I posted a similar thread in the psychiatric forum but I got 0 replies. After thinking about it, I guess I should have put it in here.
I work in LTC as a CNA. I take pride in my work, and the nurses and "higher ups" are always telling me that I deserve more recognition for the great job that I do. I was employee of the month in August-finally!, after two years of service, and my regular residents are so happy to see me after I come back from my day off.
I have the same assignment every day, and I love knowing my residents well enough to know what they like and dislike. I also love to hear their family members compliment me on my techniques and such. But.....I have one problem. She is a very large woman, not quite 5' (with tape measure), weighing in at about 365 lbs. She cannot walk, or even stand, refuses to get out of bed even for her twice-weekly showers, and she is the meanest 47 year old woman I have ever met in my life. She came to my facility probably about a year ago and I was warned about her, but I was determined that I was going to make friends with her and reach the goal of helping her lose the weight so she could have therapy and learn to walk again. Her parents are her POA, and she treats them just as bad as she does us. She screams and swears every day, and all night. Her only focus in life is food, food, and more food. She says we are trying to starve her because she is on a restricted diet, and also just recently fluid restriction. She still gets plenty, but whatever she can't have, she wants, and she wont stop screaming and throwing tantrums until she gets what she wants. She has hit two of my fellow aides, and has been verbally abusing everyone that walks into her room ever since she first came there. I have tried talking heart to heart with her, but she is just the nastiest thing. Nobody has ever met anyone like her-guaranteed. I just can't explain here what it's like to try to care for her; she is in her right mind but calls us every name in the book if she doesn't get her way. She throws things at us and belittles us. She is always telling others that the only one who knows how to take care of her is me, but then, when I come back, she treats me like sh*t. I don't want to give up on her, but I need to get through to her somehow. Not very often, but once in a great while, she will get sensitive with me, but whenever I try to offer advice, or suggest that she may be treating her caretakers badly, she gets offensive and tells me to get out. She is scared to die, but isn't willing to try to get any better. She thinks that because she is diabetic and has CHF that she just can't get better, but she uses all this as an excuse for not trying. I don't know if you all have any suggestions, but if you do, I will take anything I can get. Tomorrow is shower day!! And I know I will have to fight with her to get up!! And she is getting up. Thanks for giving me a place to vent anyways!!