I am currently seeking surgery and have come upon a troublesome situation. For the surgery I am seeking it requires approval from 5 different healthcare providers. I got approval from 4 providers and was not surprised the 5th provider, who is a dietitian, wanted more follow up care. I did not mind doing more follow up care but I chose not to go with that dietitian, for this post we can call her "Sam". Sam told me several times during the evaluation that she did not read my chart or any of the questionnaires she had required I mail in and most of the appointment was spent with her advertising milk products, even though I told her I was lactose sensitive.
When it came time to schedule a new appointment, my nurse coordinator called me and lightly tried to coerce me to see Sam again. I refused and made an appointment with another dietitian. The day before I was set to make the 2 hour drive to this hospital, the nurse supervisor calls me because Sam has told her to audit my chart because I was seeing another dietitian. She tells me that she is cancelling my appointment with my new dietitian and that I can't just switch providers like that and goes on and on about how she prefers I stay with Sam. I stood up for myself and told her that I would like to see a new provider and it was my right to choose. She then told me that in that case the appointment could not be made with my new provider until 2 more weeks.
I went through the conversation and got really annoyed that the first time I had any contact with this nurse supervisor was her trying to bully me into waiving the right to choose my providers and punish me for not wanting to keep being seen by Sam. I called her back and she did not answer and I left a message saying that I did not appreciate her bullying. The next few times I spoke to her she asked me to come back to the hospital and meet her the new doctor she had hired.
When I went to this appointment with this new doctor, it was just the doctor telling me that because I was mistrustful of the staff I was no longer eligible for surgery. The doctor went on further to tell that I had no right telling the nurse supervisor that I would not see Sam again and that she had heard the voicemail and that I should seek care elsewhere. They had me drive 2 hours so that they could tell me that I could not have surgery because they did not like me because I would not see Sam.
Before speaking with this nurse supervisor and Sam, I had great relationships with all of my healthcare providers and was set up to have surgery next month. The only thing that has changed between that time frame was the nurse supervisor disliking me.
Was it against hipaa for her to share my voicemail and phone calls with the new doctor? Also, I feel very mistreated and want to do something about it, what can I do?
Who are you referring to? I did not tell anyone not to reply because of who they were, rather the content of their comments. She said she didn't know how to answer the question and I told her she did not have to reply. Are you really asking me why I am asking a question if posters will never understand the situation better than the people involved? This really shouldn't have to be stated because this is a forum for nurses who should have undergone some training in psychology and human communications. In any situation you are asked to weigh in on, be it with friends or online, you have to know that you are not going to know it nearly as well as the people who have experienced it firsthand.
Specializes in Oncology, Rehab, Public Health, Med Surg.
Why are you on this message board? Or any other for that matter? You seem to have quite the problem registering that you will not know the situation nearly as intimately as the people in them, yet you keep replying with useless information. If you don't know what else I want to hear or what else to say, then stop commenting.
I am not sure why you are not getting that my main goal is not to complain to my hearts content, I wish to understand and maybe repair the situation because I liked the hospital.
Thank you for stating for the third time it was not a HIPAA violation, I did not need you too because unlike some, I possess the skill of reading comprehension and understood when you said it in your first post.
More to the point is why YOU are here going on like this
JustBeachyNurse is a valuable, well-respected member of this community that spent her time giving you well-thought out responses. i agree 100% with JBN
You asked for feedback--you got it. Sorry if its not the validation you were hoping for....
Specializes in M/S, LTC, Corrections, PDN & drug rehab.
Who are you referring to? I did not tell anyone not to reply because of who they were, rather the content of their comments. She said she didn't know how to answer the question and I told her she did not have to reply. Are you really asking me why I am asking a question if posters will never understand the situation better than the people involved? This really shouldn't have to be stated because this is a forum for nurses who should have undergone some training in psychology and human communications. In any situation you are asked to weigh in on, be it with friends or online, you have to know that you are not going to know it nearly as well as the people who have experienced it firsthand.
I quoted you so I am referring to you. Like I said, this is a public forum so anyone can post and so anyone can reply. Yes I am asking why you posted that question because you stated that no one will understand it than the people who were in the situation. Why does having training in psychology & human communication matter?
JustBeachy is a very educated nurse & a well respected member of AN. You should know when you post online that you won't get responses you always agree with, there is no reason to get so riled up.
I thanked JustBeachyNurse for replying, What more are you expecting? You can get into a defensive mode because she may be you friend but the fact is she asked me why I was here and I returned the question. I was not disrespectful towards her.
If you think that I was seeking validation, you have not read and/or comprehended the post. I took no issue to JBN disagreeing with me in any of her comments, only with her making assumptions.
Specializes in M/S, LTC, Corrections, PDN & drug rehab.
I thanked JustBeachyNurse for replying, What more are you expecting? You can get into a defensive mode because she may be you friend but the fact is she asked me why I was here and I returned the question. I was not disrespectful towards her.
If you think that I was seeking validation, you have not read and/or comprehended the post. I took no issue to JBN disagreeing with me in any of her comments, only with her making assumptions.
You thanked her originally then your posts got snarky.
Who is GrnTea? I am not riled up or angry in the slightest. Again please refer to comments and read to comprehend. JBN and I disagreed on some points and I took no issue with that. As for how understanding psychology and human communication affects how you perceive human interaction and give advice, I'm going to leave that up to you to figure out if you ever have the pleasure of getting that training.
Specializes in Oncology, Rehab, Public Health, Med Surg.
I thanked JustBeachyNurse for replying, What more are you expecting? You can get into a defensive mode because she may be you friend but the fact is she asked me why I was here and I returned the question. I was not disrespectful towards her.
If you think that I was seeking validation, you have not read and/or comprehended the post. I took no issue to JBN disagreeing with me in any of her comments, only with her making assumptions.
I'm not defensive at all.
You were confused-you specifically asked the questions-as to why JBN was here on this message board; I clarified for you that she is a well-respected member of this
Specializes in M/S, LTC, Corrections, PDN & drug rehab.
Who is GrnTea? I am not riled up or angry in the slightest. Again please refer to comments and read to comprehend. JBN and I disagreed on some points and I took no issue with that. As for how understanding psychology and human communication affects how you perceive human interaction and give advice, I'm going to leave that up to you to figure out if you ever have the pleasure of getting that training.
This is exactly what I am talking about. Your comments are underhandedly rude, condescending & snarky.
JBN also got snarky but I don't see you addressing any of that. My posts merely mirrored hers.
Please show me where. I have looked through her posts & she is direct with you but not rude like this.
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Who are you referring to? I did not tell anyone not to reply because of who they were, rather the content of their comments. She said she didn't know how to answer the question and I told her she did not have to reply. Are you really asking me why I am asking a question if posters will never understand the situation better than the people involved? This really shouldn't have to be stated because this is a forum for nurses who should have undergone some training in psychology and human communications. In any situation you are asked to weigh in on, be it with friends or online, you have to know that you are not going to know it nearly as well as the people who have experienced it firsthand.