Outcast in school

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I'm not sure exactly how to explain this, but I feel like nursing school is a lot like high school. There are a lot of little cliques, and I constantly feel excluded from everyone. It's really uncomfortable not having someone I can confide in or relate to. On top of that I am in the bottom half of the class, my grades are mediocre and I'm trying so hard to test better. Nursing questions are so confusing at times. Does anyone have any good advice or tips on how to get through this? I knew this would be hard, but being surrounded by so many negative, catty, and competitive people makes it even harder. I feel like I just don't belong, it's really uncomfortable. I guess I just don't see what other people see, not sure what is wrong with me :(

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I was the same way but did not feel how you are feeling i told myself im there to finish school not to make friends.

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Listen. Nursing school is hard. I'm sorry to hear you are struggling academically and socially. Hang in there. You will get the hang of things and sometimes it's best to "not fit in". You avoid A LOT of nonsense and stress. Good luck.

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In nursing school or any medical class you take you are going to have several of those negative, catty, competitive students who seem to enjoy making some students feel like they are a incompetent student. Fact is they are no more perfect then you because everyone in that class is in the learning phase of their career. Some of the best nurses are the ones who are wiling to teach and help others, if the students enjoy being catty, chances are it will eventually effect their career as a nurse by being unable to follow orders from their supervisors. This is the career you want and chances are you will never work with any of them so go after your dream of becoming a nurse and then when you graduate look at them and smile knowing you were as good as them in learning your skills and that their attitude didn't hold you back from achieving your degree.

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in my class there where only 3 guys including me and the rest where girls 15-17 girls , and they where all drama and gossip just like highschool sometimes is best to be a lone wolf . the other guys well one was gay and the other one was like 18 straight out of high school im 25 so we had nothing in common and i made it through my whole program on my own. you dont need none of that bs drama and i was a 78% student 3 terms and the last 2 terms a B student ....... you dont have to be perfect just focus on passing your classes and your ATI;s

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in my class there where only 3 guys including me and the rest where girls 15-17 girls , and they where all drama and gossip just like highschool sometimes is best to be a lone wolf . the other guys well one was gay and the other one was like 18 straight out of high school im 25 so we had nothing in common and i made it through my whole program on my own. you dont need none of that bs drama and i was a 78% student 3 terms and the last 2 terms a B student ....... you dont have to be perfect just focus on passing your classes and your ATI;s

you post out this why exactly?

seriously.

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may i ask why do you feel excluded? if you need some emotional support you can always come here to talk to us we are here you.

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Thank you for the support everyone! It's nice having people to talk to who can relate to my troubles.

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may i ask why do you feel excluded? if you need some emotional support you can always come here to talk to us we are here you.

I feel excluded because whenever I try to make conversation with anyone the treat me like an outsider or look at me strangely. I know I'm not the most confident person in the world, but damn suddenly I feel like I'm back in high school. I thought we were all adults

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Specializes in 6 yrs LTC, 1 yr MedSurg, Wound Care.
you post out this why exactly?

seriously.

I think he was just trying to point out that he didn't have anything in common with the other 2 guys in his class. He did mention that the other guy was 18 straight out of high school.

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I would knock a ***** out 👊👊haha JUST KIDDING. Ignore them. You're there for you. No one else. Don't let them get in the way of your future. You got this!!

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Specializes in 6 yrs LTC, 1 yr MedSurg, Wound Care.

My suggestion to you, sister, is to find the person you feel is the "nicest" in these cliques and try to be somewhat of a friend to her. I'm not a very outgoing person either, but I always try to be friendly and help out other people when I can, which has helped me a lot when making friends. Just keep a smile on and be approachable.

If you know about an assignment coming up that's going to be difficult, do a little research ahead of time and have a little something in your back pocket so you can help out and be an asset.

And like andyyedm said above, you can make it by yourself. It makes it a little more difficult, but its nice to have someone at school you can talk to. Family and friends just don't have much of an idea of what you're going through.

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