The title isn't anything new to ones eyes and I am posting to let other newer RN's know they are not alone and to also share my story so maybe it can help with decisions you are about to make
I have been working in the ICU for a bit over a year now as a new grad in a community hospital. Orientation was great, I had 2 amazing preceptors and thought I was on the road to success. Yes, I noticed some nurses who had strong personalities, some who were more than likely grumpy every shift, some who treated the aides poorly, but never thought that I would be treated poorly. My issue on my unit has been RN's who snap/yell at you in front of others.
I am a very kind person, I do not like confrontation, I want to be liked, and it's hard for me not to take things personally. I am a sensitive person, and I truly love nursing and enjoy passing my calm and caring nature on to my patients. I want to do the best I can for my patients.
So the story is- in front of others I have been snapped/yelled at twice by one employee, once by another and the occasional eye roll, passive aggressive comment etc. Recently I was just getting so upset about it and decided to go to my assistant manager where I began to cry and say I just don't understand why I am being treated like this? I help others, I am a team player and I try my best to be the best nurse I can. He said it's not you, so please don't think that. He told me to go to our director. - probably the biggest mistake I could of done. And here's why... the minute I mentioned I was being treated with disrespect, my director had become defensive, stated that she was unaware of these behaviors on the unit- which unfortunately is a lie, because other employees have also mentioned this issue and one aide had to switch shifts due to this issue. She actually called in the assistant manager, and he was asked if there were any negative behaviors he has seen on the unit. He said "no". He lied, because there have been multiple behavior issues on the unit. At that point in the meeting I felt like I was thrown under the bus by my assistant manager and stated that this was a mistake coming to meet with you. It was obvious she didn't believe me or wanted to do anything about it. She said "what do you want me to do about it" and "this isn't the perfect ICU job you had in mind when you first started now isn't it" ... Yes she did say that. Crazy I know. So, I decided that I unfortunately need to look for another job. I do not want to get involved with the union, it is just easier to go somewhere else. I have learned my lesson. I will never again go to a manager with any employee issue at all. This experience has made me get thicker skin and will help me in the future. If I have an issue with an employee I will be direct with them and not be afraid to tell them they can't treat me like that. I will try my best to not let things like this get to me and just focus on why I am here. I'm here for the patient. The reason I am looking for another position is not the employee's who have been mean to me but the way the situation was handled. I hope this helps anyone out there is the same position. â¤ï¸â¤ï¸