One Thread Wonders

cleback · Dec 21, 2018

Meh, I assume a good percent are trolls... like the one who was going to be a prostitute because, you know, money... or the one that said "my coworker was inappropriate with a patient and I told her she should've been dressed." Yeah... no.

The run of the mill "make my life decisions for me" don't bug me much.

audreysmagic, RN · Dec 21, 2018

Ah, this reminds me of good ol' Flounce Bingo.

audreysmagic, RN · Dec 21, 2018

All.
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Time.
I am especially curious about the "Should I attend ? "to which experienced caring people try to warn them from making a huge mistake and the inevitable SST (scammy 'school' troll) plant assures them all is well and that we know not of what we speak.

I feel like the SSTs are probably employed by said scammy schools (say that three times fast!) or graduated from one and got a job despite all odds and thus has a chip on their shoulder about someone dissing THEIR SCHOOL. With all the scammy schools out there, I think I stressed more about picking a school for my MSN than I have over some of the finals now that I'm in the program!

FWIW, I knew a co-worker who enrolled in one of those scammy schools for her FNP...she was barely a competent floor nurse, but told her the school PROMISED she'd have jobs dropping in her lap. No idea how that's actually worked out for her (we didn't exactly stay in touch), but I know if I walked into a doctor's office and found she'd be my NP, I'd probably go to the bathroom and not come back...

Davey Do · Dec 21, 2018

Some of those I attribute to people not being told what they want to hear.

Could be, Charlee.

But the thread that inspired this one was from a brand new member who bared their soul about their problem. A few other members and I gave empathy, support, and sound advice and I went back to check sometime later on the progress and found no replies from the new member.

So I checked the posting time and then checked on the last activity by the new member. There was a difference of two minutes, which means the newbie bared their soul, requested guidance, waited two minutes, and then never came back!

Now, I'm all for the second step of the problem-solving process where data is sought through a technique termed "shotgun effect". The technique involves requesting feedback by hitting everybody in sight- you know- ask anyone you come in contact for advice. Perhaps the newbie used that technique and found the advice they were looking for elsewhere.

But to not contact those with whom you bared your soul, that's sort of cheap.

It makes me feel used.

And *dirty*.

Davey Do · Dec 21, 2018

But the thread that inspired this one was from a brand new member who bared their soul about their problem. A few other members and I gave empathy, support, and sound advice and I went back to check sometime later on the progress and found no replies from the new member.

Okay, I found a thread that fits into the catagory of a One Thread Wonder:

https://allnurses.com/general-nursing-discussion/competencies-1179162.html#post9990721

This new member posted a concern, waited 11 minutes, and never returned.

Members gave some really good responses, too.

Ado Annie, ASN, RN · Dec 21, 2018

I may or may not be guilty... well, I didn't disappear, but it's possible I didn't go back and thank those who responded either. I will make a point to do that.

(blushes and ducks)

SpankedInPittsburgh, DNP, RN · Dec 21, 2018

Perhaps they just got the advice they needed and got on with their life.

thoughtful21, BSN, RN · Dec 22, 2018

Confession... sometimes I feel like since I took all the time and thought and to type up an answer :D ... even if they can't respond, they could at least just hit the 'like' button, right?

That's weird that some only stay for a few minutes. Maybe they think of it more as a 'help hotline' or a live chat like Apple customer service.

HomeBound · Dec 22, 2018

Thank you. They can't just put it out there, get the answer (whether or not they like it) and be done? Why not? Do you need validation that your advice was taken or sound? Does it make a difference if they think we're genius level or a bunch of jerks? **shrug**

I get your feeling, Davy, but really...what it sounds like is....if someone doesn't "acknowledge" advice here, then they aren't going to get any advice?

Perhaps they "knew" their answer and simply wanted input. They got it. You don't have to be logged in to read replies here. I've read topics that applied to something I was struggling over---and nobody ever knew I had that problem...because I read the replies and advice, and took it to heart (or I said to myself...what a reactionary bunch of.....I certainly will never ask advice on THAT topic)

Davey Do · Dec 22, 2018

You know, in retrospect, I believe I needed to name this thread "One Post Wonders", as I was focusing on new members who post once and never return.

Oh well- an interesting discussion ensued.

Thanks everybody!

Editorial Team / Admin · Dec 23, 2018

Thank you. They can't just put it out there, get the answer (whether or not they like it) and be done? Why not? Do you need validation that your advice was taken or sound? Does it make a difference if they think we're genius level or a bunch of jerks? **shrug**

It's not about validation. It's about the advice being appreciated. The world we are in is, at times, quite unappreciative. When advice that is given isn't appreciated, why should those with experience continue to give it?

Davey Do · Dec 23, 2018

You know, in retrospect, I believe I needed to name this thread "One Post Wonders", as I was focusing on new members who post once and never return.

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