Looking for some advice- Mom verbally abusive/new grad not being able to find a job

[crazyscrubs]

I'll try to keep this as short as possible (but I think it will be hard)

I just turned 24. Right after highschool I went into a BScN program (entrance scholarship) at a top university. 3 years into the program things at home got really rocky. My mom was pretty much a bully and her boyfriend was a disgusting pig. My mind was anywhere but school. (While I liked nursing, it was more my mom's decision (since I guess to her I would most likely find a job "easily" and be out of her hair...)

I've always been a top student but during about 3rd year my grades started slipping. I was just not focused on school... I felt like I was living in a constant hell- going home to a mom who has been the meanest person I have ever encountered. I know you are responsible for your own grades and etc and you really shouldn't put blame on other's but I mean no one really has any idea what she would say. There I was at a top university and she would STILL continue (24/7) to call me every name under the sun, she would even let her boyfriend do so.

So, my grades slipped pretty bad. I took a year off. Seriously the worst year of my life. I worked a couple dead end jobs and as time went on my mom only got worse.

During that year I applied to get back into my program... I was then put on a waiting list- I kept calling, praying and calling and I didn't hear anything back.

The academic advisor suggested me to fast track through the 2 year RPN (sort of like a LPN) program......

And my mom went seriously. I honestly believe there are no devils in hell, they are all here.

So, I take this program and I graduated and passed the registration exam. I have been applying for jobs for about 3+ months and haven't hardly heard anything back. I live at home currently and not a day goes by that mom doesn't remind me of what happened. She calls me a retard, a fck up every single day. She compares me to everyone.

I KNOW all of this... does she think I don't think about it!

Everytime I even long on to Facebook I see all my friends from school who are now RNs with really amazing jobs... and here I am unemployed and hearing this on the daily from my mother.

Btw, I have recently lost my grandparents. I'm an only child... My mom is really the only "family" I have.

I am dealing with the stresses of praying and waiting for a job to pop up while hearing this negativity from my mom.

How do I deal with this?

It's making me literally insane.

ps. I want to eventually finish my BScN... I just really need to work and somehow move on with my life.

[Jules A, MSN]

Have you considered joining the Military??

OMG no. No disrespect to the OP but someone at 24 who is still living at home in what sounds like an abusive relationship is really not what I would think would be a healthy candidate for joining the military with all the stress and trauma that can happen there. Not that at some point she wouldn't be suitable but please allow her to stabilize herself first. Just my

[carolmaccas66, BSN, RN]

I had issues staying with my Mum when I was studying, but couldn't afford to move. My Mum is bipolar and very, very difficult to live with. And unless people have lived with a relative who is mentally ill (or nuts), you DO NOT know what you're talking about.

Find a share place on a good website, a safe place with another girl. And work in any job you can get. Go thru nursing agencies - and other employment agencies - and apply for any and every job, just to get out of there and get settled first off. Then you can hoepfully feel safe and save a little money, and actually have a life.

I feel for you, I do. I get the feeling u aren't safe, your Mum is a bully and I don't like Mums with 'boyfriends', cos they always put them first. Most children I've seen who were abused, were done so by the bf whilst Mum just stood back and let it happen. That is what is happening to you. Otherwise, ring family services and tell them you desperately need accommodation as you fear for ur life.

Good luck I hope it all works out. Let us know what happens.