Published Mar 3, 2015
Stephy11
2 Posts
Hi all, I'm new here and about to start my nursing program come this fall. I'm just wondering how I'm going to get through this with no support. I have 2 kids who are 3 and 1. i am married but my husband and I live in a different state from our families and friends so we are alone here. We rely on each other when it comes to the kids or things we need. I am a stay at home mom currently and up until now I've done all my classes online, but I will now need to go on campus for the program. The problem I will soon face is, my husband is military and will be leaving for a few months around the time I'm in school. My son is starting pre school the same time I start and my daughter will be attending day care. My advisors have told me the program is demanding and as long as I have support I will be fine. But I don't have support physically just emotionally. I'll of course do all my work at night when the kids are asleep but I'm very worried about schedules colliding. I will need to drop my son off at pre school and drop my daughter off at daycare(which is seperate from my sons school) and I will also need to pick them up. I'm afraid I won't be able to do that without having to show up late to school or leave early so am I dumb to think it's doable? I've already put my schooling off for so long and here I am with only 2 years left and I just want to finish. Can anyone calm my fears and give me some insight? Thank you
classicdame, MSN, EdD
7,255 Posts
you need to locate a Mom or mature teenager who can pitch in for you. Maybe you can exchange favors, like babysit for free if they have children, or fix meals, etc. I would seek out the day care centers to find out cost and rules about dropping off without advance notice, etc. Another source is to call the secretary of the local grade schools. I did that years ago because I felt the teachers probably had a need for babysitters and found they share resources. Just a hunch. Good Luck!
dc1994
104 Posts
I second this.
And I'm sorry. I know that has to be tough. I'm glad you have emotional support. Maybe there are some trustworthy friends who don't have kids who can help.
jegroat
Hi! My husband was also in the military when I went through the nursing program. Yes, the program is demanding, but where there is a will there is a way. The thing that worked out best for me was making friends in the neighborhood and exchanging favors. Somedays they helped me with my kiddos and other days I helped them with them with their kids. I also had a baby during the program while my husband was deployed (getting pregnant right before a deployment seems to always be in the cards for us, lol), I was able to have my grandmother come down for a few months to help me out when I had the baby. I'm not sure if you have any family that would be willing to come and help you when you husband leaves. But make friends, you will certainly make friends in the program and they will also add to your support system. They may also have suggestions for you. Go for it! Don't put it off any longer, do what you need to do, you will get through it and before you know you will be graduating! Good Luck!
Thank you all so much. I have reached out to the few friends but they work too so I will look into finding a neighbor or so done with open availability. Thank you for the encouragement and ideas : )
katotheyorkie
4 Posts
Hiii!!!! As someone stated earlier " Where there is a will, there is a way". You certainly seem determined to get through the program and you only have two years left. You should definitely see if any trustworthy neighbors would be willing to help out or trying out care.com which has babysitters for hire and you can feel them out to see if they would be a good fit. It may be an adjustment since your husband is leaving and it will only be you but I definitely think you can make it through. Hope it all works out for you!!!