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    Quote from elkpark
    Not bullying. And try not to catastrophize the situation. "Not liking" you is not the same as "hating" you. I was an older student in nursing school, with prior college experience, more accustomed to academia than most of my classmates, and I tended to raise my hand immediately, answer questions, and do what I thought of as contributing, as expected, to the class discussion. Guess what? Not how many of my classmates saw it. Count your blessings -- I got actual audible sighs and eye rolls from some of my classmates when I would raise my hand, eventually. A professor spoke with me, with more finesse than yours did with you, and explained that, by always raising my hand and having the answer to each of her questions, I was letting all the other students off the hook (I still remember her saying, "I'll make a deal with you -- I'll assume that you know the answers to the questions, and you hang back and give the other students a chance to respond.")

    I made a few good friends in nursing school, some of the students actively disliked me, which was fine with me, and most of my class and I had no feelings for each other one way or the other. You go to nursing school to learn about nursing, not to be popular with your classmates. Worrying about whether the group "likes" you or not seems kind of high school to me. Most of these people you'll never see or even think much about again once you graduate.

    Dealing with real life nursing is going to be quite a bit tougher, emotionally, than dealing with cliques in school. Return to school, MYOB, "keep your eyes on the prize," and keep moving forward. I hope you can move past this and figure out a way to not react to things in an emotional way, or you're going to be doing a lot more crying once you've graduated and started working. Best wishes!
    It is true that seeking to be popular is not the main issue, but it sure is miserable when you think people don't like you.

    OP - It sounds like your Instructor meant well but did a poor job in communicating with you. Elkpark's answer is much kinder.

    As others have suggested, just stop answering questions, let others do the answering.

    If you have questions, ask some. TraumaRus wanted to get home, so do others in your group, I imagine, but you have a legitimate right to ask questions. Just don't always ask all of them in class, don't ask all the time. Realize that most people must really hate school or have other places to be. Or they mistakenly think you are showing off or something negative.

    It's a rough world. But the sooner you realize that others have a problem with you, the sooner you deal with that, the better. Although it is also true that you just can't please everyone.


    Just chill a little. Continue not to gossip. Continue to be yourself, just less so, LOL. Good luck.

    Oh, and I wouldn't be so quick to assume you will never see your soon-to-be former classmates. You never know. They could be your coworker or boss someday, or you theirs.

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    Quote from Ilovenursing3
    Thank you for your response. I feel bad I mentioned in my above post I thought someone would need more than three years expierience to train. I didn't mean it in a manner she doesn't know what she's doing. I could have elaborated on what is actually going on and maybe in my mind is was becoming beyond stressful. I think as a preceptor she should let me know when something changes with a patient and also to help when a patient's bed alarm goes off. A prime example of what I perceived as being team players-I was in the med room looking at which meds were due next. My preceptor was sitting at the nurses station with the nurses aide "who will run circles around me" (her words) A patient's bed alarm went off and I didn't see her or the aide(-not the one she pushed) run, so I ran. The keys to the med room were left on the med cart in the med room. Yup, it's my fault for leaving the keys in there and I take responsibility for that. But, I would have appreciated some type of thank you for caring about the patient vs. "you left the keys in the med room". (The aides always have an extra set) I do things all day long and I love it, but during report she will give say she did everything. Basically it looks like I did nothing all day. She withholds information about patient's that are important for me to know. I'm not sure if she does this intentionally, but it's getting old. I hope this doesn't come across as childish, as when she's giving off report and claiming she did everything all day, I just let it go. I always make sure if I'm not doing anything I ask anyone if they need help. Another prime example is since we are both taking care of the same patients together, if she does something for a patient I told her I don't want to take credit for someone else's work so she should document it. She will do something, not document it and it makes me look like it wasn't done. She will say "well this is late". It's so bizarre to me and maybe it's not even possible someone could be that manipulative.

    I'm sure it sounds petty, but I was sooo excited to go to work and work with patients and I still am. I noticed this was getting the best of me.

    So, yes you are very correct and I do need to re-focus. Your feedback was exactly what I needed to hear. I'm sure I am the most frustrating person to train as I am new and I ask a ton of questions. I am a what if type of person. I finally give insulin with confidence. I give it, then check on the patient to make sure they are okay. I look back to a week and half ago thinking I was being ridiculous worrying about insulin.
    Never become complacent about insulin or any other meds. Confident yes, complacent NO. It is good to re-check patients.

    Ask your questions. Talk out the "what if" scenarios. You are there to learn. Your preceptor might not know the answers, try not to embarrass her, but do get the info you need. Although it might be better to look it up, ask someone else, or ask later.

    Stop self-flagellating. you are not the "most frustrating" person. Maybe she's just not a great teacher. And 3 years is something, but she is still fairly new.

    Find some way to either not worry about not getting credit when she is giving report or speak up and say "I flushed the tube" or whatever it is.

    This will end soon, I hope. Your training, I mean.

    What kind of info is she withholding? Examples? Call her on it, nicely, but let her know you are hip to what she seems to be doing and that you need to know all info about your patients. You can ask her throughout the day about things, too. "Any new orders?" "

    Keep hold of those med room/cart keys. Period. Why do aides have keys to these areas/items?

    It is not your job to run breakneck to check an alarm when 2 people are "just sitting" at the desk, especially the aide.

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    Lilia777 and psu_213 like this.

    Get checked for sleep apnea. Pregnant?

    Did your doc do labs of any kind? Call her back and get her to look deeper into your situation. Tell her you are worried and would like her to re-think the issue. Get another doctor.

    I know others have asked, but what is your diet like?

    On any meds that might cause this?

    Videotape yourself sleeping and see what you are really doing?

    Do you sleepwalk?

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    What do you know about the ketogenic way of eating?

    Have you ever done it? Why or why not?

    What was your experience with it? Pros and cons?

    Are you an exerciser? How much and how often, what type? Did this eating program help or hinder or not effect you one way or the other?

    I think it's basically the Atkins' plan - very low carbohydrates, significantly higher fat intake (from dairy, from olive oil, from avocado and coconut, the skin on fish), moderate protein intake (from fish, nuts), lots of leafy greens and cruciferous vegetables.

    Thanks for your input.

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    Quote from nightlightnurseaide
    Didn't read the entire story, but stopped at the start to say thank you for getting that bed alarm. In my the nursing home I work in I can be in the room with a patient and momentarily stop everything I'm doing to get a bed alarm, because my nurses refuse to get up and make sure the patient don't fall
    What are they doing instead of getting to the patient?

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    AnnieNP likes this.

    If she is literally pushing the aide, that is more than bullying. That is battery.

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    Quote from KatieMI
    Who or what prevents every rehab RN to do a med check on her patients every week or so and then call the provider BEFORE scripts expire? I thought it is one of their job responsibilities - at least, I did it when I was there. They definitely do not hesitate to call at any time of day and night for "something for (insert any symptom you can think of)", so I do not see any problem except lack of organization and time (yes, this order, not opposite).

    I started to tell patients that those maddening 30 days limit scripts were created by some guys up there on Capitol Hill who never in their lives hold up anything heavier than a silver spoon, so if they want to change this and any other laws, it is their homework to meet their reps and let them know that there's job to be done or there'll be time to pack bags and go home rather soon.
    I understand your frustration, but do not believe legislators never experience hard work or pain. They just have excellent access to the best care.

    I agree that we all need to be in contact with our lawmakers to let them know the experiences of the common people.

    And I learned long ago why some nurses always got their breaks and went home on time. They never picked up a phone to get orders for things like a cough, constipation, pain, diet changes, and the like. Smart doctors order these things rather routinely and regularly, some just don't seem to bother.

    They had time to make themselves beloved of their patients and their patients' visitors, accept tips and gifts, exchange phone numbers, attend their weddings and bar mitzvahs, because they were only half doing their actual work, while fools like me were calling doctors for needed orders, reporting various pressing issues, etc.

    Oh, yeah.

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    Kitiger likes this.

    Quote from Here.I.Stand
    Working in rehab, few things were as irritating as coming in Saturday a.m., and having no meds. I had so much more to do with my time than 1) convincing an on-call NP who has no idea who the pt is to write a new Rx, 2) wait for the off-site pharmacy to deliver it, and 3) explain to the pt that they will have to wait hours for pain relief.

    ...when all the Friday day RN had to do was remind the pt's primary MD/NP that the Rx was running out over the upcoming weekend. (who, to be clear, was in the building rounding on Friday.)
    Bless you for taking care of it. That is a sign of really sub-par care (letting pts run out of necessary meds). I think CMS and JCAHO should be notified. Anonymously, if you prefer.

    Have you considered reporting the situation to Management and talking to the docs, who should keep some track of when refills are needed, seems to me.

    It really should all be reordered on Wednesday so it will actually arrive before the weekend. It should just be a routine part of the job.

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    Quote from hherrn
    Short answer: No.

    What field of nursing are you in?
    LTC now and am partly retired.

    Have done several different areas over the last 40+ years.

    My current concern is because of a neighbor who had a horrible car accident, was severely injured (multiple fractures, ORIF bilat ankles, pre-existing arthritis, multiple deep lacerations that are still not healed after several months). The doc at the "rehab" center was giving only Percocet 10 mg. pre-PT and 5 mg q 8 hours for breakthrough.

    Neighbor is home now, her Pain Mgmt doc has her on MSO4 10 mg po q 12. She has much better pain relief now. Amazing what more appropriate prescribing can do for a person, isn't it?

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    We had the most wonderful teacher of A & P back in the Dark Ages ('70's). He was an MD. He was so knowledgeable, also friendly enough.
    I learned to write really, really fast. Yes, I could have recorded the lectures, but found that writing helped me learn better by involving me more in the whole process. And I could review my written notes.

    Sounds like OP's teacher is knowledgeable, just not personable and friendly.

    OP, start reading the medical dictionary cover to cover. And look up medical terminology, also symbols and abbreviations. You will not regret learning basic things, such as:

    itis = inflammation
    osis = the condition of _________
    a, an = without or the absence of __________
    cephalic = relates to the head
    caudal = relates to the lower part of the body, not the head
    medical asepsis vs. surgical asepsis (look up sepsis and remember that the a before it means "without" or "the absence of"
    Orthopedics = to straighten the child
    anatomical position

    These are just some random examples that came quickly to mind.

    OP, what program do you want to enter?

    Best wishes. Study a lot.

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    Quote from alwayslookingnp
    I have seen more nurses lose their jobs over schedule conflicts than anything else. You want to go to church, the other wants to be with her family, that one has small children. The list goes on and on. Scheduling is not easy. You cannot make everyone happy. I am an experienced NP and I can tell you no one ever made concessions for me because i had small children, had no babysitter, kids had an event at school or church, and on and on and on. The ones who whine and beg and demand annoy everyone, whether they will tell you so or not. If they give in and give you extra days, your manager and coworkers will be annoyed. Little things become big things and before long, you are ostracized and run off. I would strongly encourage you to take the schedule you are given and not complain. You knew what nursing was when you get into it.
    I can honestly say I didn't fully understand what Nursing involved re: schedule before I got into it. I didn't know any nurses and no one prepared me for having to work holidays, weekends, etc.

    One of the best scheduling techniques I know of is for staff to schedule themselves. If there are any gaps or too many people want to work or be off on any given day or shift, Management has the final word.

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    Quote from vetpharmtech
    Sometimes I am upset that I cannot get the days I want to be off. However, my parents remind me that the world does not revolve around me. They are a lot more religious than I am.

    I will give you one example. After a person passes away, it is believed by some Buddhists that his soul will linger for 49 days before it proceeds to his way to reincarnation. Therefore, on day 49, it is STRONGLY advised that family and friends come to a Buddhist temple to pray for his soul and to say goodbye.

    When my aunt's husband passed away, my mother took a day off to attend his 49th-day ceremony. She asked her boss in advance to have that day off. Her boss reluctantly let my mom off that day, but she was not happy about it because it was predicted that her off day would be a crazy day for the shop. My mom did not receive any discipline after that incident, but she got her boss' cold look for 2 weeks. Occasionally my mom got sarcastic statements from her boss, but she didn't complain. She said to me "My family's problem should not be a burden on my boss' shoulders. This is not like someone in the family is sick or have an accident. I wanted to attend my brother-in-law's ceremony because his soul would not be around anymore. I needed to say goodbye to him. I brought this problem on myself. I cannot blame my boss for that."

    I myself sometimes was asked to work on Thanksgiving. I didn't like it, but then I thought that I was not the only one who had family waiting for me at the dinner. I requested the specific time to leave so that

    When I sign a contract with my employer, I have to keep reminding myself that family time and religious observance should not be an excuse not to work on certain days. Whatever happens with my spiritual practice is not my employer's problem. My need is sometimes accommodated and sometimes not, but I won't lose my sleep over that.
    I think it is often better just to call off sick than ask permission to be off. It's often easier to get forgiveness than it is to get permission, as the saying goes. Of course, this must be kept to a real minimum - once or twice per year or so.

    You might have signed a contract , but that doesn't mean you will never need time off for family events or religious observation. Again, these have to be kept to a true minimum.

    One thing to keep in mind - the employer will likely be there long after you and I are 6 feet under.

    I hope your Mom is OK, not feeling guilty.

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    Quote from bryanleo9
    I believe corrections experience closes more doors than it opens. Hospitals don't want you and you tend to just get stuck. Long term care is always an option, but that is not for everyone.

    You are right corrections, even though we deal with drug overdoses and stabbings etc. does not count as acute care for Schools or getting hospital jobs.

    Public Health, Juvenile Hall, Management RN in Corrections, Clinic Nurse (specializing in Peds, OB, High Risk OB, TB nurse, maybe County Hospital RN. Sometimes jails and prisons have hospitals/infirmaries (deal with Ortho, Infectious Disease, Drug Withdrawal, Psych, DM, cardiac, post-op (abortions, appy's , etc.), trauma during arrest - dog bites, shooting, Taser usage, Mace, Tear Gas, and Pepper Spray, etc.

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    mc-escher likes this.

    I'd fight for that bonus.
    Read the contract you signed when you hired on and see what it says about that bonus,
    what obligations and conditions you have to meet.

    Stay if the new unit is OK/better for your leg.

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    Quote from Have Nurse
    Thank you for your kindness. Yes, it was so long ago, but once in while she still pops into my head. I take comfort that she is in Heaven. Thank you.
    I still think of some of my patients. I probably always will. You did what you could, Have Nurse. I am glad you take comfort in knowing that that precious wee one is with God in the most beautiful place imaginable.

    Thank you for serving and God bless you.


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