"Hardened" Healthcare Providers - page 4

I recently floated to the ER and witnessed such poor ethics in two nurses and paramedics I was astounded! The EMT team brought in an extremely morbidly obese woman in respiratory distress who was... Read More

  1. by   PANurseRN1
    Quote from miracle1986
    Today- It is hard to find a nurse who is intelligent in the field of nursing and has a reasonable amount of compassion and patience...etc...then the BIG one --having any HUMILITY towards the patients.
    I was innocently in a horrible car accident. After being life-flighted and coded 3 times and was bedfast with a Hoff-man device in my crushed pelvis for 3 months.....I ONLY REMEMBER ONE NURSE THAT TOOK CARE OF ME....she cried with me becasue she had so much compassion for my pain. That in itself is pathetic. Of all the nurses, I remember one. All the half-wit nurses practicing this 'profession' need to be the paitent for awhile. Then, we would see alot of change. (OR alot of nurses leaving the profession !!!)
    Maybe you don't remember other nurses because you were being coded three times. Kind of hard to remember who was/was not compassionate to you in that situation. And just because a nurse doesn't cry with you does not mean she's devoid of compassion.

    You want to know what I'm tired of? Nurses who post about their "half-wit" colleagues and other such derogatory terms. Those kind of comments do nothing to make nursing cohesive.

    One other note: Were it not for the care of those uncompassionate, half-wit nurses you had, you wouldn't be here to post about them. Or are you going to say it was only thanks to the doctors that you survived?
  2. by   Simplepleasures
    I was on way home from a third shift home care job, when I was broadsided by a pickup truck going 50 miles an hour through a red light. My car was totaled and paramedics had to get the jaws of life to extricate me from the car.I broke several ribs and had a heart contusion and severe bruising, went into shock, etc. When I got to the Trauma dept of a very prestigious hospital, the Xray techs, yelled at me to get myself off of the gurney I was on and onto the Xray table, because I was too fat and they were not going to hurt themselves, I had trouble breathing , so I bet they did not hear the expletives I tried to say to them. Aftr the Xrays it was evident how badley broken my ribs were, THEN they appeared all concerned, "oh no dont move yourself, we will do it", I did report them to the head of the ER department.I hope they learned a lesson.
  3. by   lmfj
    In response to such an issue where the client and co-clients can here this unprofessional talk it needs to be addressed individually. As nurses, we play a role in leadership by advocating for our client's and eachother. I would have pulled these people aside and confidentially reminded them that the client's could here them and this is unprofessional behavior. It does not have to be rude, or mean, it just has to be said. Never forget, we are advocates, this is our job. have confidence in yourself. Just because you are a new graduate does not mean that you aren't as much apart of the team as everyone else!
  4. by   NicoleRN07
    Just tell the involved parties that their actions were inappropriate. I am a firm believer in being honest with each other. Not only will your co-workers develop trust in you, but you will gain respect as well.
    Last edit by NicoleRN07 on Mar 2, '07 : Reason: wanted to add
  5. by   withasmilelpn
    The only reason to become 'hardened' is to protect your feelings from the assault of tough situations health profesionals deal with daily. The trick is to maintain your humanity. Treat everyone how you want to be treated is something we all learned in Kindergarten. All of us need to vent and should. Just be aware and sensitive to your surroundings. That situation was uncalled for. I think you should bring it to their attention as well. I still knock on my patients doors after 15 years of working in the 'real' world of nursing. You can't abandon the basic principals of treating others with dignity and respect just because the things you have seen have made you jaded.
  6. by   cwinlv
    I also notice nurses label many, many patients as drug seekers when I don't agree with their assessment. Why do so many nurses feel that if a person asks for pain meds, they are a drug seeker?
  7. by   AliRae
    Quote from motorcycle mama
    They need some NEW coping methods.
    I try to stay out of heated threads like this one, and can already feel the flames that are going to be thrown my way, but I can't help myself ...

    How can any of us pretend to understand someone else's coping mechanisms? Who am I and who are you to judge how someone else finds the release they need to sleep at night? This isn't to say that the people in the OP should have been venting at the desk, but if they needed to vent or smile or laugh, they should be allowed to. If an EMT or a paramedic needs to smile about a little kid's bashed in head (as disgusting and awful as that seems), they should be allowed to.

    We're all human, and we're all trying daily to deal with some of the most de-humanizing events and circumstances this world can throw at us. So what if I laugh during a code? If it gives me the strength to come back tomorrow and code another kid, I'm sure as heck going to do it.

    Please. Don't pretend that you know better than someone who has a different method than you for dealing with his or her demons.
  8. by   AmandaBrittainy
    Quote from schooldays
    That's for sure true, but the fact that you don't seem ashamed of it shows that at some point you veered off the path of proper patient care and can't find your way back. All that "psychosocial BS" and the "nursing school way" is why nursing is supposedly a profession. MOST nursing care I have seen is substandard and makes nurses look just one step above someone on the line at McDonalds. I say have some self-respect and practice professional nursing.

    This is probably the most scathing post I've ever made on this site, but one thing I can't handle is sloppy nurses who use the excuse that they've been around and this is how it's done!
    I do not agree with that hogwash, either. Nurses that dont want to care anymore and act professional should leave the field (I think they end up in admin eventually - we know a lot of higher management just doesnt care).
    I think this is a bigger problem than most of us realize. How can our nurse managers take us seriously that we are understaffed when half of the staff members manage 12 smoke breaks per night and sit on the internet all night long. It drives me crazy that these people are in the nursing profession giving the rest of us a rotten rep for being calloused and nasty old hags. :angryfire
  9. by   stpauligirl
    Man o man I just have to butt in here
    I had terrible digestive trouble post-op and had to go to the ER, I spent a significant amount of time in the bathroom.....in agony and discomfort, mind you. Outside the door I heard someone say in a loud and laughing matter: " We've got one here on the ******* !!!!" Well, after I was done I opened the door and yelled really loud that "the one on the "*******" is done!!!!!!! Of course I realized that I took the risk of being perceived as nuts for yelling that loud but it got their attention because
    a very sympathetic nurse assured me later that those "juveniles" would be straightened out.
    Last edit by stpauligirl on Jun 24, '07
  10. by   ladylynx
    Quote from NicoleRN07
    Just tell the involved parties that their actions were inappropriate. I am a firm believer in being honest with each other. Not only will your co-workers develop trust in you, but you will gain respect as well.
    If only this were true...I have often been labeled a rebel and been shunned, so I have learned to send letters to the entire chain of commands and be ready to quit. In general, people would not be able to do this (bad behavior) if the "higher chiefs" cared. There is a fine $, states HIPPA. If you only heard what those higher chiefs said and do at conferences and meetings.
  11. by   gonzo1
    The ability to treat these challenging patients with dignity and respect is what separates the grownups from the kids. Fortunately I work with a bunch of grownups who know how to vent and grieve in private and not in front of the patient.
    Every career path has people who do not belong there. We can only hope that they are quickly weeded out.
  12. by   cwinlv
    I re-read this post months later and wanted to say thank you to everyone who responded! I am starting my first RN position tomorrow (I was previously a NAP) and I want to remember what being a professional is all about. While I may develop my own ways of coping, I pray that I will always treat my patients with dignity, respect, and compassion. I vow NEVER to publicly disrespect or humiliate a patient as was done in the example posted. That's not just psychosocial "babble" but respect for human dignity. Again, thanks to all.

  13. by   LCAlpn
    Quote from tencat
    Uh.....wow. It's not 'psychosocial BS' to treat a human being like a human being. That means we keep those conversations in areas that patients can't hear us. I've participated in those conversations before, and they are necessary to handle the job, but it's really NOT professional to do this in front of patients, etc regardless of your role as a provider.
    Not only is it unprofessional it is ILLEGAL. They absolutely violated that woman's right to privacy. According to HIPPA, only the government is allowed to do that!