I'm beginning to think Nursing school either brings out the worst in people or makes them insane.
Last year I became friends with a group of five ladies in school. We all got into the ( bad) habit of emailing back in forth while stressing out and waiting for test scores to be posted . Once they were, we would all share our scores, so we could share kudos with each-other and relieved sighs that we had all survived another test. The first semester this was no problem, as it is relatively easy compared with what was to come.
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Fast forward to Feb. 2009- first semester of Med- Surg. Three of us, "Tina," "Jessica "and I fail the first test along with ½ the class. Those of us in our little clique who passed are of course full of sympathy and pledges of support to help so we all pass next time. I take the time to re-evaluate my study strategy, switch it up, and learn to study smarter not harder. I work my butt off, have no life for the next two weeks and pass the next test with 94%, not only re-couping my points to be sitting in a safe zone. On test day, after scores have been posted, I discreetly share my score with nobody, being unsure if my two friends who failed the first test did well. I tell only two of the other women, lets call them Jane and Sally only when they ask me. Jane takes it upon herself to tell Everyone my score ( without my consent). Tina has failed the second test also. How do I know all this? Because she calls me the next day and says "Jane told me your score- how did you do it?! I failed this one too-can you help me?" I do so to the best of my abilites, but sadly Tina fails the final two tests and does not join us in the next class.
April- Jane has been acting strange towards me- I try to ignore it, a s
Jane has also been having health and family problems so I chalk it up to that, try to not make it all about me. I ease up, and start to distance myself a bit, not sure what's up, but too busy and stressed out to focus much time on it. Long story short, Jane begins to flat out blow me off, and me being totally confused finally gets Sally to confide in me. Sally reveals Jane thinks I was "gloating" and "boastful" about the test I did well on!!!! Excuse me??!!! I hardly told anyone, and the only reason anyone besides Jane and Sally know is because Jane Told them!!
So I say screw this, Nursing school is hard enough without this drama. I remove myself from the group and find others to hang out with. Sally and the others are still polite and friendly to me, but Jane completely ignores me now. This is all coming up again because classes started again this week. My wounds have mostly healed, but what I still can't stomach is being socailly ostracized for such a crap, not to mention untrue reason. So my long rambling leads to this:
Have any of you experienced this nonsense??? What is up with this catty over-competitive crap??
Oh, and lest anyone chalk Jane's behavior to age, she's in her 40's- chronologically at least she is supposed to be mature.
this sounds frighteningly familiar to what im going through right now. i have a major drama queen in my nursing class and shes managed to try to turn everyone against me and a few other people for things that didnt happen because she created the drama in her head. i dont understand why its so hard to just be civil because you spend so much time with these people. i didnt sign up for this drama, i signed up to make a good future for myself. i dont need someone making me feel guilty for things that didnt really happen and having everyone else be on her side and thinking im a huge *****. people need to grow up.
Would you tell your coworkers how much you earn ? Sharing grades is like that. It can only inspire jealousy or cause drama. I did that as a newbie and will always hold fast to this rule. Work in the future will be like school is now. I don't share grades/salaries/bonuses/evaluations/kudos from my boss/anything but the hows the weather and how bout the panthers. Anything else is a risk. :)
brokenroads27
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this sounds frighteningly familiar to what im going through right now. i have a major drama queen in my nursing class and shes managed to try to turn everyone against me and a few other people for things that didnt happen because she created the drama in her head. i dont understand why its so hard to just be civil because you spend so much time with these people. i didnt sign up for this drama, i signed up to make a good future for myself. i dont need someone making me feel guilty for things that didnt really happen and having everyone else be on her side and thinking im a huge *****. people need to grow up.