeks ago. We have no children. I need to go back to work in order to pay bills. I am a recent nurse graduate. I haven't even taken my boards yet. I started a good job on a great unit. I was there for only 1 month, still orienting, when my husband passed. I work on a cardiac/ thoracic/ Covid step down. While my patient load is low, it can be very stressful, including many codes. My husband coded twice before he died. I don't think I can participate in any codes. I am exhausted from my grief. I am deep in the middle of "widow's fog" where I can barely remember if I took my medication or fed the cat or locked the door. I do not think I will be safe to go back to work on a step down unit. Ultimately, the question I have is, can anyone suggest any low stress nursing specialities (inpatient or outpatient) that would hire and train a new grad? Before all of this happened, I was ambitious, curious and driven. Now, I just want a job that I can punch in/ punch out/ go home. I would really like a remote job, but I know that most of them require at least 1 year of bedside experience. I know this is going to be a stretch, but I could really use some guidance, suggestions, help, etc.