Nursing school as a single parent

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I am currently an Lpn and want to finish my RN. My mom (who didn't raise me) offering my daughter and I to move in with her and go to school. Rent free and she will help with my daughter. I already feel burnt out being a single parent and working full time. I see people on here who stay in there own places and make it work. Anybody have any experiences with this? I love my independence but I feel like moving, working and saving money until I get into a program is smarter than staying and struggling. Everybody I have talked to agrees except my father. I think his opinion is more that he hates my mom and I would be moving 2 hours away. If I move and lose my job and great apartment and it doesn't work out I'm stuck. I'm recently divorced and I kinda like the idea of packing and moving somewhere new but still close. I struggle with making "permanent" decisions. 😬 Any advise is appreciated.

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Things that should be considered... Do you know your mom well enough to know that you can live with her? Is your mom someone that you would want spending a lot of time with your daughter? Are there strings attached to your mom's offer that aren't yet apparent?

Only you can make this decision. Families are complicated things at times and I know from personal experience sometimes the cost is too great to take help. Weigh the pros and cons. The answer may be easier than it first seems.

Good Luck!

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Hey thanks for the reply. Yes I trust my mom with my daughter. My mom didn't raise me so we don't have to usual parent child relationship. My plan is daycare assistance once I'm in the program also. Around here we don't have a Lpn to RN ladder. You have to wait for someone to drop or flunk out. I could move and be debt free when I'm done. My concern is making enough money once I'm in school full time if I stay. I would need about 2500 a month and even working doubles on the weekend I wouldn't make that. Plus study time and time with my daughter. I don't see how it's done.

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I went to get my adn at 41 as a single mom. I had a 40 hour a week job and school was in the evenings and clinical on the weekend . My mom lives 5 miles from me so she came over to watch my daughter who was in 4-5 grade. It was a lot but I did it!

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Does your child's father have partial custody? Will moving two hours away impact your child's visits with their father?

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This is exactly what I did. I am not close to my family AT ALL. But after my divorce my parents asked me to move in to one of their homes (rent free) so I could go back to school. It does make it easier that I am not technically living with them, I am living in one of their homes...so I don't see them that often, which makes it doable. They help out a lot with my daughter which I am grateful for.

If it wasn't for this opportunity I would probably still be living paycheck to paycheck working as a PCT- struggling. So my advice, suck it up and take advantage. You need to do this for you and your daughter.

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