Not helping fellow student

SoldierNurse22, BSN, RN · Dec 6, 2013

...I'm not really sure what the question is.

I'm sorry you failed and that your "friend" doesn't seem interested in helping you anymore, but your motivation to take and pass the boards should not hinge on assistance from your friend. Look into taking a review of some sort or investing in review material before you re-test.

Also, your friend who passed is no longer a fellow student. She's an LPN. It isn't reasonable of you to expect her to study with you like she would have before she passed. She now needs to worry about getting a job!

**NICU Guy, BSN, RN** · Dec 6, 2013

She was a classmate and a co-worker not your friend. Once she passed her test and left to find an LPN job, your relationship ended. If she was your friend, you would still be doing things with her even though you don't work together. She determined that the only thing that you two had in common was work and school, then she has moved on to establish new work friends at her new job.

You are the one responsible to ensure that you pass the test, not her.

Kaizan3652PN · Dec 6, 2013

I don't know about you, but I've invested a chunk of money in becoming a LPN. Acceptance of failure is not an option for me. Pick yourself up, dust off and get back at it. If the old adage is true, "you miss 100% of the balls you never swing at" then you've only swung the bat once. You still have a couple more before you're out. Hit the batting cage and practice and get it done.

Philly_LPN_Girl, LPN · Dec 7, 2013

Why is it that when you work with another Cna and then you both go to Lpn school then she takes the nclex first and passes and then you both were studying before she took the test and when she passes she leaves you and doesn't help out anymore so I took the test and failed now I don't want to study or take test again

I understand where you are comibg from however, you can not depend on anyone passing your nclex exam but yourself. It may not be the fact that she doesnt want to helo you, after all of that worrying, stressing and studying for the biggest test for nursing graduates, after youve passed that test, you feel so free and relieved and dont want to even look at another nclex test forever, or until you take your rn nclex.

It is all up to yourself. Find some motivation, retake that exam, pass it, and move on to your next plan.

applesxoranges, BSN, RN · Dec 7, 2013

It is unfortunate but in the end, it is your responsibility to study. I've never studied with another person.

Compassion_x · Dec 7, 2013

When it comes down to it, it's not her fault you didn't pass, it's yours. But that doesn't mean you give up, you register again and take it a second time. You didn't come this far to give up now.

caliotter3 · Dec 7, 2013

Your emphasis on her behavior makes it seem as if you depended upon her too much. Your failure is probably another indication that may be the case. You have to take responsibility for passing the test. She couldn't take the test for you then, and she can't do so now.