Miscarriages

Dan's Sunshine · Nov 5, 2005

http://www.inciid.org

The message boards helped me so much when I was trying to have a baby. I had 5 miscarriages and did not know anyone who understood what I was going through. There I found tons of women who were going through the same thing. Now that I have my child I use the parenting boards for support also.

I will keep her in my prayers.

~hugs~

Brandy

Burnt Out, ASN, RN · Nov 5, 2005

After my son died, I found a lot of support at http://www.missfoundation.org.

Another good site is http://www.nationalshareoffice.com. INCIID is good too (the site Brandy posted).

This is a list of books I posted on another thread not too long ago that I found helpful. Right after Blake died, I read what ever I could get my hands on to see if all I was feeling was normal and to see how others got through this.

*Dear Cheyenne by Joanne Cacciatore-Garard

*Empty Cradle, Broken Heart: Surviving the Death of Your Baby by Deborah L. Davis, Ph.D.

*Losing Malcolm A Mother's Journey Through Grief by Carol Henderson

*This Little While by Joy and Dr. S.M. Johnson

*Honored Babies Learning to Live With a Broken Heart by Paula Long

*Mommy, Please Don't Cry There are No Tears in Heaven by Linda DeYmaz: Artwork by Laurie Snow Hein

*The Angel with the Golden Glow A family's journey through loss and healing by Elissa Al-Chokhachy: Illustrated by Ulrike Graf

*A Rose in Heaven by Dawn Siegrist Waltman

*When Hello Means Goodbye A Guide For Parents Whose Child Dies Before Birth, At Birth Or Shortly After Birth by Pat Schwiebert, RN and Paul Kirk, MD

*Chicken Soup for the Grieving Soul Stories About Life, Death and Overcoming the Loss of a Loved One by Jack Canfield and Mark Victor Hanson

*Remembering with Love

Messages of Hope for the First Year of Grieving and Beyond by Elizabeth Levang, Ph.D. and Sherokee Ilse

*Healing Your Grieving Heart 100 Practical Ideas-Compassionate advice and simple activities to help you through your loss by Alan D. Wolfelt, Ph.D.

Grieving a Pregnancy/Infant Loss-Spiritual/Religious

*When Your Baby Dies Through Miscarriage or Stillbirth by Louis A. Gamino and Ann Taylor Cooney

*Silent Grief Miscarriage-Child Loss, Finding your way through the darkness by Clara Hinton

*An Empty Cradle, A Full Heart Reflections for mothers and fathers after miscarriage, stillbirth or infant death by Christine O'Keeffe Lafser: Foreword by Phyllis Tickle

*Losing You Too Soon Finding Hope after Miscarriage or the Loss of a Baby by Bernadette Keagy

Pregnancy After a Miscarriage, Stillbirth or Infant Loss

*Trying Again A Guide to Pregnancy After Miscarriage, Stillbirth and Infant Loss by Ann Douglas and John R. Sussman, M.D. with foreword by Deborah Davis, Ph.D.

*Pregnancy after a Loss A Guide to Pregnancy after a Miscarriage, Stillbirth or Infant Death by Carol Cirulli Lanham with foreword by Vel D. Crosby, M.D.

Your friend will be in my thoughts.

Ginger

OURN83 · Nov 5, 2005

Warning! This is going to be detailed.

I don't know if I had a miscarriage.

5 months after I gave birth I was eating in a restaraunt when suddenly I felt a very heavy discharge. I though I had started my period and it was HEAVY so I told my husband we had to leave right then.

I got home, went into the bathroom and noticed a SAC of blood in my underwear. I am so sorry for the details.. but i don't know a better way to tell you what happened.

I wrote it off as a miscarriage because I have never had something like that happen to me. It was literally a blood filled sac.

I had no pain so I didn't worry about it. After telling my family about it I was talked into going to the ER about 2 days later.

The doctor told me I was hemorraging and that I had a positive pregnancy test yet told me I had probably miscarried but still had the preg hormones which made the test pos. He sent me to get an ultrasound which showed my baby about 12 weeks along.

Can anyone tell me what this was that happened to me? I am wondering now if it is possible I had twins and lost one?

wannabeL&D73 · Nov 6, 2005

I am so sorry for your friend's loss. I can only imagine how heartbreaking that can be. Do you mean an incompetent cervix? If so, when she is ready to consider another pregnancy, cerclages are extremely effective. I know many women with multiple losses due to IC who went on to have healthy, full-term babies with preventative cerclages placed at 12-14 weeks.

Shannon

Nurse Hatchett · Nov 6, 2005

Thanks to everyone who has replied. Yes, I meant incompetent cervix. Sorrry, I was going on no sleep when I typed that. I will look into some of those books for her

SmilingBluEyes · Nov 6, 2005

so very sorry for her loss.......I can feel for her---been there myself. Please tell her we are thinking of her and I thank you for being there for her like you are. Believe me, that means more than you know.