My fiance doesn't understand!!

Bicster · Oct 10, 2008

You're a big girl. Budget your time so you can have the best of both worlds.

Biol20fan · Oct 10, 2008

Even the most understanding of spouses (of which I have one; I'm a lucky girl) will not fully understand what you are going though in NS (unless, of course, they have done it themselves).

I agree with Bicster. You just have to make the time, no matter how impossible it seems. Just make sure that the amount of time you are taking off isn't cutting too much into "school" time. Go out to dinner, see a movie, go for drinks, whatever. But instead of doing every week, do it maybe every other week.

If you don't take a break, you will burn out.

(Lordy, if my hubby could see what I just typed, he'd ask me why I wasn't taking my own advice!)

RNMom2010 · Oct 11, 2008

You have to make some time for your fiance and you friends, those are important relationships to maintain as well as maintaining your schooling. Take a night and go out, relax, and enjoy your life, then get back in the books the next day. You can't expect school to be 100% of your life, its just not healthy!!

tiggerdagibit · Oct 11, 2008

I agree with the above. While I commend your devotion, you NEED to take time off. If I didn't get a night out now and then, I'd be insane! lol Seriously, try to work something out, even if it's just once a month. You deserve it!

Virgo_RN, BSN, RN · Oct 11, 2008

There is life after nursing school. While I was still in school, all I did was work, sleep, study, and go to school. I had to, in order to keep a roof over my kids' heads and succeed in nursing school. It's really not the end of the world. Now that I've graduated, I'm rediscovering all the fun things in life.

CseMgr1, ASN, RN · Oct 11, 2008

You just have to make the time, no matter how impossible it seems. Just make sure that the amount of time you are taking off isn't cutting too much into "school" time. Go out to dinner, see a movie, go for drinks, whatever. But instead of doing every week, do it maybe every other week.
If you don't take a break, you will burn out.

That's what my husband and I did while I was in nursing school. I was an LPN at the time, and worked every other weekend to pay for tuition that my GSLP didn't cover and child care. We had very little time for each other between work, school, housework and caring for a baby (our son was nine months old, when I entered the RN program), and my weekends off were the only time we had together for dinner and a movie. While it didn't save our marriage (we busted up several years later due to other issues), it helped us to keep our sanity during those three very long years.

newbie08 · Oct 11, 2008

My husband had a hard time adjusting to me being in school too. He still doesn't understand that just because I don't have a test 'tomorrow' doesn't mean that I don't have to study today. One of my instructors suggested taking one night off from studying a week, like a Friday or Saturday night. I normally take a Friday not off just to kick back and relax. We don't always go out but it gives us some time to be together, esp after our daughter (17 months old) goes down for the night. I think that nursing students do need to take a night off from studying every week. You don't want to get 'burned out' before you graduate, kwim??

Hope that helps:nurse:

Nurseandwife · Oct 11, 2008

Oh I have been taking some time to spend with him, and during the week he is fine but come Friday he wants my full attention all weekend and it's just not possible. I know he just misses me but I can't take off all weekend every weekend. Thanks for all the input.

tiggerdagibit · Oct 11, 2008

Oh. I didn't realize he wanted you to take all weekend, every weekend off. That's a little more difficult. lol Have you tried showing him how many chapters are assigned for each unit? Try getting him involved (if he will.) Maybe let him help you with flashcards or ask you questions. One night I was reading and my eyes got so tired I had to close them for a bit. My husband took my book and read a few pages to me. That helped so much! Maybe your fiance doesn't realize how much you have to pack in for each test and by helping you, he would get a better understanding. Just a thought. You could also try bargaining.. If you let me study for X hours, I'll spend X hours with you. Good luck!

Adams_Mommy_07 · Oct 12, 2008

My fiance complains about the amount of time I spend on my pre-reqs!!! I can't imagine what he'll be like once I start nursing school. I also say if you want to spend any of my paycheck you better lighten up because the more grief you give me the more inclined I will be to keep our incomes separate--and there will be quite a disparity, especially after completing phase II of the alternate entry MSN program.

kat von b · Oct 12, 2008

Friday nights are my nights with my hubby and friends. If i didnt have to work that afternoon after class and came home and did homework, as soon as my husband gets home I put the homework away and not think about it till Saturday. I need it to keep me sane and so will you!