I'm a 31 yr old nursing student/former desk chained IT project manager. I have felt more and more at home at my clinical settings as time has gone by, and I am absolutely ADDICTED to the ER. Other students like it, but I can feel my blood pumping faster just walking in the door wondering what we get to see, what proceedures we get to perform, what cases we'll get to see, and who we'll get to meet. It feels like 20 minutes went by and suddenly my day is over. I just absolutely positively LOVE it. I have been able to keep a caring but uninvolved feel about everything I've seen/helped with from psych patients, elderly, adult codes (not that I love when people code), brain bleeds causing emergency transfers out to specialty hospitals, the works. I don't enjoy that people are hurt, but I have really enjoyed being a part of the ER. It "clicked" for me I guess you could say.
Except for one thing... thus far, a child crying paralyzes me. I don't know how else to explain it. I tried to talk to my instructor about it and she just said "suck it up and do it, you don't have to like it". But its not like I don't like to hear a child cry. I am almost in panic attack mode when I hear them cry. I am terrified/saddened beyond words/feeling as horrible as you could imagine. I know that what is done is for their own good, but if someone were actually and truly torchuring a child in the next room, I cant imagine it being any harder than this to sit through. I don't know what is wrong with me. I just don't know how to get myself in check with these little kids.
I posted here instead of the student forum because I was hoping to hear from some seasoned nurses and see how you get through this? if its even possible to work through it or should I avoid what would otherwise be the ideal situation? I am literally immobilized by this feeling of dread/fear/sadness/heartache when I hear a child cry in the ER.
Its been 9 hours since I left and I still have a knot in my stomach. I wish I could take care of children, but I don't know how my heart will survive it. My preceptor said his first day working as a nurse someone walked in and said "my baby stopped crying" and handed him a baby that was not breathing (and that ended up dying). Is it possible to get comfortable with this? Maybe i need to look inward but I dont understand how I can have such "textbook" response to adult/teen emergencies and fall totally to pieces when a baby cries?
*I do have little ones at home (14, 3, 1) and I cannot even take the babies to get their vax because it breaks my heart to do it, so I send my husband
Please please help me if you can. If there is anything I can read, anything I can do... simply ANYTHING that can help me with this, or help me realize that while its ok it is not going to go away and I need to work in a different environment... I don't know. I just need to know that there are others who felt more intense than "not liking" working on a child.