Pregnant and terrified NICU nurse here...

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Hello, my fellow NICU buddies...I swear this is NICU related. I had some concerns plus since you guys "see" me the most here, I thought you'd all like to know how the heck I'm doing.

I'm pregnant (12 weeks) and terrified. Now, I know that all NICU nurses are probably paranoid throughout their pregnancies, but I'm really scared. At 5 weeks, when the little bugger declared itself, my normally borderline hypertensive (130/85) BP shot up 25-30 points, I gained 10 pounds of fluid in my lower legs (pitting edema), and I had 3+ protein in my urine. My doc made a comment about if I "intended to keep this pregnancy" then I needed to get to a high risk OB immediately. Yeah, that's what you want to hear, first off. (Actually, I had kinda known for a week already thanks to a HPT, but I was seriously convinced that it was an HCG-secreting cyst because I have PCOS, am overweight, and was told by my reproductive endocrinologist that the chances of me conceiving naturally were slim. Plus I checked for ovulation that month and had no surge. :uhoh3: )

So anyways, I called my endocrinologist (who also does in vitro, etc., so I figured who better for a high risk early pregnancy) and left a message. Not fifteen minutes later the nurse calls back and squeaks, "Can you come in tomorrow morning?!?!" Great, now I'm even more terrified!!! So anyways, definitely pregnant, definitely hypertensive, definitely spilling protein, definitely low-end-of-normal progesterone level. Since 5 weeks I've been on Glucophage for the PCOS (to prevent miscarriage) and progesterone suppositories. The endo sent me to a high risk OB at 10 weeks and that doc decided I could go low risk OB at this time. I also had a visit with my urologist (have one small kidney stone and microhematuria, so I ended up getting a bladder scope in the office - fun! :o ) and a nephrology consult. All in all, my BP is back down to normal, lost most of the 10 pounds, less edema, no more protein in the urine, creatinine's been stable at 0.6-0.7, - but I do have to take my BP twice daily, get monthly urine cultures (to r/o a silent UTI due to my kidney stone), and eat a low salt diet.

Anyways, NOW for the NICU part...

First of all, with the PCOS I'm at a high risk for miscarriage and a high risk for gestational diabetes. I want to stay on Glucophage for the long run, but the OB wants me off of it because it's a category C drug. The endo feels it can go either way - he says it will help decrease the chance for gestational diabetes but that it's up to the OB to decide whether it's safe or not. My endo is a huge fan of the med in general, but the high risk OB was extremely skeptical of me even being on it during the first trimester and I get the feeling she hasn't seen the studies that show its use dramatically decreases the chances of first trimester miscarriages in the PCOS population. Have any of you seen any babies born to moms with PCOS or gestational diabetes who were on Glucophage (metformin) that had any birth defects or problems? I haven't, personally.

Second of all, because of the BP and protein issues, I'm at a 20% risk for pre-eclampsia, whereas most women only have about a 7% risk. So I'm very scared about that - this is what is scariest to me, I think. I keep picturing myself being on mag sulfate, having a crash c-section at 23 weeks due to HELLP syndrome...

Finally, the issue is this - I'm delivering at my hospital, because of insurance reasons and the possibility of the pregnancy becoming a truly high risk one, in which case our docs are great. The problem is that if my baby does need to go to the NICU, it's my OWN NICU. I don't know how I feel about that. I love my unit and I know he/she would be VERY well cared-for. I just think it'd be completely awkward though! Have any of you had that experience? I mean, if the baby was really early, it's not like I'd be able to go back to work in the time between birth and discharge from the NICU! I'd have to take such an extended maternity leave, I just don't know if we could handle it financially. I just don't know what to think...

I guess I just want to hear stories from you guys - someone else out there has to have had a preemie in their own NICU. What was your experience?

And how in the world can I chill out about this? The OB gave me the name of a psychologist who deals specifically with pregnant women. I'm seriously considering making an appointment. I mean, I don't think I'm being totally paranoid here! I do have lots of risk factors to worry about. Do you guys think I'm freaking out for nothing?

Anyways, thanks for reading the whole thing!

Specializes in NICU.

Thanks again to everyone for their comments and stories. They help so much, and make me feel like I'm not the only one to have to go through this kind of thing. Good suggestions, guys!

I'm doing okay. I'll be 14 weeks tomorrow and I see my new OB for the first time (the big visit with the physical exam and all that) on the 17th. I was having doctor's appointments and labs 1-2 times a week for awhile there, so it's been strange to not have seen anyone for a few weeks now. I take it as a very good sign, of course, but I'm so paranoid. In 5 weeks, I saw the baby on ultrasound 4 times! Now I'm just going through withdrawls. I totally want to take the doppler we use for low BP's at work and try to find fetal heart tones with it. I've tried with my adult Litman but of course I can't hear anything yet. I just need reassurance that it's still there!

You guys are great.

gompers,

sorry to find this thread so late. though i did see the one where you said you have a big secret.

:balloons:congratulations on your pregnancy:balloons:

i am sooo happy for you and your dh. i used to work in nicu but it was so long ago i probably wouldn't recognize one nowadays.

you know us nurses - we all are mega-worrywarts. and as someone else mentioned, it gets worse once they're born. i know its useless to tell someone not to worry, but things are sounding good and we'll all be anxiously waiting with you for your little one's arrival.

fourteen weeks - are you showing yet? it's so exciting - take hubby's advice and try to calm down enough to enjoy your pregnancy. at least you can still enjoy your mac 'n cheese, right?

take care, and keep us updated, o.k?

Specializes in NICU.
Fourteen weeks - are you showing yet? It's so exciting - take hubby's advice and try to calm down enough to enjoy your pregnancy. At least you can still enjoy your mac 'n cheese, right?

Thank you for your kind words!

I think I am starting to show. I'm overweight to begin with, so it's hard to tell since I already had a nice round belly. But I haven't gained any weight - except for the 10 pounds of edema that I gained and then lost early on. Yet, my pants are getting tight and my belly sticks out more now instead of just being big all over. I'm very bloated still (probably due to the progesterone and metformin) so it's deceiving. The only time I can feel my uterus is when I'm laying down in the bathtub - something about the water makes it really easy to palpate my abdomen and I can really tell then.

Ya know, one of the surprise (for me) benefits of being pregnant was that I never had to worry about my posture, if my belly was sticking out. "YES, my belly is sticking out, and I have a good reason for it"! Then you deliver and have to go home in maternity clothes. That was another surprise for me. I do believe I am extremely naive.

Specializes in Med-surg; OB/Well baby; pulmonology; RTS.
Thank you for your kind words!

I think I am starting to show. I'm overweight to begin with, so it's hard to tell since I already had a nice round belly. But I haven't gained any weight - except for the 10 pounds of edema that I gained and then lost early on. Yet, my pants are getting tight and my belly sticks out more now instead of just being big all over. I'm very bloated still (probably due to the progesterone and metformin) so it's deceiving. The only time I can feel my uterus is when I'm laying down in the bathtub - something about the water makes it really easy to palpate my abdomen and I can really tell then.

I'm overweight too. When I was pg with my first baby, I was laying on the couch one night and asked DH if I was starting to show yet (I was 14 weeks). He told me after a few minutes, "Yeah, your roll (as in my roll of fat) is gone!" He's lucky I was pg and excited about showing! :lol2: ;)

I had to share that.

Thanks again to everyone for their comments and stories. They help so much, and make me feel like I'm not the only one to have to go through this kind of thing. Good suggestions, guys!

I'm doing okay. I'll be 14 weeks tomorrow and I see my new OB for the first time (the big visit with the physical exam and all that) on the 17th. I was having doctor's appointments and labs 1-2 times a week for awhile there, so it's been strange to not have seen anyone for a few weeks now. I take it as a very good sign, of course, but I'm so paranoid. In 5 weeks, I saw the baby on ultrasound 4 times! Now I'm just going through withdrawls. I totally want to take the doppler we use for low BP's at work and try to find fetal heart tones with it. I've tried with my adult Litman but of course I can't hear anything yet. I just need reassurance that it's still there!

You guys are great.

Don't get all Tom Cruise on us! :lol2:

With my first I went out and got one of those dopplers they sell in Babies R Us. It was really hard for me to find a heartbeat and it just stressed me out more so I returned it. :imbar

Specializes in NICU.
Don't get all Tom Cruise on us! :lol2:

With my first I went out and got one of those dopplers they sell in Babies R Us. It was really hard for me to find a heartbeat and it just stressed me out more so I returned it. :imbar

I was thinking about buying one of those, which I know are really more like amplifiers than anything. Or even buying or renting an actual doppler. But I think if I couldn't find the heartbeat because the baby was moving around, I'd be so terrified that it would cause me more stress in the end.

I can't wait until it starts moving, so at least I can have daily reassurance that it's still there!

I know what you mean. You've got a little ways to go yet. I think you can start to feel little kicks about 20 weeks.It's hard with your first because you don't know what to expect.

Specializes in NICU, PICU, MNICU.

Hi!

I'm late to the discussion, but here's my 2 cents.

I delivered at my previous hospital and didn't have a NICU admission, but many of my coworkers did. Some of them had difficulties adjusting to being a NICU mom instead of a NICU RN. Others had some issues with being a mom alongside of their former patients. On the other hand, my unit was very supportive and very professional. We didn't hear any "gossip" about our coworker, and I know that there was a great deal of collaborative care with the family in those cases as well.

I wish you luck with your experiences! I had pre-eclampsia twice, and it was worse the second time, but I never required meds, just bedrest (but that really stinks too!). You have the advantage of knowledge over so many other people who are having to deal with similar situations. That can be both good and bad. I think it's great that you were referred to a psychologist as well. You have a potentially stressful road ahead. Even if you have no further complications, you'll probably be stressing over the possibilities, so it would be great to have someone to talk with.

Kate

Specializes in NICU, Infection Control.

Gompers--been thinking about you. How's it going???

Specializes in NICU.
Gompers--been thinking about you. How's it going???

Things are going okay, thanks for asking. :)

15 weeks and counting...

I see the regular OB for the first time on Monday. I've been recording my blood pressure twice a day and it's been stable, same with my weight and edema. My nausea is much improved but has been replaced with reflux and a horrific gag reflex - I'm now taking all liquid and chewable medication because for the first time in my adult life I'm unable to swallow a pill. I'm still exhausted at times but I think it's because I am unable to sleep for more than 4 hours at a time for some reason. I'm taking it easy and trying to eat right (low sodium).

I'm still very paranoid though and am thinking of making an appointment with that psychiatrist. After a month of constant office visits and tests, it has been strange to have a month of nothing. I feel like I need reassurance that it's still there, you know? I'm showing all the signs - round ligament pain, sciatic (sp?) back pain, change in belly shape, etc. I'm just a paranoid freak is all! I think having someone to talk to would be a good idea.

Thank you all for your concern, stories, and well wishes! I'll let you know how things go on Monday. You guys are great! :)

Oh, when you mentioned the super gag reflex, all I could think about was when I was pregnant and had so much saliva I didn't know what to do with it. Lordy, it was terrible - between that and the nausea. Used to have a terrible time brushing my teeth - just looking at the toothbrush both brought on more nausea and more saliva. Haven't thought about that in a while!

Sounds like a good idea to check out the psychiatrist. Naturally its stressful, and having someone to talk with and get reassurance is always good.

Looking forward to hearing how you OB visit goes. :icon_hug:

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