I have a question and PLEASE dont anybody blast me for typecasting, this was not MY statement, it was a LCSW I was friends with. She claims that a huge % of nurses are first born females of alcoholic fathers. Something to do with the fact that as the first born in dysfunction family of origin you are a caregiver from the get-go. Now my father was not an alcoholic, but I am a first born. I was wondering how many of us are first-borns. (Also, she said this to me a long time ago, and I have lost touch with her, so I cannot ask her where the heck she got her information was) I was just starting school at the time and didnt really fight with her about it, just kind of gave her one of the Hmmm, thats an interesting opinion.... answers. Also, she meant it as a compliment, that we take a difficult beginning and build on our strengths and turn them into a career.
Children of alcoholics tend to be good in a crisis and sometimes will create drama just so they feel like they are in a "familiar" environment. I know-I've done it!:uhoh21:
Very very true.... Let's see.
#1 & only female of 3 kids,
oldest brother 4 years younger than me- a pain in the butt trouble maker
youngest brother 5 years younger than me- smart as a whip & good kid
I'm definetly the caregiver, have to make sure everything is done and things are paid for. Everything must be done, I know where everyone is and what's going on and even my friends and their friends come to me to vent and to fix their problems.
My Dad was physically/verbally abusive my whole life he left us 2 years ago while I was in LPN school. He drank alot and smoked weed and did other drugs, we has never grown up & I don;t think he ever will. His dad, my grandpa, (who I haven't spoke to since I was 12) was physically/verbally abusive to all his kids 8 in all. My dad's mom, my grandma (don't talk to her either) is an RN-- My dad's family = DRAMA!!!!!
Mom's family seems pretty normal, they're all southern and they seem weird to me and both my brothers because we're from NY and have always lived here. BUt we have my mom's sick/twisted sense of humor. Mom worked in a hospital when I was little and so did both her parents and her step mom.
first born of 2 adopted girls... family caretaker... father was an alcoholic. both parents were often sick or recovering from surgeries, so i took care of them and was responsible for my sister.
Let me just say that this statement does not apply to me. However, I think with as wide spread as alcoholism is you could probably make this statement about any profession or occupation. I would enjoy seeing the study or know where the op's friend obtained this information.
Statistically firstborns are more common than any other family placement. Simple math. Every family that has a child has a firstborn. Not everyone has a second child, and even fewer families have 3, 4 or more. So the further along you are in birth order, the fewer there are of you, statistically.
Cmariehart
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Very very true.... Let's see.
#1 & only female of 3 kids,
oldest brother 4 years younger than me- a pain in the butt trouble maker
youngest brother 5 years younger than me- smart as a whip & good kid
I'm definetly the caregiver, have to make sure everything is done and things are paid for. Everything must be done, I know where everyone is and what's going on and even my friends and their friends come to me to vent and to fix their problems.
My Dad was physically/verbally abusive my whole life he left us 2 years ago while I was in LPN school. He drank alot and smoked weed and did other drugs, we has never grown up & I don;t think he ever will. His dad, my grandpa, (who I haven't spoke to since I was 12) was physically/verbally abusive to all his kids 8 in all. My dad's mom, my grandma (don't talk to her either) is an RN-- My dad's family = DRAMA!!!!!
Mom's family seems pretty normal, they're all southern and they seem weird to me and both my brothers because we're from NY and have always lived here. BUt we have my mom's sick/twisted sense of humor. Mom worked in a hospital when I was little and so did both her parents and her step mom.
My family = DRAMA