Published Dec 24, 2004
qje999
26 Posts
Hi I am a lpn working at this hosp and having a hard time with my head nurse. she does not like me, as i am outspoken, etc and i believe she is also prejudice, in my opinion. She picks at me alot and makes it where i cant come to work. management backs her up, as the chief likes her.I have missed alot of time from work cause of illness , and she is trying to change my shift, saying my missing time impacks on the shift im on. She plays favorites all the time, and my shift doesn't even get recognized. I am so sick of this place. I have been here 19 years. I want to do something else but dont know what, as i am 59 yr s old. Do people hire people at this age? Im feeling very discouraged and feel like i wasted my life being a nurse. Nurses get mistreated so bad, especially if your a lpn.This place really dislikes lpn's, but has to have some . If they had a choice the lpn's would go.The only ones that would stay are the ones that kiss ----. and there are plenty of those.
PennyLane, RN
1,193 Posts
Welcome to Allnurses. I'm so sorry you're having trouble at your job. I don't have any words of advice, but I'm sure that the patients you've cared for over the past 19 years wouldn't say you've wasted your life as a nurse. I hope you can either resolve the situation or find a better place to work.
sassynurse78
153 Posts
I try to remember that I am there to work, not to make friends, I got plenty of those! I work in LTC and we have several nurses over the age of 59, even recent hires. They are not judged by their age and usually do just fine.
LPN1974, LPN
879 Posts
I'm late seeing your post, but just now read it. My heart goes out to you.
I have had some of the same situation at my job, and a friend who works with me has had it even worse.
I can't begin to tell you all the heartache and mistreatment she or I have been thru.
My DON used to be the boss from hell, but she has lightened up considerably over the years. I've worked under her about 22 or 23 years, my friend has been under her about 18 years.
I was determined not to let this DON beat me down, I'm on a state job with a state retirment and I wanted that retirement.
My friend's mistreatment was soooo bad she had to just finally turn it over to God. She quit worrying about it, fighting with her, just ignoring things she did to her, and just let God have the burden. He is bigger than anything a DON can dish out and He can handle it.
I hope things get better for you,
you are in my prayers.
I know how you feel...I've been there and still am to some extent.
akcarmean, LPN
1,554 Posts
I am sorry I don't have any advice but want to wish you the best of luck and hope that things do change.
Angie
SophieMae
41 Posts
Your strengths could be her insecurities.
happthearts
192 Posts
I am older at my job and outspoken as well ,what I have learned is some times just keep my trap shut on the small stuff and let them have there way on stuff that really doesn't matter .Now on the big stuff. I try to put myself in there shoes and think before I speak Then voice my thoughts gentle like.In other words think before you jump right in.
This was not to be attacking just telling you what I do.
stears58
5 Posts
You've been there 19 years with the same head nurse and she still doesn't like you? I would say that it was her problem-not yours!
As long as you are doing your best and the patients are getting the best care you can give-forget about her!
FutureNrse
138 Posts
I may not know anything about nursing, but I know about the job market in general and I'd say that your age should have no bearing on you finding a new job. If you are that unhappy in your current job, what do you have to lose by finding a new one?
I'm late seeing your post, but just now read it. My heart goes out to you. I have had some of the same situation at my job, and a friend who works with me has had it even worse. I can't begin to tell you all the heartache and mistreatment she or I have been thru. My DON used to be the boss from hell, but she has lightened up considerably over the years. I've worked under her about 22 or 23 years, my friend has been under her about 18 years. I was determined not to let this DON beat me down, I'm on a state job with a state retirment and I wanted that retirement. My friend's mistreatment was soooo bad she had to just finally turn it over to God. She quit worrying about it, fighting with her, just ignoring things she did to her, and just let God have the burden. He is bigger than anything a DON can dish out and He can handle it. I hope things get better for you, you are in my prayers. I know how you feel...I've been there and still am to some extent.
You areso right God is in charge.
gwenith, BSN, RN
3,755 Posts
Your choice comes down to A) put up with it B) Change it or C) get out. But there is nothing wrong with you hunting around to see what is available - sometimes even just doing that and knowing it is an option helps.