married to MD

johny1 · May 18, 2010

Dude, google 'hypergamy'.

onthefence · May 18, 2010

well right now we are of very similar socioeconomic background. But she wants to go into doctoring.

We have been married a while already.

So technically, no.

Argo · May 18, 2010

Sounds nice.

onthefence · May 18, 2010

Thanks for the vote of confidence. It is nice, but thats because I like my wife, not because she is going to MD.

johny1 · May 19, 2010

You seem a tad defensive in your reply to Argo, he just said "that's nice" is all.

Look man, you came here because you obviously have reservations about putting your wife (partially) through Med school and the consequences after the fact.

The reason why little replies have been had here is because there are few female Drs Married to male nurses. Now that could be because there are few male nurses, or that could be because most female doctors are more drawn to men of equal or higher status than them.

It's not to say that your plan of you being a nurse and your wife being a doctor won't work, you both may live happily ever after. But keep in mind that women have a hyergamous nature, just as man's primal nature is polygamous. Yet as humans we have intellect and rational thought that can override our base drives.

Just take into consideration how the dynamics in your marriage might change after your wife graduates.

Argo · May 19, 2010

I mean it, that is nice.... sounds nice too. I love my wife, been married 10 years and if she wanted to go to med school I would put it through. It would not change how I felt for her. If she left me for some stud then so be it.... I would not hold her back though either from med school or her stud..... thats just me....

My uncle was a paramedic, married a much younger woman, 18 years younger. They had 3 kids and he put her through medical school. She is a big wig at one of the local major hospital systems and he now teaches at a local christian school where their kids went to school at. They have been married for 30 years or so.... I feel you will make them resent you more for holding them back than letting them progress in life....

Also, I dont take anything personal on message boards, I have been posting on them for 15 years or so....

Isitpossible, LPN, LVN · May 20, 2010

no experience whatsoever...but i thinks it wonderful that your supportive of your wife and her dreams...how cool is that, you'll be a nurse, she a doctor..you will both learn from each other professionally, and develop a a healthy respect for one anothers struggles and trials..good luck to you both!

onthefence · May 21, 2010

i cannot believe i am the first one to ever try this idea.

the truth is that i would never have even thought of nursing, except that the wife volunteers in the hospital and she had great stories about the cool er nurses and the patient care there. honestly i am coming from another even more competitive field and nursing is a good practical job. it is also one i can see myself getting up in the morning or late afternoon for, as opposed to other things like law which would be more natural possibilities for someone with the degrees i possess. i do not think that means that she is somehow marrying down. but yeah, it could be a weird dynamic when she finally gets her md in a decade or so.

Screen name · May 25, 2010

Just keep going and become a Dr. Nurse. There... both are now "doctors". You can be referred to as "Dr. Onthefence" as much as "Mrs. Doctor Onthefence". Now, go be fruitful and multiply... (after med school is done).

Mike A. Fungin RN · May 25, 2010

It's not unheard of. One of the guys I work with is engaged to an MD

onthefence · May 25, 2010

Thanks very much, that is encouraging to hear.