I'm a new grad starting in the ER were I worked as a CNA for the last year of school. I am 40 years old and a guy.
I was assigned a preceptor who I knew would be tough but I have discovered that she is an abusive ***** (she actually said " my little sister who is not a nurse could get this!"). also she is not teaching me anything, just telling me how incompetent I am.
Now I know how to stand up for myself and all that, but I have a feeling that she is vindictive as hell and she is also one of the charge nurses.
I am not sure that complaining will help me because she will just say that I can't handle the job and that I am blaming her.
She has won awards and is a big deal in the eyes of the higher-ups....
She has also accumulated a lot of enemies in the ER with her abusive behavior but they all seem to be to scared to say anything...
So should I risk it?
I can probably survive, but have this annoying need to not let her get away with her bullying and abuse.
By the way I can totally handle the job ....
What I can't Handle is keeping quiet about all that I am witnessing and experiences.
Then you are aware of the no drama type of mentality. Unless that wasn’t part of your training? What about resiliency and mental toughness? That’s what I’m referencing. I never had the chance/luxury (choose whatever adjective fits your liking) to be a victim. Like I mentioned, was trained to look at both sides of the coin/spectrum.
Relates? ?
It relates since you mentioned, victim mentality. Based on my experience I’m more inclined to think he should look at other options rather than take it. My opinion though, could be wrong, right or needs improvement. Thanks be safe
OK, but you mentioned that someone else had the military/legal background, not you. That's why I wondered how it was relevant.
So, in a way I’ve been “trained” to look at different perspectives and not behave as the victim “why it only happens to me?” kind of outlook. It was not and still it is not allowed. In my particular situation, I was lucky I had that buffer since playing victim often times backfires. If not at the beginning, somewhere down the road. Eventually we show who we are, good or bad or in between LOL
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OK, but you mentioned that someone else had the military/legal background, not you. That's why I wondered how it was relevant.