There is this older nurse that works on our unit - not sure how long she's been a nurse, but it's probably close to how long I've been alive - and she just has the nastiest attitude. She grumbles every day she comes in, complains about her assignment, complains about our NM, complains about the decisions of the charge nurse, and honestly, I think her face would crack if she ever smiled. She basically ignores me (I am a baby, afterall at 25), which is fine, but what I don't get is how she feels like she is justified to be so negative. I can't stand her energy and feel like she really brings people down. Maybe I am young, afterall, and am just a green new grad . . . BUT I absolutely love my unit and love the other nurses that work there - and who wants a labor nurse that is all sullen and impersonable???? Just my rant . . . Be thankful for the job you have, because I fought with 50 other applicants to work here! Thanks for listening! (or reading, I guess.)
I agree with RaeT,RN and that I haven't figured out the "35 weeker" joke by prmenrs. However, this is :offtopic:
I've had some experience in behavioral health and have also dealt with and had talks about it with counselors. Generally what happens is what I call a "vicious cycle." There is some negative person that brings you and others down, however most people's reaction is to ignore/avoid the person. By doing this the others are feeding this behavior by strengthening the person's resolve to be the way they are. Most of this occurs like second nature, without much thought, because all parties have trained themselves to react this way in this situation. I agree with the others that if you want something different, then you need to really talk with them and this includes listening. It seems to be almost a miracle in America for someone to do this. That's a different topic and not this one. Also, communication is 2 way and not hearing but listening. You have to talk with them and ask intelligent questions to get to know them. For many people, this is basically all it takes, someone who'll actually take a moment to talk to them about themselves. As others have written, many times you'll find out they are in a bad situation, "recovering" from one, or other sort of thing. There are some "bad apples" out there, but they are just hardened cases of negative type people.
Here is the seemingly requisite disclaimer/disclosure: I know this is a generalization and not true in every case, see signature. However, if we are to understand, we have to group things together and therefore generalize.
Specializes in Specializes in L/D, newborn, GYN, LTC, Dialysis.
35 weekers can GO EITHER WAY....
when born, they either breathe, eat and do well...
or they crash.
They can come out "doing fine" only to "crump" (develop breathing difficulties and drop blood sugars into the basement, or become septic)----a few hours later.
Hence: "never trust a 35 weeker"...you never know they will do---act like a sick preemie or do fine more like a full termer. YOU MUST WATCH EM like a HAWK!
It sounds like a case of job burnout. I'm not a nurse (only a student) but I've been there, and the view ain't pretty! A burned out person needs to decide whether or not the stress and anger of being in a job he/she hates is worth it. People stick it out for many reasons; retirement is looming on the horizon, the pay and benefits are good, etc. I didn't stick it out because I was miserable and knew that I was negative and bringing down my collegues and myself.
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I agree with RaeT,RN and that I haven't figured out the "35 weeker" joke by prmenrs. However, this is :offtopic:
I've had some experience in behavioral health and have also dealt with and had talks about it with counselors. Generally what happens is what I call a "vicious cycle." There is some negative person that brings you and others down, however most people's reaction is to ignore/avoid the person. By doing this the others are feeding this behavior by strengthening the person's resolve to be the way they are. Most of this occurs like second nature, without much thought, because all parties have trained themselves to react this way in this situation. I agree with the others that if you want something different, then you need to really talk with them and this includes listening. It seems to be almost a miracle in America for someone to do this. That's a different topic and not this one. Also, communication is 2 way and not hearing but listening. You have to talk with them and ask intelligent questions to get to know them. For many people, this is basically all it takes, someone who'll actually take a moment to talk to them about themselves. As others have written, many times you'll find out they are in a bad situation, "recovering" from one, or other sort of thing. There are some "bad apples" out there, but they are just hardened cases of negative type people.
Here is the seemingly requisite disclaimer/disclosure: I know this is a generalization and not true in every case, see signature. However, if we are to understand, we have to group things together and therefore generalize.
Hope this helps.