Why cant people be happy for you!

[cantwait01]

hello everyone! i recently got accepted into a lpn at a private school.. i have been wanting this for so long, and was willing to anything to get it. i knew that i would have to sacrafice a lot to get it. now i am the type of person when i say i am going to do something. i am going to do by all mean. well as soon as i found out that i was accepted. i called my close friends and family. when i told them there response was ummm.... well let me call you back no congratulations, or im happy for you, or nothing. now all the way leading up to me taking the test to get into the school. everyone was calling me to see if i passed the test. but as soon as i called them with the good news. no one wanted to hear it. why is it that people cant be happy for you. why is it when things are going bad in your life you hear from them everyday, but as soon as something good happens they rarely hear from them? should i say something to them about how i feel, straight call them out? or should i keep things to myself? i am so supportive of people when they are pursuing their goal, because i know what i am capable of. now i am wondering should i even mention my progress in the program to them. i dont need negativity while i am in this program, but everyone needs support on time or rather.

[CT Pixie, BSN, RN]

Well for what its worth..I am happy for you. And best of luck in school. :)

[pagandeva2000, LPN]

Congratulations! We're happy for you. It could be that people are envious that you are actually taking steps to change your circumstances. It is easy to complain, but hard to take action.

I wouldn't say anything to them just yet. You never know what their personal circumstances are. It may be a strange coincidence that bad things were happening in all their lives at that moment and could not respond the way you expected, or it can be what you suspect, just enviousness.

I think you need to play it by ear whether you want to include anyone in the entire nursing school experience or not. There will be ALOT of highs and lows in nursing school...times you will do great on tests, other times, do less than expected during clinical or performing skills, a professor or two that really irk your nerves, etc... You may find that you need a great deal of positive reinforcement. And, it is difficult for people who have not been in your shoes. Nursing school is a unique experience. You may find that you bond a bit closer to a few classmates or former students because they know what you are going through. And, sometimes, it may take too much energy to have to explain the entire dynamic just to make sense to outsiders. So, if you believe that some of these people will not provide the positive reinforcement you need, you may have to cast them to the side for the time being while you do what you must to complete this course and pass NCLEX. Best of luck to you!

[cantwait01]

@ pagandeva2000 and CT Pixie thank you guys for your kind words. I am so glad that i have this site to recieve positive encouragement from.

[smclendon]

I am also happy for you! :) Sometimes we have to be our own cheerleaders because there are people in our lives that want to see us fail or maybe are just so wrapped up in their own lives that they can't take two seconds of their time to concentrate on anyone else. That is why this forum exists! We are support for each other. So we are all rooting for you!

[glamorousgirl07]

Congrats !!! Good LUCK !! :clpty:

[Roxyann57]

I think you will get this feedback all through out schooling. Everyone was proud for me at first, but now whenever I talk about anything school related (clinicals, passing tests) I just get the ok and change of subject. I don't think anyone realizes how great of a career this is until they actually go into it. Good luck and congrats!

[nursejackie2010]

Congrats!!!!!!!:balloons:

[DaddysLilRN2b]

Congratulations. Wishing you the best of luck in your endeavors.

As for family and friends not being happy for you, I would say that maybe they are somewhat envious of you. Maybe they see in you something that they dont see in themselves. And thats not necessarily a bad thing. Continue and be the best student that you can be. Pass your boards and then be the best nurse that you can be. Its quite possible that their envy could one day turn into admiration and possibly motivation for them to pursue their dreams.

Always exude an attitude of "If I can do it, anyone can." Not one of "Look at me and look at you." Be humble. As for family, we cant choose them so we tolerate them as much as possible. But we do choose our friends and I would never want to be friends with someone who could not be happy for me.