NS with one vs two kids

STA29 · Mar 5, 2008

I guess it really depends on you. Personally I would wait, If nursing is something you really have wanted to do for ages, and considering how hard it is to get into a program. From what I hear, NS is also very stressful, and if you were to get pregnant or have a newborn, It would be very difficult to get through. Good luck

KPolk RN2B · Mar 5, 2008

Well I have two kids (4 and 6yrs old) and I just began nursing classes and while its not hard to find time to study it is hard to look into my kids eyes when they ask if mommy can do something fun with them and I have to say no due to studying. I think that in the end it will be your decision but I would go ahead with school first and then have a baby. My sister just graduated with her RN and now she is pregnant and I am sure she will enjoy her baby more now than she could have ever done if she would have got pregnant while in school. Whatever you do decide to do I am sure it will work out in the end. Good luck and keep us posted!!:wink2:

Bree124, BSN, RN · Mar 5, 2008

Hmm... I have four kids (6, 3, 3, and 2), and am planning to start nursing school sometime between April and August, depending on which program I choose. When I graduated from college the first time around, my daughter was three and I was 6 months pregnant with twins. You can do it if you are motivated and willing to put in the work. You will have a lot of late nights of studying, but I have found that the parents I went to school with generally had more motivation than the ones who only had to worry about themselves - so I don't think having two children would make nursing school impossible for you.

Good luck!

infiniti · Mar 6, 2008

I first started school in 2005 and planned my last pregnancy to coincide with the school year. Needless to say I withdrew before midterm because I was too exhausted raising my other two, being pregnant, and studying. But that was me. You know you best.

I started back last fall. My daughter will be 2 next month and this year had it's difficulties. But once we all got into a routine conducive to my studies, it seems to be working out. I know I wouldn't have been able to pull it off being pregnant and then going back with her so young. But many do it.

I would write out all the pros and cons for you starting and delaying both baby and school. If you're like me, you're inpatient. It's hard, but put that behind you. All good things come in time. :)

allnurses Guide · Mar 6, 2008

It says you are 21 . . . . the optimum is to go to college prior to marriage and kids of course. But you are so young and already married and have one child . . . I think having your family is more important than school and you have so much time to go back to school.

I went back to school, for a second degree, at age 38, when my youngest was in 1st grade. Prior to that I stayed home with my 3 kids.

Fortunately, my program was such that I was home for the most part shortly after the kids got home from school. It was very hard though - it takes a toll on marriage and time spent with kids. It isn't a happy lark through a lush forest meadow . . . :coollook:

steph

LaceyRN · Mar 6, 2008

well i have two kids (4 and 6yrs old) and i just began nursing classes and while its not hard to find time to study it is hard to look into my kids eyes when they ask if mommy can do something fun with them and i have to say no due to studying. i think that in the end it will be your decision but i would go ahead with school first and then have a baby. my sister just graduated with her rn and now she is pregnant and i am sure she will enjoy her baby more now than she could have ever done if she would have got pregnant while in school. whatever you do decide to do i am sure it will work out in the end. good luck and keep us posted!!:wink2:

this will be me in about a year! :)

i am waiting until after graduation to concieve and i am 36 years old with my biological clock ticking louuud! lol

i just couldn't bear having to split my time between school and baby so i chose to wait. i want to be able to spend as much time as i need to with my newborn. i have also seen 2 classmates drop out of the program due to pregnancy. one had terrible morning sickness and she was crying all the time. the stress got to her and she decided to leave school. the other was a high risk pregnancy and she had no choice but to leave.

i have also heard of 2 students who took a semester off to have the baby and then came back and graduated a semester late. one woman had her baby the week of finals and had to come back in january to complete her graduation requirements.

deciding to have a baby in ns is a very undividual decision that no one but you can make. good luck whatever you decide! :nuke:

dtrmnd2sccd · Mar 7, 2008

I have two right now who are almost 3 and 5 yrs and am doing prereqs. They will be almost 4 and 6 when I start nursing school. I find that having two close in age is WONDERFUL and I wouldn't trade it for the world!! They are both girls and are best buddies. When I have to study, they go off and play with each other.

Nursing school is a few years--siblings are for life. :) If you want them to be close in age, go for it!! Nursing school will be there when you're ready. :)

solobabe_101 · Mar 8, 2008

Thank you so much for all your advice! After reading what you all have said and thinking alot more i think i am going to start nursing and just wait and see how i feel about having another baby. Im not planning on having a baby until i finish now as i think i could offer alot more if i am a bit older and we are more settled. I would have more time with just my 2 year old and more time for study.

Thanks so much for your advice again, its great sounding ideas off people who are in similar situations.