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"Great minds discuss ideas; average minds discuss events; small minds discuss people." Nursing is full of the last one and it has nothing to do with gender. Good luck!!

Hello again!! Im back with news, after quiting nursing last year I am in University again studying Computer Enginieering and I love it. I really enjoy building software and i will find a way to help people in spite of quiting nursing. That was an horrible moment of my live, leaving nursing, but i am more happy now. Now i am in an enviorment that i am comfortable, with no gossip at all, just being productive and learning new things constantly, my opinion is heard and i am not treated like a kid, i am treated like an adult. Good luck for all

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Yes i wasted it, i am kind of depressed about it and people are calling me sexist LOL and having no empathy about the situation. Because i am a man i have to be strong, double standards.

Im not sexist at all, i said it was my problem having difficulties to work with all women because i cant deal with the constant gossip for example. I felt vulnerable being the student there i couldnt express myself like i really am, i wasnt comfortable in that place particularly maybe in another place i would have been better who knows. I have no problem with all the girls of my class i have a very good relationship with them. I realize i cant choose the place i am gonna work in the future so i have to deal with that kind of problems or leave. I choose leave. I will be more calm just working with my computer.

Thank you, that's what i wanted to say

You are judging me basing your opinion in a few posts you read ok. I didnt treat any of them bad at all you just imagine that reading my posts lol. I just say to them thank you for everything and leave. Frankly they treat me very bad but it is impossible to you to know it because you were not here to see it. That's it.

I was friendly, i was working hard, i was doing everything i have to do but the problems come at me anyway. You cant judge the whole situation basing your opinions in several posts i wrote.

Lol i am a sexist? Why? Ive just said i had problems to adapt myself in a women working enviorment. Imagine you work in the construction with all men, it would be hard right? The other things i said in my post are true except the steroytype that is my point of view. Good luck and im not a sexist at all.

I understand both are difficult OK.

I am male student who was studying nursing in Europe, I quit and i really feel very bad at the moment because i really enjoy helping people. Why I quit? It was really difficult for me to adapt to a women enviorment in general. I know a lot of men who can feel very comfortable in a women dominated enviornment, not my case. I really try very hard to connect with the people in the unit but it was impossible. I dont have nothing in common with them. Another thing why I quit was because everybody was treating me like shirt, some patients, doctors and even coworkers, no respect at all. People are saying that the stereotype is disappearing and it doesnt exist anymore, in my opinion that is not true, what i percieve is that there is still an stereotype for men in nursing, is fading yes but slowly. I felt that if I continued nursing I was going to feel bad in the future because in my country there is no carreer progression in nursing or very little carreer progression, you can expect a salary of 1.500-2000 Euro each month for the rest of your life that´s it. Now I have to redirect my carreer to something else, i am coming back to computers maybe that is my niche. I will try to help people in another way maybe with robots and computers i can create something for people in need. Thank you very much and it was an honour.

In Europe you go alone to a hospital and work with the staff. It was my first experience in the hospital and they let me alone with the staff, people are judging me saying that i have thin skin when they dont have any idea what i have been going through. I had to integrate myself to a staff that had been working together for a long time and the majority of them didnt want to teach just finish their work and leave. They didnt assign me anybody to teach me, they give me their work while they were playing with their mobile. Anyway I just want to say that I AM NOT IN AMERICA, so dont judge me like if i was there.

why? I quit my clinicals because my university offers me another opportunity in june, it was my first time in a hospital, i didnt want to have a bad experience because of a bad work enviornment. So if I change/quit clinicals Im done as a nurse right? I dont have any second opportunity? Thats what you are saying?

Yes, thats true but I put it in just the men´s forum, i would like to have a general opinion if it is possible, if not i will remove it.

I am a second year male nursing student of a 4 year nursing program an this is my story: I had a bad experience in the hospital I chose because they were not used to teach students, they just gave me their work and sit around with their mobiles without teaching me anything. I felt like a slave. They didnt pay me attention, i was trying to integrate myself but i didnt get any response from them, they felt offended all the time with all I said. I am not from USA, I am from Europe and my school offers me another opportunity in june in another hospital for the clinicals. I dont want to quit nursing, i really enjoy my time with my patients, but I dont know how to deal with a bad work enviornment when i am the student and i am even more vulnerable in that situation. So now after quiting clinicals i am doubting myself about my hability to cope with these situations. I need any advice and some encouragement. Thanks a lot

Ive already quit my clinicals to do it in another place in june. One of my friends had the same experience as i had before in that hospital. I am keeping just with theoric classes right now Now I am doubting my self if nursing is really my calling or not....

This is my story, I thought going to nursing was a good way to make a change in others people lives and have work stability, that´s why i choose nursing. I have very good marks in general in my course the first year but then I had clinicals for 2 weeks and I have felt isolated most of the time inside the hospital. I felt invisible to everyone, I have nothing in common to talk about with all the female staff and 6 hours at the hospitals seems like 12. They were just gossiping about everyone and I felt kind of strange in that enviorment. I had a problem with a nurse and they treat me different so I felt that the whole team was against me so i finally left clinicals. Now I am thinking about keeping with the nursing program and try another hospital for the clinicals or just leave the nursing program cause if that enviorment is common in the majority of the hospitals i can´t handdle it I think. Any advise would be welcomed, thanks.

So sometimes im feeling isolated all around women, I am a new male nursing student and Im feeling a little bit isolated in clinicals, most of the time in the break time that they speak about their things and there is nothing to do. any advice? how to behave when im feeling unintegrated?

Thank you so much for writing your experience here, it was an open eye read, it help me, thanks.

But I think you are right with what you said, i will follow your advice and if i see something wrong i will try just to keep it to myself while i am learning, thank you very much for the advice

Agree with everything? If a detect something that is not right and I say it, it can turn against me I know it, but i dont know if i am going to be capable of shut my mouth...

I start clinicals on monday, my friend warned me about the instructor I am going to have because she was with her last semester. She is telling me about how bad she is, that she is very tough and I am gonna have a bad time and a bad experience. She had very bad marks in clinicals, just 5 out of 10 and she is a very good student in general. I am a little nervous cause is my first time in a hospital and this bad experience my friend had is putting me thinking too much about it. Anyway I am a guy and I have very good marks in general if that changes anything. Any advice is welcome, thank you very much and sorry for my english I am not from USA.