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hey guys!

i have been reading the comments on this website for a long time now but i only registered to be a member two days ago hoping that i will find the encouragement that i badly need right now. i am an emotional wreck because i just found out that i failed nclex. this came as a shock to me because i never thought that i will be one of those who will fail it the first time. i was always the smart one, the good student who did not have problems with school or tests. i cannot believe i failed it and now, i don't have an inch of confidence in myself. i lost my job (which i love so much) because of this and i don't know how to deal with this. i was never defeated ever in my life and because of this, i don't know how i'm gonna get through this. please tell me that there is life after failing it the first time, and that failing the nclex won't reflect my being a good nurse in the future (my preceptors during orientation told me i was one of the best new grads they had)......sucks so much but i feel like a total failure...........

please share your stories...i need them....thanks!

It's been 2-3 weeks since I found out that I failed. I want to believe that I am better, but I still have my "episodes" of crying and feeling worthless. It just sucks to "fail" for the first time in my life when this is really all I've been preparing for. Right now, I don't know how to study for it or not study for it, I just don't know.....But one thing that I am very thankful for is that my employer has been very supportive. They are doing everything to keep my job for me, they are even willing to wait because according to them (my manager and preceptors), I am one of the best that they've had....This comment just made my heart sing, but then again, it is very hard to get over the feeling of being a failure. So hard.....I just can't wait for this to be over....I can't be sad anymore, it's so hard. Thanks for your reply though, I appreciate it.

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Seren, since you said you were always the smart one, I have no doubt that you will make the right decision and take the test over. In life, you will always find some obstacles, but you have to be prepare to deal with whatever comes your way. Life is like an elevator, it can go up or down. Good luck to you.

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About those prayers....they are on the way!

BTW, you are only a failure if you decide to be! Holy Toledo...you've gone all the way through Nursing School and that's a TREMENDOUS accomplishment in itself! No failure there! As hard and humbling as it sounds, get back-up, brush yourself off, and run for the goal. Not every effort results in a score. But if you keep making the effort you will score. Besides, I know you can do it! You've already done the hard part!

To prepare for my NCLEX I bought a NCLEX book and used it. I had the kind that had the care plans in it as well as tests and the tests answers. It also explained the rationale for the answers...for both the right and wrong answers. I also found that no matter how convoluted the scenerio was it always boiled down to the A B C's.

I know you can do it! The question is, will you?

"Dear God, Serendipity needs Your..........." :wink2:

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Thank you so much for all your encouragement...I appreciate it a lot...I find myself crying still and sometimes palpitating...I don't know, I'm so stressed out which I think is normal, it just sucks coz I've been stressing about this since May and when I finally took the test in August, I thought that was going to be the end of my misery but I guess not.....THanks guys!

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Specializes in psyc.
About those prayers....they are on the way!

BTW, you are only a failure if you decide to be! Holy Toledo...you've gone all the way through Nursing School and that's a TREMENDOUS accomplishment in itself! No failure there!

i totally agree with sister. just think about it you made it through nursing school and the 1,000 and 1 exams youve had to take. this is what i keep telling myself all the time. ever since i failed in june, theres not a day that i dont tell myself hey, i made it throught nursing school, and others didnt even last a week and dropped out!!!. i totally feel you because im in the same predicament. its harder because people expect so much from us. especially if you are the one that excelled in school/preceptor or where ever. they expect for us to pass and not fail. i took the nclex when i was 9 months pregnant. a week after i took the exams i gave birth. i was already having contractions while i was taking the test. imagine that!!!

my mom too is a PICU nurse, she failed her first time taking the exam and passed it the second time around. She is one of the best nurses in her hospital and has awards to show for. i know you dont need awards to be a good nurse and also i am not just saying that b/c she is my mother. her coworkers/friends always tell me that shes the best nurse around. someone also has told me that "the ones who fail at first are the ones who are usually the best nurses". well i dont totally agree with that statement, but it sure does give me a lil boost of confidence. so dont feel bad. just remember >>If god puts you to it, he will put you THROUGH it.

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PractikalNurse,

That is so encouraging....thank you so much! I hope that in the future, you and I, together with the other nurses in this forum will be like your mom. Thanks a lot and goodluck to you as well.

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The bible said in matthews 11:28-30,"Come to me, all of you who are weary and carry heavy burdens, and i will give you rest. Take My yoke upon you. Let Me touch you, because I am humble and gentle, and you will find rest for your souls. For My yoke fits perfectly, and the burden I give you is light." my advice to you is do 200 questions a day (2hrs/5days a wk), focus

on saunders comprehensive and kaplan pray that God will give u wisdom and strenght.....after 6 wks. take the test pray b4 during and after d test...then just wait let go and let God...trust me i've been there...remember GAP (God answers prayers)!

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Concorde,

Thank you so much. hey, question from you. Where are you from? Are you from the philippines?

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I just wanted to wish you luck Serendipity. I'm sorry you failed your exam, but I know you are not the type to give up so easily. I know you can do this. I understand its disappointing, but as long as you have the faith, then you will succeed. All the best to you and can't wait to see your "I passed" post after you take your exam, whenever it will be :) God bless you :) :icon_hug:

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Thank you so much Lena, you know what I'm so scared of, people judging me and my potential of being a good nurse based on me failing nclex. More than anything, that is what I'm super scared of. But thanks for your encouragement.

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Specializes in OB, ortho/neuro, home care, office.

I'm with everyone else, your only a failure when you decide to be and give up. From your posts you couldn't possibly be a failure because your not a quitter. I think the passing truly depends on your education. I went to a very hard school (old fashioned diploma school) graduated last May with honors. Nothing came easy to me, I started school with severe test anxiety, and I studied WAY more than I slept. I had been out of school for 13 years and it was sooooo hard, but I still passed with honors.

Where I got my education the exams at the end of each course were truly harder (in my opinion) than the NCLEX by a long shot. ALL of our exams during school were in NCLEX fashion (just not on the computer) and it was that way throughout the entire education, starting with Nursing 101. I think that is why I passed the NCLEX the first time. I kept thinking as I took the test that I had to have failed it because the questions were too easy, WAY too easy. I took 83 questions (knowing full well minimum was 75) I swore the questions were all easy level so I must have failed. Lo and behold I passed. I'm an RN.

To be honest (please don't hate me for this) I didn't even study, I was the first one in my class to register and take the NCLEX and first one to get my license. It was an honor to get that. But as I said, I truly believe your pass/fail is in your education (otherwise there is NO way I would've passed without studying - especially with a strong history of test anxiety!!!)

Don't give up, Try suzannes study assistance (I haven't heard of a single person failing after taking that) try a different approach to studying. Give yourself a gift for each milestone you pass and give yourself goals. But most of all go into the test KNOWING with all your heart that I WILL NOT FAIL. I will be an RN at the end of the day, even if the testing center doesn't even know it yet :) You will do fine.

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Specializes in OB, ortho/neuro, home care, office.
Thank you so much Lena, you know what I'm so scared of, people judging me and my potential of being a good nurse based on me failing nclex. More than anything, that is what I'm super scared of. But thanks for your encouragement.

Let me say in regards to this, some of the worst bedside mannerism nurses I know passed the NCLEX on the first try, and some of the best nurses I know had to sit for it 3+ times. So no one will judge you on that. It doesn't go on your resume, only thing that does is that RN behind your name. Not how many times you took the test to get it!

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