Tonight I got a call from my 3rd client that she thinks her water has broken. She feels small "bursts" of fluid when she gets up / lays down, etc. So I told her to take her time, pack her stuff together and go to hospital. She'll call me when/if admitted.
But.. I'm feeling nervous. I feel like I'm going to screw up somehow, say the wrong thing tonight, or whatever. Maybe have a nurse that just wants to battle with me (this happened my first birth, I just kept my mouth shut and took it
) But I just want to be helpful. I want to be the support this mother-to-be expects.
I feel like I don't know how to "emotionally" support someone. In the doula training, they focused so much on physical comfort measures, that I go back through my notes and binders and don't see much about emotional support. What are the right things to say? How do you be emotionally supportive?
On my last two evalutations (the scale is 1 worst to 5 best) I got all 5's on everything except a 4 on "Were the techniques used by the doula helpful to the mother in handling emotional aspects of her labor?"
I usually have great confidence, am convinced I know what my job is, etc. But I'm just not feeling it tonight