Hi guys! i'm new here and i find most of the topics really informative and interesting. Thing now is, i'm facing a great dilemma being a working mom and working night shift (11pm-7am).My husband works from 1pm-9:30pm and we got no nanny. I always come home around 8-8:30am, prepare breakfast, let my husband do his morning routine in the rest room,shhh..lol and prepare food for the baby. i get to sleep around 10:30am. Then, my hubby would wake me up 12pm so he could get ready for work. If my daughter takes a nap for 2 hours or more then lucky me! Most of the time she sleeps around 3pm and for an hour only. She gets to sleep at night around 10:30-11pm. That leaves me with very minimal sleep and though i crave for a quick exercise, my body feels so weak. i don't overeat, but since a year of doing this routine, i gained 15lbs. Is there any of you here who could give me insights on how i could turn my life around and have a sched where i'd feel like i am living and not just existing??also, can you give me tips on how to lose weight while on this shift coz i feel guilty not having been able to spend quality time with my baby since i always feel so tired, exhausted and groggy.. i'm sooooo desperate i can't send my little one to a daycare yet since we just relocated here in Ca. and we incurred debts from the move and all that. it's way to pricey and i can't afford it yet. HELLLP!
I agree with everyone else. You don't need to be doing all of that when you get home from working all night. You should definitely talk to your husband about trying to help you out more. He may not really understand how difficult this is for you if you haven't expressed it to him before. Like others have said, he is very capable of making breakfast and feeding the baby in the morning and also getting ready for work without having to wake you up.
I have to agree...you need to hit the bed when you get home and sleep until DH leaves. My DH and I had a simialr situtation, I worked 3a-11a and he worked 3p-11p. I would sleep when I got home, baby would go down for a nap before he left at 2p and I would get up at 4pm with the baby, then go back to sleep from 10p-2am. That was on a good night lol
But seriously, if you can't get in any sleep, you are going to make a mistake at work or get into an accident on the way home. You need to talk to him about this, and if it doesn't work out , you may have to get a sitter for at least a few hours in the afternoon!
HEY GUYS! greaaaaat NEWS! a miracle indeed has happened :) thank you all soooo much for such sensible advice. we finally sat down and had a loong talk. in fairness to my hubby, he read all your messages and was humble enough to realize his mistake. also, it's just that "before this" for some reason,i feel guilty coming home without helping around the house first. but now, thanks to all of you, i hit the bed without feeling a tinge of guilt at all. yeah, its high time for me to take care of myself. true enough, i was able to think/focus clearly and i even have the energy to take my daughter to the park in the afternoon after her 1 hour nap. 3 straight hours of sleep in the morning and 1 in the afternoon is not bad at all. hey, i'm counting my blessing eh?! hehe..thanks again soooo much to each and every one of you ! i OWE you...BiG TiME! kudos to all:yeah::yeah: and mind you-- for 3 days now i lost 6 lbs fro this diet that i tried. weeeeeee...wish me luck! love you guys!!
That is great. You have a good guy if he realized his mistake and changed his behavior. Many wouldn't. It is a blessing to your whole family to work this out. You child gets to be raised by parents only and not need a babysitter. And the mommy is alert and happy so you spend more quality time together. Also you get to keep your job which helps everyone. Well done!!
i can't send my little one to a daycare yet since we just relocated here in Ca. and we incurred debts from the move and all that. it's way to pricey and i can't afford it yet. HELLLP!
:yeah: and mind you-- for 3 days now i lost 6 lbs fro this diet that i tried. weeeeeee...wish me luck! love you guys!!
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I agree with everyone else. You don't need to be doing all of that when you get home from working all night. You should definitely talk to your husband about trying to help you out more. He may not really understand how difficult this is for you if you haven't expressed it to him before. Like others have said, he is very capable of making breakfast and feeding the baby in the morning and also getting ready for work without having to wake you up.