nursing eating young

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I have been doing a lot of research on nursing and one of the things that caught my eye was the saying "nurses eating there young" is there any rns,lpns, or cna that could explain this??

Specializes in CCU, SICU, CVSICU, Precepting & Teaching.
I see you are totally against that saying, but I wonder if you are one of the nurse that do eat the young. I will be more them happy to look up the word nety.

First, please use the "Quote" button.

Second, you have no basis to judge whether anyone who responds to your rather ignorant post is a nurse who "eats their young" as you admit to not even knowing what that is. Except that it's probably negative. Green Tea took the time and energy to attempt to answer your question and you respond with THIS? It is not constructive to respond to someone who took the time to educate by accusing them of something you know to be negative, nor is it very nice.

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Specializes in Pediatrics, Emergency, Trauma.
You've just offended domestic violence survivors with this piece of nonsensical bovine excrement. Obviously, you have ZERO idea what you're talking about because you have never experienced domestic violence. I'm happy for you. But you still have no idea what you're talking about.

"Blaming the victim" is a whole different thing than asking the perpetual crier of "NETY" to take a long look at their own contributions to all of those interactions they find uncomfortable, negative or less than satisfying. No one should ever be hit, kicked, punched, shot or knifed by an intimate partner. Ever. (Unless, of course said intimate partner is in the process of attempting to kill or rape THEM, but that's another argument.) Uncomfortable interactions are a whole different thing entirely. All too often, newbies claim "NETY" so they don't have to take responsibility for their own mistakes, errors in judgement, faults or wrongdoing. Or they mistake the professional work environment where everyone is expected to step up for a harsh environment because no one has told them how wonderful and special they are so far today. Or possibly they've mistaken a worn out, overworked preceptor for a bully because the gentle nurturing guidance they were expecting didn't materialize and the preceptor's teaching style is more along the lines of an adult expecting another adult to follow along.

I've seen getting angry, but rarely have I seen yelling. Unless it's between surgeons and pulmonologist, cardiologists or nephrologists, but that's another thread all together. I have seen snatching -- in the rare instance when a newbie persists in doing something stupid even though the preceptor is trying to catch his attention to get him to STOP doing that. I once snatched 20 mEq of KCL out of a newbie's hand -- he'd drawn it up and was attempting to give it IV push no matter what I told him about that not being a good idea. Preventing harm to the patient was more important than further attempts to protect the young man's ego. I watched a preceptor snatch Mrs. Robert's blood out of her orientee's hand when the orientee was getting ready to spike it on Mrs. Thomas's IV -- but I also saw multiple tactful attempts to interrupt the orientee before any snatching took place. I saw an orientee body block an intern one time to prevent him from pushing the "zap" button on a defibrillator on a patient whose ECG LOOKED like V fib but whose art line showed perfect regular contractions.

Thank YOU. :yes:

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Specializes in Behavioral Health/Substance Abuse.

I have not experienced "nurses eat their young" phenomena myself. I have had wonderful nurses that I looked at as mentors. On the other have, I have experienced lateral violence in the workplace, as a nurse. I don't consider the two to be the same.

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Sorry cant get the quoting thing together. RUBY LEE GREEN TEA. You guys are probably the nurses that "eat their young" and are just flat out mean for no apparent reason.

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Specializes in Pediatrics, Emergency, Trauma.
Sorry cant get the quoting thing together. RUBY LEE GREEN TEA. You guys are probably the nurses that "eat their young" and are just flat out mean for no apparent reason.

In what way are they being mean?

There's no tone on the Internet...

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Instead of thinking one is being "mean", how about understanding where they are coming from?

Look at their responses in forums, get to know the poster before making the assumptions that they are being "mean"...one could make the assumption that you are attacking posters when they have answered your question, have miles of experience and actually help posters; their delivery is direct and to the point; that's not being "mean"; if anything, they doing you and many the favor of showing the honest, bare-bones reality that is needed to survive and thrive in this profession. :blink:

You are young in this profession; understand when one is trying to give you the best advice to not have a chip on ones shoulder when receiving a message; rather, take the message and use it to YOUR benefit.

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Specializes in OR, Nursing Professional Development.

Here's the thing: if you go into a job expecting to see "nurses eating their young", you will find it. Attitude plays a lot into how one views interactions with one's coworkers, and preconceived notions may indeed mean one will see honest, constructive criticism as NETY. However, if one goes in with an open mind, one will most likely see the constructive criticism for what it is: a way to mold novice nurses into safe, competent nurses. NETY, like the word bullying, is far too overused for situations that aren't NETY or bullying, and the words have become so diluted as to not mean what they are intended to mean anymore.

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Ladyfree28. From the way they are answering my question i wouldnt want there or your advice about nursing.

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ROSE QUEEN , that's what I wouldn't except to hear coming from a nurse that is teaching me, Rather them ALWAYS point the finger and blaming the new nurse. I feel sorry 4 the nurses that GREEN TEA & LADY FREE have to teach.

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Specializes in OB-Gyn/Primary Care/Ambulatory Leadership.
Ladyfree28. From the way they are answering my question i wouldnt want there or your advice about nursing.

Okay, then go away.

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Specializes in OB-Gyn/Primary Care/Ambulatory Leadership.
ROSE QUEEN , that's what I wouldn't except to hear coming from a nurse that is teaching me, Rather them ALWAYS point the finger and blaming the new nurse. I feel sorry 4 the nurses that GREEN TEA & LADY FREE have to teach.

Now you're just being a poop stirrer. What exactly do you want here or hope to achieve? In under 20 posts, you've managed to insult THREE longtime valued members here, because they dared suggest that NETY is more often an issue of the new nurse, rather than the preceptor. Now, I don't necessarily agree with what GrnTea and Rubyvee wrote in this thread, but they both have made some valid points. You can choose to disregard them, but don't insult them. Grow up.

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Specializes in Pediatrics, Emergency, Trauma.
ROSE QUEEN , that's what I wouldn't except to hear coming from a nurse that is teaching me, Rather them ALWAYS point the finger and blaming the new nurse. I feel sorry 4 the nurses that GREEN TEA & LADY FREE have to teach.

:laugh:

Oh dear, you have NO idea.

Again, spend time looking at posts and look at my siggy line...no need for the chip. ;)

Best wishes...

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Specializes in Pediatrics, Emergency, Trauma.
Ladyfree28. From the way they are answering my question i wouldnt want there or your advice about nursing.

How am I answering your question?

Do you not appreciate honesty??

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