So I just started my last two years of nursing school, for which I had to transfer. I am at a small school an hour away from me, so I am living in he dorms. there are only 150 people in the school, and only 60 in my class. There are about 12 girls from my class also living in the dorms. Since I have to spend all my time at the dorms, I figured I would try to become friends with these girls, but they want nothing to do with me. They were all friends before this, and are a little older than me(Im 19, they are 21-25). I tried studying with them, talking to them, or going on trips with them but they ignore me, leave the room, or talk about me. I feel so alone and overwhelmed with school work, and I am scared of failing out because of a failed social life! I am getting so depressed hearing everyone go out without me, and Im scared if I study alone for tests, I will get lost. Please help any tips? Can I do it by myself?
I agree with what other posters have said and if this is the way these students are treating you, forget about them. You can do perfectly fine studying alone or with people in a different major. The one thing you do not want to be stressing about is how to fit in with a bunch of jerks. And like others have said, their is a darn good chance you will never see these people again down the road. It's not about making them like you, it's about succeeding in your goals in life. You'll do just fine without the baggage!
I can totally relate to you OP. I am in a similar situation and its tough but without GOD, my family and scriptures, I really would not know how to handle it. I am a few weeks from graduating and boy was it tough without friends during nursing school, but on a positive note, I feel like I am reminded on a valuable lesson....choose your friends wisely and LOVE//KNOW yourself first :)
Ahh this rings so true with me too. I'm in an accelerated nursing program now and I'm not super close with any of the people in it. They're nice and all but very type A and we all live far away from each other, have different priorities, etc. I mostly just hang out with my friends from my first degree and from home. But I do feel your pain and I understand what it's like not to have the time to always make new friends, so in the mean time I would say find other outlets to reduce your stress. I personally love running, calling my dad to talk, planning dream vacations for once I get out of school and drawing pictures. I am also thinking about going to see a life coach, which depending on your situation may be helpful to you. I know it doesn't replace friends but it can reduce those acute stress attacks and make you feel a little better. One last thing -- do NOT compare yourself to others. You'll only feel worse. Take it one day at a time - you will survive nursing school :)
Specializes in Complex pedi to LTC/SA & now a manager.
Ironically two of the only people I still have contact with in nursing school we just barely tolerated each other in school. Now we have helped each other numerous times but all 3 of us are parents and a bit more mature. Goal in school was to do well and graduate not make a new BFF.
nursephillyphil, BSN, RN
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eyes on the prize, stay focused. this is a hard patch, but you'll get through it. stay positive!