newbie problems

[nursel56]

We're in healthcare field so let's talk and act professional guys! No need to making fun or insulting ppl at all!!

You're right. There's sort of an unwritten expectation here that you attempt to find information like that on Google, etc. before asking the allnurses. But you didn't know that. . . so to pile on and call you a moron--not a very friendly welcome!

[CNA2day]

WOW...

I hope your relationship has more trust in it then that. For him to fly off the handle because you will see another man is completely controling and abusive behavior. You may not see it that way but that is VERY VERY controlling.

I want a man that stands behind me 100% no matter what I do. Who encourages me to do what is best for me. Who never implies that I will go fool around or get excited wiping poop off of some mans hairy balls.

There is nothing NOTHING exciting about that AT ALL! If it was my relationship I would be very hurt by what your boyfriend was implying, unless of course he has a reason to be concerned with you around other men.

Not taking a job because of some NON-legitimate reason a man gave you is a very bad idea. Most of the time the career lasts longer then the man(no matter the intentions).

I am not a physc professional, just someone who holds myself to very high standards and expects the people I love to not bring me down.

Just some words for thought.

[cacna09]

You're right. There's sort of an unwritten expectation here that you attempt to find information like that on Google, etc. before asking the allnurses. But you didn't know that. . . so to pile on and call you a moron--not a very friendly welcome!

Thank you for your kind words. I'm glad that someone here stand up to help me saying the right thing:up::)!!!

[cacna09]

Oh, I have one more thing to add. When I took my CNA course the teacher told us that she had a student from last semester asked her "What's the vagigi mean?" because she's just came to US. Again, I think it's alright to ask question when come across the new term and dont understand. I dont get why ppl in healthcare like you folks can called others are moron for just asking such a question, how rude and unprofessional!!!

[seaspray700777]

I have been doing this for awhile and perhaps bf is very uninformed but, like all the other posts say, wiping urine smell and feces of penis's are not a sexual act, OMG if anything, with no disrespect of course, it is the opposite. In all my years I dont remember ever seeing a male with an erection. All I have seen is men being thankful that someone cares enough to help them out. Good luck:redbeathe Oh and by the way, in ratio to female I have washed more females because for some reason men seem to want to take showers so it more drip dry with a towel.

[nursel56]

Oh, I have one more thing to add. When I took my CNA course the teacher told us that she had a student from last semester asked her "What's the vagigi mean?" because she's just came to US. Again, I think it's alright to ask question when come across the new term and dont understand. I dont get why ppl in healthcare like you folks can called others are moron for just asking such a question, how rude and unprofessional!!!

It can be easy to forget that we have people coming to allnurses that range from pre-nursing student (ie still in high school) to a PhD who is a professor of Nursing, or a CRNA (certified registered nurse anesthetist). Everyone should be treated with respect. The vast majority of people who post here want to help-- I know that for sure. So please don't shy away if you want to discuss something here in the future!

[seaspray700777]

Did I say anything wrong? I hope not. If I did please forgive.

[nursel56]

Did I say anything wrong? I hope not. If I did please forgive.

Noo. . .a couple of responders to the original post called her boyfriend a moron because he objected to her "handling other guy's penis's" as a healthcare worker. Then a third person, cacna09, asked for a term definition included in one of the posts. They called her a moron, too. All in all not really the best representation of what allnurses is supposed to be about, IMO. :uhoh21:

[seaspray700777]

Oh, Whew!

[seaspray700777]

Hey, I remember when I first started in CNA class a long time ago, When the instructer said foley catheter I thought it had something to do with the heart, you know catheter and all. Boy learned alot since then. The only dumb or moron question is the one not asked.

[carrie2222]

I joined this site and asked a what i thought was a legitimate question which was about some advice about how to handle my boyfriends insecurities about me handling naked male patients. I thought nurses might have experienced this before and could help me. What i got were posts that called my boyfriend a moron-he's most definitely not. We have a very nice life together. Then I was called a moron for asking the question in the first place. Every one of you probably asked questions similar to mine when you started out in nursing. And for professional nurses to resort to calling me names because of a question I asked is just uncalled for. I won't be back on this site.

[nursel56]

I joined this site and asked a what i thought was a legitimate question which was about some advice about how to handle my boyfriends insecurities about me handling naked male patients. I thought nurses might have experienced this before and could help me. What i got were posts that called my boyfriend a moron-he's most definitely not. We have a very nice life together. Then I was called a moron for asking the question in the first place. Every one of you probably asked questions similar to mine when you started out in nursing. And for professional nurses to resort to calling me names because of a question I asked is just uncalled for. I won't be back on this site.

Carrie-- I want you to know that 90 percent of the people on this site are decent, supportive polite people who take every question seriously. I'm not even sure how the heck this one spun off the rails. So this was unusual in a not so good way. Normally, a moderator will jump in right away and deal with people who are getting too unkind or personal. Why this didn't happen here I can't say. It fell through the cracks.

As far as the issue you asked about- you aren't the only one who has an issue like this with their bf or husband, and even a girl who was upset with her boyfriend, upset for the same reason. I think what he needs is information and specifics regarding just exactly how un-sexy it is when you are taking care of a patient in the hospital. It's kind of like a lot of people are afraid they will pass out at the sight of blood, etc once the knowledge gap is bridged they do just fine. Many times the initial objections are eased just by knowing- If he was the sort of person who is jealous and insecure, you will run into problems, but he doesn't seem like that.

Please take the time to reconsider allnurses, as most of us are quite civil. Sorry you went through this.